May Babies... part 2!

[GeorginaA]

... just because we can't stop yammering on

Decided the troubles with DD feeding stem from her being too hot during daytime feeds so am going to try to remedy this and see if it helps things.

But you know spots I had a steam steriliser with DS and didn't like it - get on much better with microwave one this time. But am only sterilising one bottle a day just now.

what problem bozza? night time sleep? might have missed one of your posts.

well, stayed at dh's dad's last night and dd was not happy going to bed, neither was she tonight. she went at 8.30, woke at 9.30, 11.15, every couple of hours through the night and i feel whacked. then tonight she has taken over an hour to go to sleep. she hasnt been like this for weeks. decided going away is not a good idea - at least to someone with no blackout blinds!

then another problem is - she hates dh's mum.. just been here and she SCREAMS to the point of not being able to catch her breath and tears run right down her face. i don't know what to do. am scared to leave her with her and she's supposed to babysit in 10 days. i had to take her off her, without seeming like a fussy mother. but she was breaking my heart. never seen her cry like that at all. she was fine after a minute with me. but later when mil took her again, she was the same. she just couldn't console her in any way. even doing the things i do and holding her the way i do. what do i do? it's really really bothering me. mil kept saying 'what's wrong? don't you like me?' and looked really hurt and embarrased. i want her to be able to look after her - basically because she is so desperate to, but i'm scared i won't be able to leave her. it makes me sick just thinking about it.

oh dear Egypt... now you have got me feeling sorry for your MIL after thinking she was a bit of a ninny lastweek...

We were at my mum's last night (bit of a family old time us maybabies are having eh?) and DD also took the whole thing very badly. Too many faces. Everyone did that thing of wanting to smuggle her away and be The One to cheer her up but all she wanted was.... A Feed. Her best security blanket ever. Sucked her way into oblivion, and proceeded to have a v. unsettled night not unlike yours Egypt.

Is Georgina on holiday?? quite quiet at her end...

We finally have jabs tomorrow. Did anyone's babies actually have any feverishness or anything afterwards?

LOL... am I really that noisy normally? (don't answer that )

Not much to report here to be honest. Ds2 is doing fantastically, apart from a little unsettledness today (we went to a party of a friend of ds1's during the LTN - normally he would sleep in the carseat but he didn't today ). I have a feeling he may be teething as he's been gnawing down on my knuckles where he'd normally just have a little suck. He's started to get happier for short periods on his tummy if I raise him up on a cushion and he LOVES being pulled upright into a sitting position (I hold his hands and he has a good nosey round!)

I'm in "life project" sort of mode at the moment and am trying to redecorate the bathroom, sort out our diets so we eat more healthily while still being stuff we like, doing some clearing out of cupboards, trying to make lists of holiday activities to do with ds1. Trying to make the most of my efficiency kick before I slump back into my usual apathy

Hope youve all had a good weekend.
Weve had a few unsettled nights. Friday night DD went to bed at 9 slept until 1 and then procedded to wake up every hour until 6ish. I even tried feeding every time she woke encase it was a growth spurt or something but she didnt want it.

Spent all saturday yawning and had arranged to go out saturday night so we spent the evening looking like zombies.

Now I know im a bit slow off the mark but I decided to get of my bum and look into all this stuff about the vaccinations. So im now going to put together a letter to my GP requesting that the rest of dd's vaccination course is done with infanrix, what do you reckon my chances to them saying yes are!!

Ive been getting DD to spend some tummy time and she seems to quite enjoy it(actually got some good piccies as well) have to choose a time when she isnt hungry or tired though.
I also have to be out of the room if Dp's doing anything with DD e.g bathing, changing her. He does it different to me and I have to stop myself from telling him how to do it. He has a habit of putting her on the bath float without holding her while he washes her and I just know that one day shes going to roll sideways. Yesterday I asked him to get me a dummy out of the steriliser, he went to put it into her mouth and I said dont because it will still be hot, he said 'oh thats ok ive run it under the cold tap to cool it down' HHMMMM There was logic there somewhere.. LOL.

Hey - we put DS in the door bouncer today and he did a few cautious little bounces on his tip toes! Big smiles all the while. I was very impressed - DD was rubbish at it until nearly 6 months (and she only managed it then because I put a hairy doormat under her feet ). She just used to dangle in it and veer over to one side so she could lick the strap!
Spots - we've had 2 lots of injections now and absolutely no reaction at all. I didn't have to give any Calpol and the little blighter didn't even get extra sleepy which was a shame, because I'd palmed off DD on a friend so that I could go round the shops afterwards with a snoozing baby !
All in all, its been a lovely weekend! Next Sunday we are off to sister in law's to have a family portrait done - BIL works in a photography studio and promises he can make us look like the family in those groovy-yet-wholesome black and white shots (I am hoping to be reclining against DH whilst tossing back sleek mane of hair, DH has arms lovingly around 2 kids who are neither crying, whingeing, sleeping, runny nosed). I think he's got his work cut out............

Kbaby my dh is exactly the same. I can't watch him making up the bottles because he does them in a different order from me. And I always find my self saying, don't burp her like that she prefers it this way. I now try to do other things if he's feeding dd2 so that I don't make comments. Plus if he's feeding her it gives me a chance to tidy up/empty washing machine/hang out washing, etc.

Spots is this your dd's first set of jabs? My d2 didn't have any problems with her first lot she got the dtap, hib and polio on the first day. She was fine afterwards. She got the MenC 2 weeks later and had a little bit of a red bump over the next day or two but was generally fine in herself. I think most babies are ok but they have to tell you to watch out for fevers just in case. You'll both be fine

Oh Egypt I feel so sorry for you're mother in law and dd of course, it is so heartbreaking when they cry like that. Dd2 used to scream every time my granny held her and my cousins son was the same with his granny. Can your Mil spend a little bit of time every other day or something with your dd between now and when you're going out just so they can get a bit more used to each other? With you there as well of course.

Are babies supposed to spend time on their tummies? I never put dd2 on her tummy and I don't remember doing that with dd1 either, mind you was a long time ago so I might have.
Dd2 likes to lie on her mat and swing her legs over as if she's going to try and roll over but then doesn't realise that she's got to move her top half as well, lol So she just spends a lot of time swinging her legs from side to side, lol I think though once she does master rolling over and then figures out how to move we're going to hve to keep a very close eye on her, she's very wriggly at the moment as it is and that's before she's figured out how to move on her own. Ah Fun and Games to look forward to.

morning all.

yes,i too have to be out of the room when dh is bathing dd. she's in a tummy tub, and he lets her head bash against the side without realising sometimes. poor thing feels useless i expect as i keep giving him little hints and he replies 'go on, show me how you do it then'. bless. then ends up leaving it to me and walking away. must try and stop.

as for mil. she lives 45 mins away and works every day, except w/e's so it won't be possible for her to see her really. unless i take her there for when she finishes work, but thats a lot of driving. dh doesnt seem bothered. he says 'oh, she'll be alright'. why doesnt he feel like me? prob cos it's his mum. i really dread going out and leaving her. and to think this woman wants her for the weekend!!!! NAW, I THINK NOT.

have friends coming to stay tonight who have a 2 year old. havent seen them since last summer. they are the perfect model parents and she is the perfect model child. routines down to a T, behaviour spot on......going to see if i can find fault today! shall prob feel like the most useless parent in the world if dd is having an off day.

dd was very grumpy after her jabs. going to give her calpol beforehand next time. she was quite inconsolable really, didnt sleep any more than normal either, which was a shame and didnt have a very good night. hopefully shall be better next time. got until 2 sept yet.

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thats good to know twiglett! in fact she is soooo perfect, dad doesnt want any more children - "why fix it when it's not broken" were his words!! mum desperately wants another. oh dear - i fear troubles ahead. and indeed if they did have another, which i think would be good for the child, she'd not know what the hell hit her. mum AND dad bath her, read bedtime story, put her to bed.....oh my life. and it runs like clockwork wherever they go. eg - last year when they came to stay:

(him looking through tv mag):hmmmm not much on tonight
me: it's half past 7, corrie on in a bit
him: no. quiet story time.
me: oh ..right
(me leaves the room and makes myself busy in the garden so can have 'quiet story time' in my lounge with tv OFF

grrrrr

Twiglett you could be describing my ds1 with that!

Egypt - look on the bright side - it's easier to deal with "perfect child" as a visitor... far worse to have a "child from hell" visiting

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dont know what happened to us last night but can it happen again tonight. fed dd at 10.30 and she slept solidly until 4.30 and then again until 6.30.. wayyyhayyy. Now these are the things I did differently last night.

1. put her in the cot as shes too big for moses basket
2. put her in a grow bag instead of swaddling(trying to wean her off swaddling as fed up of having to get up to reswaddle)
3. put fan on in her room as it was warm(not directly on her)

So either one of these worked or it was sheer fluke and isnt likley to ever happen again. Although ill be doing them again tonight just encase.
The 4.30 waking was my fault as I woke and panicked at the time and rushed into her room, proddeed her a bit to make sure she was ok and stuck my hands down her vest to make sure she wasnt too cold and then proceeded to spend 15 minutes moving the fan about her room encase she was cold and thats why she hadnt woken(thinking that when hyperthermia sets in you get sleepy) I have no idea why but she woke up
The fan eventually ended up on the landing so that she could still hear it, just encase it was the noise that helped her sleep but not near enough to make her any colder,
Strange what things run through your mind at night.

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egypt hope your day went ok.

last night i was sat in the dark winding dd and had her head on my shoulder and my cheek next to hers with my nose in her neck and it was bliss. i could smell her baby smell and hear her little sleepy snuffly sounds. i wish i could bottle that feeling.
it makes it all worth it

god im hormonal

We've been doing the family visit thing this weekend too. My sister's DD is a model baby too - nothing like watching an uber routine in action to make you feel like you're getting it all wrong!

DS still won't take the bottle (I saw the other thread Twiglett and GeorginaA) so will have to keep trying with it I guess, I don't mind feeding to be honest but I need to be going back to work . I guess I need to working on my sleep routines too.

I am currently waiting for DP to stop watching cricket so we can go to Tescos - who would've imagined life could be so exciting? Blimey, he's moving! this is major . . . .

kbaby, i was just wondering about putting dd in a grobag last night as i too am sick of swdling. she's also started sucking her fingers more and the thumb is almost in! last night i didnt dress her in a bodysuit and just swaddled. 2 mins later she was out of the damn thing, loving sucking her fingers - so loudly the monitor was reaching red . she would've fallen asleep im sure but i thought, 'oh no, now her shoulders are going to get cold, so i put a body on and wrapped her up. oh dear, not happy. she also has the fan on and i swear this helps. its a loud one and does drown out our noises. like dh's step dad, walking thru the front door (close to her room) at 8.30pm and shoutingg HIYA, WHERE'S TROUBLE? IS SHE ASLEEP? WHAT'S SHE DOING IN BED......LA LA LA" grr

congrats kb by the way. you beat our best stretch of 7 hours.

sod, dd has just sicked a lot, and it stinks as is a good hour after feed. i put her the prettiest dress on too, to impress our visitors

Egypt - did nobody tell you that rule of parenting? babies are allergic to pretty clothes - they always make them throw up.
And as the mother of a dd who everyone tells me is perfect - she's not. She does behave perfectly when out as she loves new things and getting lots of attention from everybody. But when it's just me at home, and she has to wait for things if I'm busy, or if I try to stop her doing something (like footpainting on the kitchen floor rather than outside) she turns into monster toddler from hell

Congratulations kbaby, hope it continues (well not the 4.30am panic and waking)

Oh, and does your MIL smell? Not horrid obv, but if she wears a perfume dd doesn't like that may be what she is reacting to. Try getting yoru MIL to wear the same as you.

Egypt, I think this will be the first episode of a new sitcom. Maybe the Terry and June theme tune could accompany your normal and lovely baby dd going out of her way to appear revolting and bumptious in front of your perfect visitors.

Georgina your ds and my dd are doing same funny things..I love the 'up-up-up' game and so does she. She 'asks' to do it, lifting her head up from the mat when lying on her back like a fish out of water. Such a strain for her to do that that her eyes pop with the effort. But when sitting her back is quite straight.

These are our first jabs because the Infanrix had to be ordered in for us 'specially'. Just bought calpol in readiness, feeling doomy about it after all our research.

Libb how old is your sister's dd? Nice to have cousins close in age. I am trying to egg my sister on to have a cousin for this one, esp. after seeing how incredibly soppy she is about DD. unconditional love a go go! She is in a girl girl relationship so more complicated to get one but they are v. keen.

Yuk doing the jabs was horrible. Wee soul had a huge yell on this evening as well which made me think she was feeling crap... she went to sleep still with little sobs catching in her throat.

Well DD went from 5 nights of waking 4 times between midnight and 6 to sleeping from 7.30 to 5.30. The difference was that she was in a sleepsuit rather than a vest. So maybe she was getting cold at night.

Had a panic moment today. Had some neighbours round (friend wth 3 yo DS and 6mth old DD, friend with husband (a teacher so on hol) and 1 yo DS). So we were in the lounge and DS and friend wanted to go play in his bedroom. Then some time later DD got tired so rocked her for a bit and then went and put her in the travel cot in her room and closed the door. All is fine until we heard her crying - went to see and DS was sitting in the travel cot and his friend was just climbing in! DS alone is well over the weight limit so lucky it didn't collapse and that neither of them landed on DD when climbing in.

Jabs - first lot DD had inflamed and swollen leg at site of men C and was very sleepy (but in a wanting to be held sleepy kind of way) all afternoon but fine by bedtime. Second lot - no effect.