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RozfromFraisier · 2017-09-15T19:13:21+00:00

DD is our second, we have a 3 year old who I absolutely adore with all my heart. I just feel very little towards her. Never have. I wasn't too worried in the early days/months, but am concerned now. It's going on a bit long, isn't it? What if I never love her very much? She's a nice kid, her Dad really enjoys her. She should have a Mum who enjoys her too. I can't admit this to a living soul.

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Raindropsandsunflowers · 09/03/2025 13:06

I just wanted to say thank you so much for this post and thread. I had a very similar situation where I just couldn’t feel anything for my DD and I got to a very low point where I wished I had never existed at all. My DD and my DH were so happy with each other and I felt like this black cloud hanging over everything. I managed to refer myself for CBT and then that gave me the confidence to also go to my GP and ask for antidepressants. My health visitor also referred me for some specialist counselling and I finally managed to have a birth review meeting with a midwife (it had been cancelled and never rebooked and I thought I was okay until I realised I wasn’t).

I don’t think I’d have gone to get help if it wasn’t for this thread. I thought there was something wrong with me and I was so upset that I couldn’t feel how I wanted to. I’m about 5 months into the antidepressants and things are starting to feel better. There are moments, becoming more frequent, where I feel that rush of love. Things that would have tipped me over the edge no longer do so. We respond to each other lots better now. My DD wants me and we laugh together and go on little adventures.

Thank you for helping me through 🥰

SealSong · 09/03/2025 22:35

Raindropsandsunflowers · 09/03/2025 13:06

I just wanted to say thank you so much for this post and thread. I had a very similar situation where I just couldn’t feel anything for my DD and I got to a very low point where I wished I had never existed at all. My DD and my DH were so happy with each other and I felt like this black cloud hanging over everything. I managed to refer myself for CBT and then that gave me the confidence to also go to my GP and ask for antidepressants. My health visitor also referred me for some specialist counselling and I finally managed to have a birth review meeting with a midwife (it had been cancelled and never rebooked and I thought I was okay until I realised I wasn’t).

I don’t think I’d have gone to get help if it wasn’t for this thread. I thought there was something wrong with me and I was so upset that I couldn’t feel how I wanted to. I’m about 5 months into the antidepressants and things are starting to feel better. There are moments, becoming more frequent, where I feel that rush of love. Things that would have tipped me over the edge no longer do so. We respond to each other lots better now. My DD wants me and we laugh together and go on little adventures.

Thank you for helping me through 🥰

Lovely to read your post and that things are getting better for you. Well done for seeking help. I wish you all the best for the future