Under the sea or clouds and rainbows???

[MummyMiddleton]

Or baby boy is due on November 10th. We have a room for him but we don't want to buy and furniture or decor until we know what theme we are choosing. We are stuck between under the sea and clouds and rainbows. Both are equally cute.
We would paint the walls dark turquoise/aqua for under the sea and pale blue for clouds and rainbows. My mum has an art degree and will be painting the decor on top of the base colour (sea creatures and plants or clouds connected by rainbows).

If you had to choose, what would you go for?

RiverTam

A child attention seeking shouldnt be punished, but it shouldnt be rewarded either. It should be treated with indifferance.

And I never meant a baby when I said that. As you said, babies cannot show good or bad behaviour. They are babies. I was reffering to older toddlers and kids

I wouldn't think about a routine until 6months at the absolute earliest. Its pointless doing it before then, also remember when baby is teething the routine will go out the window.

Forget the routine, concentrate on remembering to shower when baby is here.

Oh and if the baby DOES fall asleep in you, it will have no bearing on bonding with your partner. My baby used to fall asleep on his dad in the early weeks, certainly didn't stop him bonding with me.

Again, your choice of words is so cold. Indifference? You'd be indifference to a small child wanting your attention? Because wanting Mummy's attention is such a shocking thing for a 3 year old to need?

Everyone needs to settle in and adapt to having a baby around before any reigeme or parenting practices begin.

I think that's what most people are saying, however rather than following some prescribed regime you've seen from a so-called "expert" just let it happen a bit more organically and more based on the child you know and no one you've read about in a book. By all means attempt some sort of routine (I hear a certain person who shall not be named has a successful book alluding to routine, contented baby??). However recognise that it may not suit you or your baby. Believe me I never felt more like a failure than when my preconceived ideas felt apart, it was only my mum reminding me that babies have their own ideas and pointed out all 4 her children have been different that I realised I needed to be a bit more relaxed. Aim for the best, but recognise that it may not come to fruition. As long as he's secure, loved and safe he'll thrive.

Surely the baby will love more who it has the most contact with? It only makes sense. Now im confused

Also a huge separation anxiety kicks in around 6 months, I really would leave strict routines until well over a year personally.

You'll regret being strict later on. They aren't little for long.

Christ on a bike this thread has taken a dramatic turn while i went to a school meeting. I only came here in support of cute smiling clouds & paintings of Sebastian the crab!

Drama 😂 best comment I've read on here

You can enjoy them being little, but you also need to guide them to make them good people. And when they are little it is a crutial time for this.

If I was at the park and my child hurt another child I would nip it in the bud and give them a time out and make them apologize to the other child. Not just say "lol they are little roflmao"

Surely the baby will love more who it has the most contact with? It only makes sense. Now im confused

I spent all day with my child for 9 months until I returned to work. It's still his dad he gets excited about when he gets home. He's largely Indifferent towards me when I get home unless he wants a nap then only mummy will do. The bond is different for both of us.

Most of your built in moral principles are made before the age of 10

FormerlyFrikadela1

Thats the thing. We hope he will be the same with both of us. We are both going to try and spend equal time with him and give him the same attention and love.

How old are you?

26

Why?

Why?

It's nothing to do with a child not being told off when they're old enough to understand what they did.

It's about leaving a baby that needs attention to cry in a different room to its parents. It's damaging and won't create "the perfect child".

I just wondered, you sound like your not listening to any advice your being given and just keep coming out with what "experts" say.

Surely the baby will love more who it has the most contact with? It only makes sense. Now im confused

This has got to be a wind up

We already established that Daniel will now be in our room in a moses basket because of health and safety issues I previously wasnt aware of.
Also, if you read my previous comments, I made it very clear that we wont just leave him to cry

Thats the thing. We hope he will be the same with both of us. We are both going to try and spend equal time with him and give him the same attention and love.

He won't be the same. Because you are not the same. Babies know the difference. You and your dh could quite literally spend exactly the same amount of time, doing the exact same things and he'd still know the difference. Sometimes your child will favour your dh over you. It is not a reflection on anything you've done or on his love for you, he just wants dad instead of you.

You said you'd leave him to cry for 10 minutes before seeing him? That's too long for a baby.

I've just realised i didnt answer your original question, I'd do under the Sea. Lamaze do a really cute octopus toy, it smells amazing and each tentacle squeaks. It'd look really cute in an ocean themed room.

Yeah, thats good. I just hope he loves us both as much as we love him

Maybe 10 minutes is too harsh. How long should we leave him to see if he settles?

octopus toy

My dd had this when she was a baby, it's lovely and colourful so good for developing eyes. It's quite large but it'll look lovely in his room you have planned.