Under the sea or clouds and rainbows???

[MummyMiddleton]

Or baby boy is due on November 10th. We have a room for him but we don't want to buy and furniture or decor until we know what theme we are choosing. We are stuck between under the sea and clouds and rainbows. Both are equally cute.
We would paint the walls dark turquoise/aqua for under the sea and pale blue for clouds and rainbows. My mum has an art degree and will be painting the decor on top of the base colour (sea creatures and plants or clouds connected by rainbows).

If you had to choose, what would you go for?

OP, I think you're scared of having these nightmare children you've seen on supernanny and think that Jo frosts ideas will prevent your child being like that. What will actually prevent your child being like that is you learning with your child how to be the parent they need. Trust yourself and your DH that you can learn together how to parent as your child grows up. Take one day at a time and if problems arise then work out what's causing them at that point. I think your insistence on sticking to rigid ideas is out of fear and you need to put that aside and trust yourself that you and dh can do this. You've got some wonderful ideals that many parents don't in this world, you just need to trust yourself to have flexibility in how those ideals work out in real life. Keep on mumsnet, we'll be here to help when you're not quite sure what to do next (and that day will come sooner than I think you expect).

MrsJasmin

Thank you so much sweet x Lovely post xxx

I was against co-sleeping because I thought it was making a rod for my own back.

My DM advised strongly against it.

DH was strongly against it.

What happened? I got up multiple times in the night for 2 years until I said stop. DS1 needs me at night (health problems) and I am too bloody tired to keep doing this.

We've had various permutations of me, DH, DS1 and DS2 co-sleeping with different people, every one of them was what was needed at the time and what suited our family.

We were so sleep deprived we decided it was better for everyone to get a decent night sleep than to follow some western ideal of DC in their own beds alone and the parents sharing.

And yes, we tried many many sleep training techniques before that but this is what works for us.

This is absolutely a troll. I have read these exact same posts on another forum over a year ago.

Just piss off.

If I dont know you, you are just an epic kawaii unicorn
^brilliant I will now imagine all mumsnetters as epic Kawaii unicorns always.

medicalmumof4

Who would be so bored they have to go online and pretend to be an overly hormonal angsty pregnant woman on a forum? If they are then they need a hobby ffs

Puffpaw

Nothing wrong with that x

OP if you are thinking about routine and sleep, look up Elizabeth Pantley and her gentle sleep method. She is a psychologist and actually has children unlike Jo Frost.

We used it for DD as we also wanted a routine. It basically involves noting your baby's natural sleep patterns and then putting in place a routine that sort of formalises them. So, I started getting up on mat leave around 8am. I then noticed 8week old DD always got cranky around 10.15 or 10.30. So I started putting her down for a nap just after 10. Then she slept for a couple of hours and generally needed a feed and nap around 2pm. And so on. When I realised her natural patterns I started prompting her.

I also realised she happened to sleep really well in the buggy during walks and I was going mad in the house. So I would do a nap/walk every afternoon as her afternoon nap. Walked for about an hour in a park or the streets and may have endes up at a cafe quite often!

In this way she had quite predictable sleep patterns and still does aged 2y5m. She now has consolidated naps into one lunchtime nap and is just starting to not need a nap, but same basic principle.

Also bedtimes: I have had a firm consistent routine since she was about 5m old at bedtime. It works for us and she normally goes to sleep happily. Again Eliz Pantley is really good on how to set up a gentle structured routine.

Good luck!

Thanks x will look her up x :)

Hello everyone. This is Tacey here, or MummyMiddleton as you knew me before. It seems some of the meaner messages on this thread have been removed for whatever reason, but im happy that they are.

After I got a lot of flack on this thread I left Mumsnet for a few months because honestly I didn't want it to ruin the rest of my pregnancy and spoil the magical time.

I have decided to return with a new account as I made the password for the old one needlessly complicated and I have forgotten in with all the stuff going on in my life.

Daniel was born on November 8th of last year happy and healthy. He's absolutely wonderful and the cutest thing ever.

Went with the under the sea theme for the nursery but didn't do too many dark colours. A nice turquoise blue with some friendly faced cartoon sea animals dotted around. Octopus lamp shade on the main light looks awesome.

He is a good sleeper although he does sleep in our bed a lot of the time because, simply, we love having him there. It actually feels so nice to snuggle up with your baby next to you.

This is honestly the best thing to ever happen to us. :) I hope my experience on this website from now on can be a pleasant one

Congratulations Tracey. What a lovely update