Under the sea or clouds and rainbows???

[MummyMiddleton]

Or baby boy is due on November 10th. We have a room for him but we don't want to buy and furniture or decor until we know what theme we are choosing. We are stuck between under the sea and clouds and rainbows. Both are equally cute.
We would paint the walls dark turquoise/aqua for under the sea and pale blue for clouds and rainbows. My mum has an art degree and will be painting the decor on top of the base colour (sea creatures and plants or clouds connected by rainbows).

If you had to choose, what would you go for?

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Thanks x Definately buying it. Even if we go clouds and raimbows its still a cute toy x Love it

I'd leave a baby 2 minutes max to cry. Once they get older, you'll know a real upset cry, to a I'm bored cry. It just depends on which cry it is. But I never left dd to cry unless I genuinely had to do something like make a bottle up.

Ok x Thanks x

What age do they start doing an "im bored" cry. So we will know to look out for it so we know the differance. We would hate to leave him upset if he actually needed something or was genuinely distressed

What age do they start doing an "im bored" cry. So we will know to look out for it so we know the differance. We would hate to leave him upset if he actually needed something or was genuinely distressed sad
You'll just know. There is no age. Again as people have said it's not something that can be planned or happens to a schedule its just something that you'll eventually twig into.

Thanks x

You'll just know, it won't be for a few months. You'll learn all of the different cries, don't stress about it now. Enjoy having dinners while they're still hot and having long showers and baths without poking your head out the door because you thought baby sneezed.

Go into parent hood with an open mind and no set plan and things will be 100 times easier. Go with the flow, it'll be fine.

OP, you seem to have a plan. I hope it works out for your little family, I really do.

Just one thing, if your baby should be a good sleeper, go easy on the parents who aren't so lucky, yeah? Because by and large, it will be luck. Your friend's little one began self soothing early. That's not proof, that's an anecdote. Correlation does not equal causation, the plural of anecdote is not data. Coming out with the stuff you've been saying on this thread in a parenting group could really push someone who's struggling over the edge.

As I say, I hope this approach works for you. Just try and have some empathy for those on different paths.

Lots of smug arseholes on this thread, acting "supportive" but just taking a swipe at OP.

Clouds and rainbows sounds nice, by the way.

Who's being smug?

Please do yourself a favour and google the fourth trimester, OP. Given the basic info you seem to be unaware of, you probably don't know that all human babies are premature, and for their first time 3 months need womb conditions: near constant cuddling, hearing your heartbeat and breathing, fed on demand, rocked to sleep etc. This is a biological fact. What you propose is the exact opposite and will likely cause more harm than good. You can't plan for their entire childhood now FFS.

I honestly think you're in for a shock.

Titty how about you back the fuck off? OP gets it, you know everything and she knows nothing. You also think BTECs are worthless. Haven't you got something else to do?

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Thanks x I think she is only trying to help but it did sting a little when she said BTECs are not good

I wish you luck anyway, please come back and let us know how you get on.

Hope you continue to have a healthy pregnancy and a nice quick birth.

I didn't say that. I asked whether they were well viewed now - they weren't some years ago!

OP, you don't need all the answers right now. You are 5 months pregnant. Your 'answers' will go out the window once your baby is here anyway when you realise that these rules don't work for every baby. Just roll with it and do what is right for you and your baby when he is here.

We all think we have a vague idea of what parenting will be like before we have our babies, and then when you're in it, you will look back at laugh when you realise how far removed the idea is from the reality.

My first baby, once he got over the colic, was the easiest, most laid back, dream baby I could ever have wished for. I assumed it was because I must be doing everything right. Then along came my second and I did everything the same as I'd done with my son. But it didn't work. She didn't sleep...not even as a newborn (I'm talking about during the day when newborns are meant to feed, sleep, repeat). She couldn't stay asleep long that 10 minutes, she didn't feed properly because she was so tired, and she screamed for most of her awake time. I tried EVERYTHING. There was nothing I didn't try and I tried every possible combination of different things, I tried every bit of advice from other mums, books etc. But nothing worked with her. She would eventually conk out from sheer exhaustion at about 11pm and get a few hours but that was it. It wasn't until she 18 months that she finally settled down. But even now as a 5yo I still see this child that would rather do anything rather than sleep!

My point is that they are not robots and there is no one rule fits all. You are fairly new to Mumsnet but occasionally you will see hilarious threads from parents about what they thought being a parent would be like compared with the reality. They are very entertaining! And - I mean this kindly but it may come out as patronising - you are coming across as one of those all-knowing prospective parents who think they know what it's going to be like, and the majority of the other posters are people who have been through it and know that the reality is very different!

Good luck though and I hope you have a healthy pregnancy.

Mummy I have a BTEC in art and design. Leaving school for college was the best thing I ever did.

My head of year was a snob in the vein of Titty. Said I'd never go to uni if I went to do a BTEC (the horror!).

I got into a top university for a competitive degree (think veterinary med).

Not that it matters. Still value those 2 years and that BTEC more than any other course I've done. Don't let others bring you down, ever.

"Lots of smug arseholes on this thread, acting "supportive" but just taking a swipe at OP"
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You say smug, I say realistic.

'Experts' in every field have been changing their minds about their research and getting things wrong since time began.
As have parents, but sometimes anecdotal advice is worth much more than that of a baby guru with a qualification and a bestselling book.

enjoy your pregnancy, and the baby. I still think clouds and rainbows would aid a better sleep, especially with your plans - whether they work or not. I'd love to see a pic of the room when it's finished 😊

It almost made me cry when you said that me and DH dont love our baby.

"It almost made me cry when you said that me and DH dont love our baby."

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If that's aimed at me then not once did I say that, or words even insinuating that.

I made a daft joke about jellyfish staring down at him in the dark.

We arent, we dont really care how much sleep or game time we get.

That's good, because you won't be getting any game time, don't underestimate how busy you'll be once the baby arrives!

Mummy You can always hide the thread and go and plan your lovely nursery. Talk to a nice friend in real life, don't take any of this to heart. None of these people know you, they're just gleefully enjoying an internet pile-on.

Drama

It was kinda aimed at many people.