Under the sea or clouds and rainbows???

[MummyMiddleton]

Or baby boy is due on November 10th. We have a room for him but we don't want to buy and furniture or decor until we know what theme we are choosing. We are stuck between under the sea and clouds and rainbows. Both are equally cute.
We would paint the walls dark turquoise/aqua for under the sea and pale blue for clouds and rainbows. My mum has an art degree and will be painting the decor on top of the base colour (sea creatures and plants or clouds connected by rainbows).

If you had to choose, what would you go for?

😂

I love the thought of 'under the sea' because you can make it beautiful with the different colours of the fish and the seaweed etc.

Also you could then add in Nemo/Dory and Little Mermaid items to add to the decor (big Disney fan here )

I like the idea of the under the sea theme think it will last longer.

What I will say though is babies can't read the advice of these experts and often have their own ideas which differ greatly from those of the text books so don't get too hung up on how things will work wait til the baby is here and listen to him rather than a book!

This thread is brilliant!

I want a theme! I want a perfect sleeper! I have lots of stats to back that up! It will work!

I admire your optimism OP and good luck to you. Do come back in a years time and let us know how to do it right. Or maybe write a book about it?

Lol OP you are going to have a serious shocked when your baby gets here and you actually have a child to deal with.

What will probably happen is you will have your 5 minute cuddle, put the baby down to self settle, and they will scream. How long for? Could be hours! Are you going to be happy to do that just for the sake of your sleep?

There are also 'scientific studies' that 'prove' young babies need their mum when they cry which is why the NHS recommend you are reactive to their cues and no sleep training until after 6 months.

It may be true that if you leave babies to self settle they sleep through quicker but only because they learn no one comes if they cry!

I've got an easy baby this time, you can Chuck him in his cot and he normally goes to sleep. But the last baby was a different kettle of fish entirely. If you do get an easy one it's down to LUCK not because you are an expert because you've read a few books.

I will add though OP, I'm on my 3rd baby & I still don't know what the fuck I'm doing of a night time, so even though people might not be coming across in the nicest way, I do slightly agree that you might have to wait & see about that bit!
Still, I'd rather not know what the fuck I was doing, with an amazingly painted nursery though

Also! There's scientific evidence that proves baby's are more likely to die of SIDS if they go in their own room before 6 months so I hope he won't be going in his room before then!

I like both themes btw.

We have a sea theme in DSs nursery, it looks great.

He also slept through the night from 10 weeks in a co sleeper cot.

Please don't put your baby at higher risk of death by putting them in their own room from birth.

Remember too, OP that "through the night" is defined as 6 or 8 hours (can't remember now), so you might have a shock there too!

15 months and 22 months are both 1! When I said a 1 year old laarns to walk, I didnt mean bang on 1, I mean any age between 12 and 24 months lol

And yet mine didn't wait till she was anywhere near 1. 🙄

Point is, you really don't know what sort of baby you're going to get. So you need to be a bit less prescriptive and a bit more flexible. 😉

I dont usually sleep longer than 7 hours, so no shock there.

Thanks for the advice on no sleep training until 6 months. We never learned that. I didnt realize it was so dangerous . Am considering getting a moses basket for our room for a bit.

Also, me and DH would be taking turns during the night to see him and check on his needs. So we will both get some sleep even if he does cry a lot. We both work from home on our business so that is good too.

TittyGolighty

Babies can walk as early as 9 months but its just more rare. In my original comment that this all stemmed from, I was just giving a general example to show that children can see well long before the age of 3

You did a child development course and you didn't know about not sleep training till 6 months and your only considering getting a Moses basket.
Maybe book in for some antenatal classes.

I like the under the sea theme by the way.

WOW.

We didn't have a Moses basket. DD slept on me for 4 months and then in a (scientifically proven) hammock.

Both themes sound nice - I'd probably choose the clouds but I don't think you can go wrong either way.

I painted DS's room a soft, relaxing colour I loved on the basis that he can tell me what he wants when he's bigger. DD's room is currently a study (she's brand new so in with us) and is dark grey, which might not have been my first thought for a baby but is very restful so when she moves in we will probably keep it that way until she makes her own choice.

DS was emphatically not one of life's self soothers as a baby and we had a spell of cosleeping but now at 2 he sleeps fantastically and I have the reassurance of knowing that happened at his own developmental pace without being left to cry.

I suspect CIO only works for some babies anyway - the ones who just need a little grouse to get off to sleep. DS would have got more and more wound up.

*WOW.

We didn't have a Moses basket. DD slept on me for 4 months and then in a (scientifically proven) hammock. grin*

I didn't mean that how it sounded. Mine didn't have a Moses basket either. He preferred me to sleep on also. I just get the impression from OP that co-sleeping isn't the plan. But I take it back it was probably not a called for comment.

I wont let him sleep on me. I would love to, but it may cause more problems down the line. For instance:

• Not sleeping on his own until very late (toddler age). We are not having him in our bed past the baby stage unless he is ill. Its best that way.

• Not having a strong bond with his dad. If he always sleeps on me then he will always want me. We are planning to do things as gender neuterally as possible. This was actually DHs idea and I like it. He is going to have regular skin on skin time with us both and we will both bathe with him and wake for him in the night.

We didnt learn about sleep training in too much detail because the course is supposed to prepare us for work in an early years setting. Unless you are an in home nanny, then it is something dont really experience as you only really care for the babies/children during the day. Sleep training is something typically done at night, hense why we only covered it briefly

First, I would do a bit more research but also stop adhering so rigidly to your parenting ideals. Teaching a newborn to self-soothe? Holy fuck.

Anyway, I would stick with clouds, I think a dark turquoise room would be dreadfully oppressive.

The reason we wanted to self soothe from newborn is because my friend did it and her baby is an ABSOLUTE ANGEL. I look after her a lot and it is a delight and pleasure every single time.

Please remember love and comfort is much more important than sleeping through

However, I have looked into it a little after seeing comments on this thread and I have realised its potential dangers and have now decided to have Daniel in our room until 6 months. But not in our bed, as it can make your life a lot harder in years to come.