Under the sea or clouds and rainbows???

[MummyMiddleton]

Or baby boy is due on November 10th. We have a room for him but we don't want to buy and furniture or decor until we know what theme we are choosing. We are stuck between under the sea and clouds and rainbows. Both are equally cute.
We would paint the walls dark turquoise/aqua for under the sea and pale blue for clouds and rainbows. My mum has an art degree and will be painting the decor on top of the base colour (sea creatures and plants or clouds connected by rainbows).

If you had to choose, what would you go for?

Associating how he eats with good behaviour is patronising. And rather dangerous really!

I know they can, DH (then DP) was right there with me at the registry office. And unless you believe in forced marriages, the situation is the same, married or unmarried (by which I mean that a man needs a woman's permission before he marries her).

RiverTam

Maybe he can try a little, but as long as he knows it is a treat for birthdays and not something we eat for dinner at home. Maybe we could make our own pizzas at home with healthy toppings sometimes.

Calling children "good" and "bad" is incredibly damaging.

OP, you're completely clueless.

Get off this thread and go and read about what actually works for children.

(Start with Janet Lansbury)

Sirzy

Why? Eating well is good behaviour. It can be delicious if done correctly and leads to a strong, active, working body

linking "good child" with a particular pattern of eating is recipe for an eating disorder.

I so hope this is a wind up and not someone who really hadn't a clue.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with pizza. It's a very healthy meal, carbs, protein, fat, veg. Ready made ones are a bit heavy on the salt but they are super easy to make from scratch.

And a Domino's and a film is the perfect boys' sleepover fare for when he's older.

Titty

We will always tell him how much we love him no matter what. But we will point out when his behaviour is good or bad. And calling a child a "good little boy/girl" can give them confidence to make the right choices

God this thread got nasty didn't it?!
It started out about decorating a nursery and then went into bullying and putting down OP for having some nice although rigid and naive parenting ideals.
No real support or open mindedness been shown just seems to me that everyone needs to justify how they did things or how they want to do things.

OP I think it's great you have ideas and want your DS to be brought up really well.
I do think when he arrives you'll end up being a little more flexible than you think you will be now though.
But either approach I'm sure will work for your family and you shouldn't listen to all the negative people.

Brie

We have never parented before! Are we supposed to have a fucking clue?

Yes, maybe he can! And will! Jesus.

You can keep some food stuffs as being occasional or treats or for parties or whatever without it negatively impacting their overall diet or having those foods at home. Banning stuff is far more detrimental.

DD eats bits and bobs of crap, along with lots of good stuff. She's skinny as you like, super active and doing well at school. Where she eats the school dinners. Oh my god, school! You're going to have to home school Daniel, I can tell.

ForumUsername

Thank you x Your kindness amd understanding is apreciated through and through

No, you're not supposed to have a clue. So why do you keep posting as though you already have all thes answers?

fish and chips aren't going to give you a strong, active, working body though.

you sound like a stepford robot. like you are reciting instructions for baking a PFB straight from a recipe book.

I'm starting to feel a bit sorry for OP not to mention the blessed child. ok you know some words, and you know what they mean/how to fit them into sentences, but that's basically it.

RiverTam

Thats good. Thats all we want, for him to lead a healthy and active lifestyle with confidence and kindness

anchor9

We are adults and we only have it sometimes. If a child has unhealthy food they can get hooked on it and refuse to eat other things. We are old enough to know better, a child is not.

Yep I phrased it wrong. The entire thread people who have had babies have been sharing their experiences and you are acting like the expert.

It would be a lot easier for yourself if instead of expecting everything to go a perfect, particular way and inform everyone as if you were an expert that you were aware of the areas you "don't have a clue" and perhaps ask for experience and advice .

No one can tell you what it's going to be like, it's different for everyone as very ch old is different, bit mn is a fab place to learn and get support. It backfires if you tell everyone exactly what life will be like with a kid though instead of asking advice.

Well, that's good. But being incredibly rigid, dogmatic, black and white etc will make your job all the harder. Flexibility and compromise are your friends. And time to yourself. Don't forget that.

I would hide this thread now, enjoy your pregnancy and decorating the nursery, join an antenatal class nearer the time and, if you want, have a read around the subject. You'll find that Jo Frost's ideas and methods are not universally applauded.

Oh, and don't post on AIBU!

I'm out. Still suspect (hope) this is a wind up as the pair of you sound utterly unhinged. If it's actually true then please mention your plans to your health visitor when you meet them pre birth as I think you'll need a close eye keeping on you to ensure you cope when your batshit crazy plans inevitable fall apart.

Be prepared for the fact that most mums won't want to be friends with you if you insist on your husband tagging along to everything. I'm not sure what drinking alcohol has to do with anything. That wouldn't stop your husband hanging out with fellow dads, no one is going to force feed him beer.

Oh I have quite enjoyed reading this.

I started off thinking poster were being a bit mean to an over excited op and then i started thinking she's actually trolling.

Now i feel a bit sad for the op as i think she's living in some weird fantasy world imagining how a baby will improve her life.

welshweasel

Why do we need an eye kept on us? Even if our plans do fall apart, we will still love Daniel as much as if they had gone to plan. We could never stop loving Daniel, even if he became a serial killer or something awful like that. We would still love him

We will always tell him how much we love him no matter what. But we will point out when his behaviour is good or bad. And calling a child a "good little boy/girl" can give them confidence to make the right choices

View on that BTEC consolidated. Thanks OP.

YOU HAVENT A CLUE ABOUT RAISING A CHILD. MORE WORRYINGLY YOU SHOW ABSOLUTELY NO INTEREST IN ADAPTING YOUR VIEW. YOUR CHILD WILL BE THE ONE TO SUFFER HERE.

AmysTiara

Wrong. We are just 2 hopeful (and maybe a bit clueless) new parents. We just want the best for our baby and want him to have the best childhood and life as possible. What every parent wants, we just have quite strict ideas of how to achieve this, partly because of the way we were raised.

You have the opportunity to research and understand before your baby arrives. Don't waste it.

Titty

How can loving your child and encoraging them to be the best they can be while giving them clear but fair boundaries make them suffer?