Under the sea or clouds and rainbows???

[MummyMiddleton]

Or baby boy is due on November 10th. We have a room for him but we don't want to buy and furniture or decor until we know what theme we are choosing. We are stuck between under the sea and clouds and rainbows. Both are equally cute.
We would paint the walls dark turquoise/aqua for under the sea and pale blue for clouds and rainbows. My mum has an art degree and will be painting the decor on top of the base colour (sea creatures and plants or clouds connected by rainbows).

If you had to choose, what would you go for?

You cant miss something you dont know. People who are blind from birth dont feel sad because they cant see. They dont know any different

Wow...

oh OP

luckily I'm certain you are having us on or I would be feeling very concerned

I gues he won't be going to any birthday parties, then. You do know that a healthy balanced diet can include pretty much everything, don't you? Including the odd bit of that terrible Amercian junk food?

I think it's safe to say that probably 90% of us posting had equally batshit fixed ideas about feeding, co sleeping, plastic toys, junk food.

Then we had babies, who grew into toddler, who grew into children. Who have actual personalities and likes and dislikes and emotions.

We're laughing because we've been there and very quickly learned the error of our ways.

And fyi being married has fuck all to do with parental rights and custody.

Its true. If you had never seen, how would you know what you were missing? Like if you had never eaten a certain food, you wouldnt know what it tasted like, therefore would have no craving for it. Surely that just makes sence from a psycological standpoint?

anchor9

He can go to birthday parties, but one of us will go with him or we will explain to the parents to encourage him to eat the carrot/cucumber sticks etc

Ds was weaned on a massive variety of foods.

Sadly something's like autism even the best will in the world can't control. He now eats about 10 different foods.

Even without any special needs some children are simply fussier and nothing will change that. Some children will starve themselves before eating something they don't want.

Did I also mention how marriage means both parents have equal custody and parental rights?

No it doesn't. They can be provided by both names being on the birth certificate. They're just automatic in marriage, but it's not administratively awkward to sort out ignorant you aren't. It's a lot less than changing your name!

And how will you explain to him why he can't eat what his peers are?

What about when he gets older and rebels against your batshit ideas?

Have you never heard of advertising? Word of mouth? Peer pressure? The media?

Plenty of reasons to want something you've never had.

FormerlyFrikadela1

Yes it does. Before marrige, only the birth mother gets full parental rights unless she signs the other parents name on the birth certificate. If they are married then they both get these rights and either one can legally register the birth

Anyone else really craving a BigMac right now?

Will you still be hovering over him forcing carrot sticks on him while the rest of the kids eat pizza when he's 7? 8? 10? And you're the only parent there? Parents, I should say, I don't suppose just the one of you would go.

Sirzy

If a child is starving themselves to the point where they wont eat something they dont want, then they should see a pediatritian.

Yes because paediatricians have time to see every fussy eater!

What makes you think most parents, if unmarried, don't have both their names on the birth certificate? We're not all Ed Miliband, you know!

And the paediatrician will recommend giving the child the food they WILL eat, and probably prescribe vitamins as well.

I speak from experience of having a child who would only eat pasta with cheese for two years.

We will say "you are a good little boy and good little boys eat yummy healthy food because they help you grow"

Yes I would Iove to know the paediatricians tricks!

Ahh so patronising as well!

Oh god you're an idiot.

Or on a wind up.

I can't decide which I'd prefer.

RiverTam

They can, but the father needs the mothers permission. With marriage it is automatic.

Sirzy

Patronizing? Its called how you talk to a child.

You're going to tell your son that he's a bad boy for wanting a slice of pizza at a party when all the other kids are???? A slice of pizza that is not, in any way, shape or form, going to do him any harm at all??? Allyou will end up with is either an unhappy little boy or a lying little boy.