Under the sea or clouds and rainbows???

[MummyMiddleton]

Or baby boy is due on November 10th. We have a room for him but we don't want to buy and furniture or decor until we know what theme we are choosing. We are stuck between under the sea and clouds and rainbows. Both are equally cute.
We would paint the walls dark turquoise/aqua for under the sea and pale blue for clouds and rainbows. My mum has an art degree and will be painting the decor on top of the base colour (sea creatures and plants or clouds connected by rainbows).

If you had to choose, what would you go for?

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What I was saying is that he doesnt hae any problems handling babies.

Hopefully he'll get the same experience as my DH during skin to skin. There they were, having a lovely time, hairy chest and all, when DD attempted to latch on to his nipple.

So there you go, OP. Some hope.

but OP did you ride into the pregnancy group on your high horse called Knowitall and tell the others about how your husband loves the baby more because he sings to him? did your husband cry at preg group?

The way you phrase things is really rather odd. All the violent imagery about what you would do rather than choose between people.

I'm willing to bet you have some attachment issues yourself (I have some experience here) and you are wildly overcompensating.

You really need to relax with all the 50/50 stuff and just let it all happen.

TittyGolighty

Omg that is adorable so cute.

Actually very common for babies to do that. Even in families who don't have tick lists to ensure everything is absolutely split 50/50.

anhor9

No, we didnt really say much. They just gave him dirty looks because of the judgements they made in their heads based on his genitals. Im sure if they actually bothered to speak to him they would find out that he is lovely.

OP I really don't think you're going to get what you want from this thread. You're not the first to want your husband to be as involved as you are. There are plenty on this thread (including me) that have that. And I'm sure you will get that. It just probably won't happen in the rigid and planned way you think it will because no parenting happens like that.

And stubble on a chest will be significantly more uncomfortable than chest hair.

Essie

I say that for dramatic affect so I can show how serious my feelings about said people are.

I have images of him sobbing and shaving his chest while a Paper mache Octopus dangles overhead.

..That paired with your violent descriptions of rubbing salt into open wounds and burning to death slowly

It sound like a fucking horror film

Drama

I admit your comment did make me giggle a bit, even if it was mean spirited.

OP - I think you need to relax your ideas - everything will change when your D.C is born. DH and I thought we were competent adults, had spent time with babies, DH is a doctor and we were sure our plans for raising D.C's would be straight forward and follow our plans.

Babies haven't read the manual ! We had DT's - either slept for what seemed like weeks unless they were held, screamed for no reason, day and night. If it hadn't been for our families we would have lived off biscuits for the first 3 months, we didn't have time to cook, fitting in a shower was a luxury and the only fresh air we got was putting the bins out! Our DC's were perfectly normal and are now happy Uni students even though as youngsters they regularly crept into our bed in the middle of the night.

Drama

Also, those descriptions were to show how much I love certain people that it would hurt so much to choose between them that I would rather experience physical pain.

Essie Titty Drama Everyone except Mummy

I stand by my previous comment. OP is batshit.

Sorry but your strange explanations of how much you love people and your unrealistic expectations of your unborn child and how your life will be are just bizarre.

I can't comment anymore because it's actually making my brain hurt

Sounds like a rubbish pregnancy group. I went to both NCT and NHS antenatal classes and all the dads were there. Again, you've formed a view following one bad experience.

I do think you need to talk to someone though. Again, the words you use to describe having to choose between your parents (why on earth do you even think these thoughts) are a bit alarming. Burning, killing yourself, salt rubbed into wounds? That's pretty intense.

RiverTam

It is intense, correct. It was a creatively written example demonstrating that I love my parents equally

This was an amazing read. What an excitable sort you are, OP. It's nice that you have all these grand plans, but I feel you're setting yourself up to fail. As a PP said, it's like a birth plan; nice and comforting to have, and good to have, but sometimes not feasible.
By the way, describing someone as 'not a typical bloke' while professing to be most passionately against sexism is interesting. Good effort.

And the pregancy group was mainy a pregnant mums get togther chat group. It wasnt a specialist teaching group or anything. More like a club

"pregnant mums get togther chat group"

Why did he need to go if it was a new mums getalong?

EverythingEverywhere

"Typical bloke" is what I call the man society expects a man to be. But people shouldnt have to conform to societys expectations, but unfortunately most people do. Most people are sheep. Its sad but theres not much that can be done unless we change the way society treats people

Drama

Beacuse I wanted him to be part of the friendship group. Why should a group of friends discussing similar topics all be one gender? As long as one is interested in the topics being discussed, why should the shape of their chromosomes matter?

Out of interest, OP, do you and your husband share a name?

Do you do much without your husband or are you always together? Do you have friends that you see without him?

Yes. Why?