Under the sea or clouds and rainbows???

[MummyMiddleton]

Or baby boy is due on November 10th. We have a room for him but we don't want to buy and furniture or decor until we know what theme we are choosing. We are stuck between under the sea and clouds and rainbows. Both are equally cute.
We would paint the walls dark turquoise/aqua for under the sea and pale blue for clouds and rainbows. My mum has an art degree and will be painting the decor on top of the base colour (sea creatures and plants or clouds connected by rainbows).

If you had to choose, what would you go for?

I cant argue with the nature side of things. But we will both be his primary care givers. We run our home business and this is both of our jobs. Neither of us go out to work. We have decided that once Daniel is here we will share responsibilities of the him and the business. We will do shifts at work and shifts with the baby. 50/50.

I cant argue with the nature side of things. But we will both be his primary care givers. We run our home business and this is both of our jobs. Neither of us go out to work. We have decided that once Daniel is here we will share responsibilities of the him and the business. We will do shifts at work and shifts with the baby. 50/50.

Why the hell did that post 3 times? Wut

This is just boring and unproductive at this point. You clearly know best, so stop looking for an argument.

brilliant trolling. me and my 11 week old PFB have had a good laugh.

BTEC

LMAO 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

When my daughter was little she would fight sleep completely. I would hold her in my arms and she would scream for ten minutes then suddenly fall asleep mid scream. There was absolutely no way you could have used your plan to calm her and put her down awake. She would have had none of it.
Just don't forget, your baby hasn't read any manual.

Crocky

This is true. Babies are born with their own personalities. It was only an idea. We thought it sounded manageable. Dont forget, neither me or my partner have raised kids before. Thanks for cutting us some slack and posting a nice comment

Errm that's exactly what most people have been saying throughout the thread though!

Also, thanks to eveyone else who posted kind, mature, helpful comments even if I did come across a stubborn bitch at times :) much love

do pop back and let us know how the parenting goes OP - I need all the help I can get I haven't read a single book not. a. word.

anchor9

Just leave me alone, you are nothing but a bully

Ummmm...are you still interested in comments about the decor? If so, I think clouds and Phineas Dogg style hot air balloons, rather than rainbows, would look great.

As you were.

Fogg not Dogg 😂

"I am not prepared to lower myself to your chavvy levels"

^^
Chavphobia "just makes me so angry and sad"

It's good to discuss how you'd like to bring up your DC. But dangerous to assume everything will go to plan.

Oh and reflux is not simply giving medicine and comforting child back to sleep. It's a child waking 8-12 times a night to scream and sometimes be sick. Then refuse to go back to sleep and scream more when you lie them down.

I was determined not to co-sleep. Because of that I was seriously sleep deprived for years. It was only when DS1 was 2 years old and I was pregnant that I gave in and regularly co-slept for a few months. The exhaustion was killing me.

Despite everyone telling me to sleep train I didn't, I responded to his cries and I am so happy that I did that.

DS1 didn't sleep through the night until we solved his reflux problems....when he was 4 YEARS OLD. No sleep training would have made any difference.

He still wakes regularly at night because of nightmares - no sleep training will solve that either.

OMG I can't believe you're assigning your precious little one a gender before it's old enough to make up its own mind.

How transphobic of you.

Biology doesn't care about gender. As a female you are the one whose hormones change to enable you to meet the needs of the baby: ones that make you forget labour so that you bond with the baby and want to do it again; ones that break down fat supplies to produce milk; ones that ensure you don't sleep so deeply that you will hear your baby in the night (very important in evolutionary terms).

Bathing with baby is a brilliant thing for dad to do. So is looking after you (e.g. Feeding you) so that you can feed baby.

DH and I will take turns to cook and care for Daniel. Im not going to be with him 24/7, he will be left with DH during my shifts in work and vice versa. I will be expressing milk so he can also feed Daniel.

There is nothing I can do that DH cant, apart from breastfeed which is solved by using a simple pump. Also, DH is a VERY light sleeper so we will likely both wake up. Me, because of maternal hormones and him because of his natural being.

Also, fathers do get hormones when they have kids. Just not as many as they dont have to go through pregnancy. But they do get them, otherwise they would not protect or unconditionally love their babies. Which most do.

Essie

Not really. We are calling him a boy because he has a penis. He is newborn baby and cannot decide. He needs to be something, we cant just call him "it".
But if he wants to wear an elsa dress trick or treating or care for a baby doll or love pink and sparkles then he has every right to do so. I would happily decorate his room with disney princesses if thats what he wants one day. And maybe one day he may want to be our daughter, not our son and that is ok too. As long as he is healthy and a good person.

Ah, had to come back again. I luckily breastfed both my babies. The second one especially was a very efficient feeder and her feeds never lasted more than 10 minutes so there was no supply issue. But, and this is the bit that once again may scupper your well thought out plans, I could never express more than a couple of ounces and it would take me a very long time and much effort to get even this meagre amount.
It's lovely that you have thought this through so thoroughly but please don't go into this with very rigid views. You may end up causing yourselves huge amounts of unnecessary stress if things don't go to your plan.

Good luck OP! I commend you for all the research you've done, and I'm sure you'll be a dedicated and loving parent. It's good to have plans of how you want to raise your child, as long as you are prepared to be flexible.

I like clouds and rainbows, with hot air balloons. I have that theme for my toddler's nursery. I managed to buy on EBay a lovely Chinese lantern type lampshade that somebody had made into a hot air balloon - maybe something similar is still available. (I find sea creatures a little scary and wouldn't want to sleep with pictures of them on my wall.)

I had tons of milk and fast let down, bit never managed to express!

which is solved by using a simple pump.

I expressed every feed for a year. It is far from simple. It involved eating certain foods, special teas and handfuls of fenugreek tablets every day. Pumps aren't as efficient as babies so I got blocked ducts and mastitis around once a month. My nipples bled. And then there's sterilising equipment and bottles, having to set alarms to wake through the night even when baby doesn't.

Simple?!

There's no medal for following or ignoring the biology.