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Have you got 3 children?

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McDreamy · 20/03/2007 10:58

What's it like? Is it that much different from 2? Why did you decide to have 3? Do you have anytime for yourself? Are you permenantly tired?

Just a few of my questions about having 3! I am so undecided!

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laughingduck · 21/03/2007 17:13

3catstoo, we have similar age gaps to you and I totally agree with everything you say. One of the hardest things I found was that when no 3 was born, I was doing school run, nursery run and feeding a baby inbetween. I hardly had much time for myself at all really. This year has been much easier and ds2 and I just seem to please ourselves all day between school hours - it is rather lovely .

I know I was flippant before, but the noise thing really does annoy dh - there is a massive difference between 2 and 3 in this respect.

Bambi, you will slip in to a routine - I can't remember what it was like before the third one now. It certainly doesn't seem such a massive deal as it did before I had him.

laughingduck · 21/03/2007 17:15

Yes NAO! Naff is a really good way of describing one of each, that is very much how I felt too. dh still took a while to get his head round the need for a third though!

3sEnough · 21/03/2007 17:20

Hi - 2 is just too perfect but 3 was a big change and challenge for me! First yr was hideous, since then - fab. (they are 6, 4 and 2 by the way) No2 child (dd1) WAS miffed but that's just the way she is, ds still asks when dd3 is coming along - NO CHANCE!! Holidays are a pain, cars are too small, makes no sense having 3 but we had the third because we knew that somebody was missing - couldn't explain it past that - just that someone was missing. Glad we did it.

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strongteabag · 21/03/2007 20:01

3 is really wonderful, I have 3 matching. Great dynamic, much less intense relationships between them. Have 3 special relationships. I am inclined to think that after 2, subsequent children get easier. More experience, more help from the older ones, less sanity...

I worried how I would cope with a third but it is better than I have ever ever imagined.

strongteabag · 21/03/2007 20:04

Actually the washing does sometimes get to me, horrid!

busybusybusy · 21/03/2007 20:22

leave a gap though. 3 under 5 is pretty tiring. Also hard to work out who's clothes are who's

tigi · 21/03/2007 20:32

another one with 3 matching. we had the 3rd because I too felt something was missing! 3 scrumptious cuddly little boys who sometimes argue and thump around like mad, but then at other times curl up together to watch tv. sweet.
I find money difficult at the mo - it's all the after school things that add up. also fitting in homework to be done.
Cars and bedrooms are fine though.
It's very quiet when one of them not here! Can't imagine just having 2, makes me feel very special really.
I tell the middle one he is very special, not too big, and not too small - just right! He is perfectly happy. The two smallest play together well.

PeachyClair · 21/03/2007 20:33

LOL at the clothes- thought that was just me.

I liked 3 under 5. That would be because I am a masochist and wore it as a badge of honour LOL! I was really annoyed every time ds1 jumped a year group (think they were 3 and 2 when ds3 came)

annieapple7 · 21/03/2007 21:03

Bizarrely i went from not wanting to have children at all to wanting 3. I just didn't feel complete after 2. I am not sure I do now but I think I will...I think 4 would tip DH and I over the edge!

DD1 is only 8 weeks but it is amazing how quickly you get used to 3 and how easy and quiet it is with just 2.
You do need to enjoy a bit of chaos though, it does get more chaotic with more and the house gets messier.

But I love it although I think we will need a new car..can't get 2 booster seats and a baby seat across the back seat.

It always amazes me that it is the DHs that are less keen on bigger families when it is the DWs that do all the work! (MAybe its because they worry about paying for them?)

Littlemissbusy · 21/03/2007 21:05

I have 3 - two girls and then a boy - of course everyone asked when I was pregnant with number 3 whether we were just trying to have a boy! No was the answer - we just always wanted 3.
I do have time to myself - it's important to create that time and to have other non-child interests, however many children you have.
Worry that they don't all have their own bedroom (will this be a big issue in the future?) and need to create time for each child as an individual which can become challenging. But can't imagine only having the girls now.

autumnlover · 21/03/2007 21:11

we have 3 kids by accident. but we did also say that we wanted 3 and i did want a boy after 2 girls. ds is only 3 weeks old so its still really really early days.

cant wait for him to be more mobile. dds love him to bits.

uptomyeyes · 21/03/2007 21:15

3 boys here aged 9, 5 and 11 months.

They ruck and maul all over the house, they eat me out of house and home, I have been periodically an expert on Thomes the Tank Engine and every single one of his * friends, Power Rangers - Dino Thunder/SPD/Mystic Force, Pokemon, Doctor Who, Robot Wars, Premier League Football Teams....... we don't have a lawn we have a hardened patch of mud AKA as the penalty area.

Three matching is great - THEY ARE THE KNEES OF THE BEES!!

foxybrown · 21/03/2007 21:17

3 is great. I found going from 1 to 2 hard, but 2 to 3 was a doddle. Its great, no-one gets left out, its easier to get 1:1 time as the other 2 can play together. And I found that oldest two were playing, baby slept, I got time out. Wasn't expecting that.

Bloody hard work, I have 2 boys and a girl, all very different (but close together which makes it harder still). Wouldn't be having number 4 if having 3 was hideous!!

newgirl · 21/03/2007 21:45

ok - shocking admission

i have two girls and would be kind of interested in having a third baby if it was a boy

is that wrong and terrible?

i think the novelty would get me through the tiredness, grumpiness etc.

surely i am not completely alone in this?!

foxybrown · 21/03/2007 21:54

Nothing wrong with that! Got a girl after 2 boys, very different experience, worth it for sure.

sweetkitty · 21/03/2007 22:06

great thread especially as I am deciding when to ttc no 3 I am already dreading the "trying for a boy" statements as if you are only "allowed" to have a third if you have the misfortune of having two the same. I'm 50/50 about what flavour I would like next if I could have a blue or a pink pill I don't know which one I would chose. I quite like the idea of a girly gang and a boy might feel a bit left out but it might be nice to have a change from pink.

It just feels like theres someone else missing but I do worry about the financial side of things as well as the sheer demands they will all place on me especially I hate pregnancy due to SPD maybe I'll do an Angelina or check on ebay............

BallsOfChocolate · 21/03/2007 22:11

3 feels like a family. Someone was missing before.

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Clary · 21/03/2007 22:24

I've got 3 because 2 felt incomplete. Plus I had 1boy 1girl and didn't want to be wnaky.

(hate "I've got my girl now" - a pal of mine says that, as if her 8yo DS is not what she wante!)

I'm not always tired, or if so only because my iron is low (as lately).

DD is middle child but very self-sufficient. Tho they play in 3 differnt 2s (boys/older2/younger 2) which I love.

Don't agree that days out are a nightmare to organise - why? But then my youngest is almost 4 and I do think at 2-3 it gets a lot easier (no nappies, no pushchair, no giant rucksack)

I would like 4 really, said as much to DH and he said, oh, I never knew, do you want another one then? (No - I'm 43 and the gap is too big but still a bit )

Clary · 21/03/2007 22:24

I iron children's clothes btw, in fact must get off puter and do some now or no school uniform tomorrow

PeachyClair · 21/03/2007 22:27

'I iron children's clothes btw'

tumble drier dear.

M&S anti iron school shirts saved me.

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Clary · 21/03/2007 22:32

I hate my tumble drier. Only used it for washable nappies. Such a waste of electricty when there's all that lovely sun and wind going free.

IMO of course.

hatrick it does get a lot easier. I had 3 under 4 and it was a bit of a whirlwind but it's fab now.

PeachyClair · 21/03/2007 22:34

Ah see house rules prevent a washing line (- something to fo with the age of it) and radiators take so many miles of clothing. LOL.

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