Do you really care how another baby is fed? (Ff/bf)

[justonesherryformedicinalpurpo]

I breastfed my first and I am now breastfeeding my second.

I have never been made to feel uncomfortable while feeding in public. And I have NEVER looked at a woman ff her baby and given a shit. I just think "aw another baby". But I must admit that if I am talking about bf or if I am bf around a ff mother I fear that I may make her feel like I think I am better than her. And that's just crap. I just can't believe, still, that there is judgement on how a baby is fed.

I would just love to know, honestly, if you actually care how other babies are fed.

There is so much judgement and a lot of publicity on it now that some of it must come from other mothers.

If you think you are better for bf be honest. If you think you are being judged for ff be honest.

My friend recently commented on how another mother quit breastfeeding very early on and she was shocked and disappointed etc. And I said "there is enough judgement without needing to add to it. There is also someone there to judge you. You could be judged for combination feeding from a few weeks old. I could be judged for not bf my first past 10 months, what has it got to do with anyone else".

I don't mean to start a war here. I just want people to be honest if they do judge and why. Afterall we don't know one another and we may become less judgy after this.

I have had a few occasions when bf at a playgroup a mum will say something like "I wish I could have bf, I really tried" etc etc and I never know what to say except "don't worry as long as they're fed that's all that matters" or my favorite "when they all grow up we won't be able to tell which were bf or ff" but I never know if this is the right thing to say, not having been in that situation.

TBH I'm sometimes a bit envious of those ff because of the freedom they have and they don't have to sit uncomfortably to get in a good position for their baby to latch on!

I couldn't care less how others fed their babies.

I proudly formula fed my three because that was what I wanted to do.

Dummies were very helpful at developing pre-term DD3's sucking reflex, which was absent at birth.

I wanted my body to be my own again after months of pregnancy.

I don't care how as baby is fed as long as they are fed!! I ff from 4 weeks due to issues bf. I felt very very judge by HV and a lot of other mums. One actually said I obviously just didn't try hard enough. To much judgement in the world from all around.