suspect MIL has give bf DD formula

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Sorry for the rant but need to get it out!
Yesterday me and my OH had a day out and left our nearly 6 month old Dd with OH's mum. She's always made hints about me changing to formula from breastfeeding and always hint s about lookimg after dd more when shes on solids/ formula.
We were gone from about 9.30 am till 5pm and MIL made out like dd had been unsettled due to teething ( which is probably true) but that she didn't want much milk. I thought there was still alot of the expressed milk left when we picked dd up ( she had probably had one feeds worth!!) amd today she hasn't pooed at all which is very unlike her, its normally atleast twice a day! I've also noticed the bottle she'd used is greasy inside which has never happened with the breastmilk.
Now sat here feeling really annoyed if she has done that, she's got no reason to to it. Dd is happy on breastmilk and its my choice when i change to formula!
What would everyone else do in this situation? There's no way i cam prove anything but im pretty certain! MIL also gave her grandson a dummy when his parents are against them so this adds to my suspicion!

I don't get why MiL would go to all the hassle of buying and making up formula when you'd provided milk for the day. It makes no sense?

Formula poos are so very stinky (compared to bf poos) you would have noticed that. Sounds like she just didn't want to take much milk off your MIL, which is pretty normal baby behaviour if she's not used to a particular person giving her milk.

machi clearly not. Though I don't actually think OP DD has had formula given the sketchy info. OP I think you'd smell it straight away, your DD just wouldn't smell right.
S0 she hasn't changed her diet she's at worst just given her some formula when she's already being weaned. Not great no but not a big deal either unless OP makes it one.

I don't think there is any evidence that your mil has given her formula and lots of EBF babies will not accept formula (especially to begin with) anyway.

The only issue that I can see here is that you don't trust your mil and, rightly or wrongly, I wouldn't feel happy leaving my child with someone I did not trust.

Baby is being weaned on puree's so poo will probably change a lot at the mo anyway.

I don't think the "evidence" that she gave formula is very strong at all. If she didn't drink much milk, then less pooing would be expected. The greasy bottle is most likely different detergent or being washed after a good plate.

I also would not expect a BF baby to suddenly take to formula in the space of a day. Most have to be introduced slowly with a mix of BF and formula to get them to touch it.

I would personally let this go due to lack of any decent evidence.

Cross post Fuzzy

I think you are spoiling for a fight OP. Not sure why but you seem very keen to assert your authority here to the extent it almost sounds like you want her to have done it so you are justified in putting her in her place.

If she was being sneaky she would have tipped the breast milk out of the bottles and made like she's had all her feeds.

If she was proving a point that she likes formula she would have had some reason thought up she needed formula and told you.

Formula doesn't make bottles greasy.

Much more likely you dont like mil and have jumped on a failing (not feeding well) and made the 'evidence' to suit your theory.

The same MIL who went to the bother of buying a dummy to give to her other grandchild even though the parents had said no to them? Gosh - I wonder why the OP is feeling that way.

She won't have pooed today if she only had one feed's worth of ebm yesterday anyway. What would you hope to achieve by accusing her? Least said, soonest mended....

I would have been furious when mine were younger. Looking back I was probably a little controlling and didn't give any formula milk, it was bloody hard at times and I'm not entirely sure I know why we put ourselves through it.

I suppose what I am trying to say is that it seems like a big thing now, but in reality it isn't. It does however set a precedent for her doing whatever she wants to.

So the only 'evidence' you have is a slightly greasy bottle?

Is that really it?

Dd hasn't pooed at all since she was there so i can't go on the smell of the nappy.
I'm not hoping she has done it, id like to think she wouldn't do that.i don't want to fall out with her and we get on fine in general but this is just what i suspect. And with regards to why she would do it, she's one of those people that thinks formula will keep her fuller for longer and she'll sleep through like her babies did. Almost every time I've seen her she's asked when i think I'll stop bf. Even tried to say formula would be better when dd had colic early on.

You'll soon know when she eventually poos, it will stink to high heaven compared to breastfed poo.

I would try and get MiL to fess up though and say she's constipated, what exactly did she have yesterday again?

And then feel free to be livid if it turns out your child was given formula. YANBU to be concerned. Sudden introduction of formula can play havoc with small tummies!

It's her grandchild and she loves her. She probably didn't give her formula, but even if she did to say she "can't be trusted" is ridiculous. She couldn't be trusted if she left your DD in a dangerous situation, but she didn't. At the very worst she gave her formula and for that you really want to punish her.

That is not a good idea if you want a happy relationship with her in the future.

She did have more than one feed while i was with her but only one feed between 9.30 and 5 while she was with MIL

Unless you saw a tin of sma in her house you can say she has given her formula she might have been out of sorts because granny was babysitting and didnt want her milk my bottles never felt greasy after formula and babies can get constipated you are jumping the gun getting worked up why woild she give formula if you provided bottles of milk?

She could have given her more food than you give her thats more likely than formula and that is why she didnt take her milk ask her

Purées and the start of weaning will often make babies constipated as well.

Formula has a horrible smell and as a childminder I've noticed the greasy residue of formula on bottles. The next dirty nappy will have a different smell if formula has been given

fuzzy is right they can have funny tummys with weaning

I don't think you're basing your suspicions on very much any evidence at all tbh.
It all seems a bit contrived.
I thought FF tend to poo more than BF? Or is that only when they're very little? What does the lack of pooing tell you? Doesn't it fit quite well with the story that DD had less feeds?

As pp have said, I would phone her and say baby isn't well and doctor needs to know what she's eaten / drank. I would be very, very upset if my MIL had gone against my wishes. She wouldn't be babysitting again for a very long time.

Id be seething!