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Am I mean for not giving DD the bedroom she wanted?!

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blushingmare · 03/05/2015 23:51

DD is 3. I have just redecorated her room. When we were talking about doing it she said she wanted it to be purple. Now, I wasn't too keen on it being very purple and didn't want overly girly wallpaper. So I've gone for a (I think!) very lovely grey wallpaper with white stars on one wall (this one www.gltc.co.uk/wallpaper/gltc-wallpaper-grey-star/gltc/fcp-product/10003400 ) white walls and have painted the woodwork very pale lilac. I'm planning to accessorise with a purple rug, cushions etc and have bought her an elephant duvet cover as elephants are the animal of the moment.

When she saw it today (just empty room with no accessories etc, she burst into tears - "I wanted a purple bedroom!!" Now I know she's 3 and prone to emotional outbursts, but I must admit I feel a bit mean now. I mean, I think her room is lovely - very classy and understated, but I don't think she shares this subtlety! Have I been a bit of a meany?!

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HerrenaHarridan · 03/05/2015 23:53

Grey?!?

She asked for purple and you painted it grey. Sorry but you are definitely being unreasonable.

teenagetantrums · 03/05/2015 23:55

Well i would have done it purple when my daughter wanted a red room that's what she got, i hated it but was just a bit off paint and I don't have to be in there, it has changed many times over the years and is now white. I don't think 3 year olds get understated or style.

WhenMarnieWasThere · 03/05/2015 23:56

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WhenMarnieWasThere · 03/05/2015 23:56

Agreed.

TelephoneIgnoringMachine · 03/05/2015 23:57

Purple can be classy too! Why didn't you do it the colour she wanted? It's her room. You could have gone with a pale lavender if you didn't want a bright colour.

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senrensareta · 04/05/2015 00:01

I think you have been a bit mean. Grey and white is very tasteful but not what a child would pick and by talking about it she probably thought she had chosen how it would be. I realise you may not wish to follow a 3 year old's choice of interior design but, even when my DCs were little, we picked some things together to make it really theirs.

leccybill · 04/05/2015 00:01

When DD was 4, we gave her a new bedroom. She wanted full-on bright pink princess. We went for a woodland/fairy theme with 2 lime green walls and 2 cream walls, but a big pink fluffy rug and pink twinkly canopy above bed. She loves it.
We got princess and castle wall stickers. They peel off easily to be replaced with the next trend.

Must admit grey is a bit dull.

coolaschmoola · 04/05/2015 00:02

What three year old wants 'classy and understated'!?

Yes, you ARE a meany. She told you what she wanted and you ignored that and gave her what you thought she should want....

Ouch.

SenecaFalls · 04/05/2015 00:03

You consulted her and then did what you wanted, not what she wanted. I'd paint it purple. It's just paint.

RJnomore · 04/05/2015 00:04

I'm 38 and I find that paper dreary.

LaurieFairyCake · 04/05/2015 00:04

The grey and white is fine.

The problem is you showed her the room without all the purple accessories you had planned.

What did you expect Her to do, visualise it with the purple accessories ? Hmm Grin

She's 3, not Laurence Llewellyn Bowel !

heylilbunny · 04/05/2015 00:04

No child is ever going to choose a grey bedroom, especially a 3 year old. OP hate to say it but I think you lack imagination.

Pico2 · 04/05/2015 00:05

I think you should have painted it purple. My 4 yo wants her own ensuite. That's a bit harder than purple paint.

rootypig · 04/05/2015 00:08

Don't ask your children for their opinions, if you're going to ignore them. I like the wallpaper, and I wouldn't want a purple room either, but for both of those reasons, I wouldn't ask!

Fill it with all the lovely purple things and you're right, she'll get over it.

Pico2 · 04/05/2015 00:09

Laurence Llewellyn Bowel Grin

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 04/05/2015 00:10

It's her room. What on earth is the issue with painting it purple? Confused

No 3 year old wants a grey room. Boy or girl.

Perfectlypurple · 04/05/2015 00:10

Classy and understated is for adults. Kids like bright colours.

itsbetterthanabox · 04/05/2015 00:10

Meany. It's not about what you like. It's her room. And what's wrong with purple anyway? It's not like she asked for anything crazy. Her having a room she likes is more important than you wanting it to fit your 'tasteful' decor.

TheFairyCaravan · 04/05/2015 00:12

You were being mean.

You can't ask a 3 yo want colour they want their room and then paint it another colour. You should have painted it purple.

slithytove · 04/05/2015 00:14

Paint a white wall purple, give her a plain primed bookcase/drawers and let her go to town with purple paint, and show her the accessories. She will love it and I love that wallpaper.

Lweji · 04/05/2015 00:15

You consulted her and then did what you wanted, not what she wanted.

This.

When DS was very young (I think about 4 or 5) I asked him what colour room he wanted. As he wanted red, I compromised with him in having one wall painted red, behind the door and behind some large shelves.
Everyone was happy.

He's 10 now and he has red curtains that he has chosen. He loves red and bright colours in general. It's fine.

Grey wallpaper in a 3 year old bedroom?
And you haven't even got yet the purple stuff you are planning on? No wonder she is upset.

Pasithea · 04/05/2015 00:16

Or is it the fact that you paid £25 for the most dreary wallpaper for a child.

Fairenuff · 04/05/2015 00:17

Why did you ask her OP?

CamelHump · 04/05/2015 00:21

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