ok roll up weirdies who NEVER leave their kdis wiht anyone

[TheDaVinciCod]

where are you all?
let me peer at you and prod you

I only leave them with family or very close friends.

frankly anyone who'd have him.

i know someone like that. i was hurriedly tlaking to her on msn as i was getting ready to go out for a mates birthday(ds is 4 months.) she replied back rather smugly oh i haven't been out since dd was born 9 months ago, i just couldn't be away from her. i don't trust anyone with her other than dp. i find it quite bad she doesn't trust her own family/friends with her dd!!i haven't ever used a babysitting firm purely cos i couldn't afford to, but no qualms (sp?) with family/friends looking after ds. obviously as i am only 18 i wouldn't trust all my friends as i think they would panic and i don't let my sis (23) look after ds unless her dp is there cos she's not very clued up to put it bluntly.

A male friend's friend has an 18 month old daughter. My friend told me that this chap is intent on keeping his life as it was prior to having his little girl.

So they went to the pub together one night to watch the footy, it gets to about 10.30 and this chap says 'do you want to come and get a pizza?' and my mate says okay. They head down to the pizza shop which just happens to be at the corner of this chap's street and his 18 month old daughter is there.

This bad dad had left his daughter with the people at the pizza shop while his wife was at work so he could go and get pissed at the pub. Terrible! He justified it by saying that he 'knew' them quite well so they obviously don't have a very good diet either.

Some people eh...

Oh and I haven't had mine yet so don't know how selfish I will be with him.

I have only a handful of times left my children with anyone other than dh. Prefectly normal I think so prod away. paedophiles dont have big signs above their heads nor do irresponsible adults. a close friend had an in law who is a childminder and the father of one of the children being minded was getting the child to bring friends back and abusing them. another friend entrusted her child to another friend only to find that this friend had let her daughter and friends daughter to to a shop crossing a busy road un attended at 6/7 years old.

Oh dear, I feel like the weird one now.

I have to admit I have, on one occasion only, used the PHONE BOOK, to source a sitter, who came to the house to spare my parents the two hour round trip. (Is there a particular reason why it is so very bad to use an agency that carry out careful checks and generally use teachers or childminders to babysit ?)

I have also booked a babysitter on holiday and on the second evening got her to do the rookiebaby bath. In my defence she was VERY expensive so I'm sure that means she was good, right ?

Oh and our cleaner babysat for us one evening but she loves rookiebaby to bits.

Oh and I leave him at the gym creche for an hour and a half each week, tend to be no other children there and he loves all the attention ( well he seems to he is probably deeply traumatized underneath it all and I will find out about it when he is a teen)

Oh and finally and most majorly transgressing, he goes to the c/m for one session a week although I'm not back at work yet. This is allegedly for a "settling in" period, but is actually just a pitiful excuse for me to meet my friends and Dh for lunch without having to eat it one handed in 10 seconds or less.

My dd started nursery 2 days a week when she was 4 months old, spending 2 days with me & 1 with dh. One night after he'd been looking after her (aged 5 months, I think) she screamed for ages, & he finally admitted he'd given her baked beans & wondered if it might be that! She was left with an assortment of odd bods from an early age, including one evening a week with a 15-y-o babysitter (whom we knew very well) from the age of 2 1/2, & she started looking after ds as well when he was about 5 months old. One time when ds was about 2 or 3 (& dd c.6 or 7) we searched high & low for a babysitter & eventually asked a 13-y-o who was the daughter of someone I knew from toddler group. but she did live just across the road & her mum was in...We do take their views into consideration, however, & try not to ask people again whom they don't really like...oh dear, I think I must have blown it by now...