ok roll up weirdies who NEVER leave their kdis wiht anyone

[TheDaVinciCod]

where are you all?
let me peer at you and prod you

They are here now, but because I'm typing, I've popped the nipples out of the bottom of my trousers. My little darlings are laid on their snuggly beanbags having a nice feed right now.

Dd has stayed at her dads from an early age and also occasionally stays over with grandparents, well, quite a bit actually!

When she was younger (now 2.5) I didn't feel comfortable leaving her with either of my sisters (or most of my friends) as they clearly would have been out of their depth. Once I had them trained, if you will, and dd was used to them, then they got roped in too.

I reckon helicopter is custy

I think people that are "possesive" with their children are very strange.
I have a small circle of people that mine will happily go to and I think it is good for them to be away from mum and dad now and again.
You won't get a medal for being a martyr!
My children have learnt to love and be close to both sets of grandparents and relatives and I think it really helps them become happier, more sociable children.
I personally feel sorry for children that never get let out of their parent's side (new borns excluded).
It's not normal. I agree 100% with Cod on this one.

How dare you. I'll have you know I'm very clean.

So, we only have one person we could ask to have them in an emergency? Where do we rate in weirdo stakes?

Sorry Mellowma, I'll be serious now

It's all hot air now as I'm back at work and DD is at nursery full-time but these are the reasons I never left her for more than an hour until she was 15 months old:

1. my family are a bunch of loons and those that aren't hate my guts

1. ditto for DH's family (but they are SUPER-loony)

1. most of my friends are childless and live in London (I don't)

1. all the "friends" I made at mother and baby groups are complete freaks

1. i appear to have slight trust issues with people in general

In summary, my name is Cashncarry and I am a helicopter parent

can't stop pmsl at helicopter

please please stop making me laugh - I have to get back to work

We don't use babysitters, my parents help out from time to time.Plan our social time for when exes have the kids. Will not leave the kids woth people I hardly know. Dh very very against it.

His ex had a spell of leaving his dd with anyone and going out nearly every night either working or playing. We were furious when we found out. Sdd has been put in some very risky situations in the past and we need to feel that she is secure and protected at all times.

mine sometimes go to my dad, MIL or SIL. We are abandoning them tonight in favour of a pub quiz!

I think it's cod.

but I think it's more and more common now to live further away from family. Gone are the days when we all live in the same town and mum lives just around the corner and is able to pop round and babysit at a moment's notice. people are left more and more in a situation where they simply don't have someone to rely on to look after their children, and if grandparents live hundreds of miles away, it's a few years before dc's are old enough to be sent miles and miles away from home.

DD (almost 9 months) has been left for up to 2 hours very occasionally with dh, but hasn't been left with anyone else as yet. She's bf and won't drink from anything else (though we might be making progress with a new cup), so it's not easy to leave her. She also won't settle for naps anywhere except in her cot or the car (or very occasionally in pushchair), so can't leave her (or even be anywhere with her!) over naptimes.

We also don't have anyone close by who could easily do it for us.

Big step for us will be me coming to Christmas meet up and leaving her for evening with dh.

Cod, are you available to babysit for us?

My brother and his GF will happily give out their DS to any obscure person who will have him (for free)including young girls they barely know who wheel him around the streets for hours on end so that they can work more hours to fund their shockingly bad smoking habit- makes me feel a bit and

I think it's HC

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Hello csws; ds1 was 2 1/4 before he was left with anyone except the odd hour with dh. Not to worry you or anything

You are all terrible parents. Children should NEVER leave their mothers side until they are old enough to get married. i.e. about 30. I had to get rid of DH as he said I was odd! How very dare he.

GTS - who's HC?

Mine are with my parents atm. I'm at work.

DS2 will go to anyone now. He used to wail if he was held by anyone else when he was 3mo, but he was over that by 5mo and as SuzyWong, LGJ, NQC, Marsy, Anorak and Turquoise will vouch he will now go to anyone cheerfully

DS1's a bit more shy, but once he's happy somewhere he's more than confident enough. He'll cheerfully set about reprogramming people's washing machines and setting off their house alarms I should maybe helicopter more with him...!

No, Hc knows the difference between an Attachment Parent (which is what helicopter is actually making in fun of, despite the attempt to parody "helicopter" parents) and a Helicopter Parent. A helicopter parent is one who fusses over all aspects of their child's lives, does their homework for them, and takes them to 20 different after school activities.

All the attachment parents I know give their child as much attention as they want in the early years, and then basically let them get on with it after that They are the parents sitting round having coffee and ignoring their children making mud pies, while the helicopter parents screech and run for the bottle of dettox.

Helicopter - I would have thought your DH was glad to get rid considering the length of your norks

my norks are magnificent. I can watch TV in one room and feed the children in another.

DH doesn't know what he is missing.

with no family nearby and no network of friends in this area (new here) I can only leave ds with close friend when available who is heading to florida for 6 weeks tomorrow!
its often a case of your circumstances dictating, am hoping to meet some mums in same position and we can help each other out but first have to crack a smile out of the frosty faces at playgroups & parks and thats the hardest thing to do....