My kids are gigantic entitled lazy gits, is it too late to turn them around or are we all screwed?

[Barbarella]

We have a nice house and life
Plenty of cash
Cleaner comes 5 times a week
Nanny also here after school, 5 days

Cleaner is off over easter - I've just realised that none of them pick up after themselves AT ALL. Because cleaner or nanny always do it

I'm at home for ten days and am horrified by what entitled little swines they are. WWYD?

I had no chores as a child, teenager or young adult yet I am was and still am incredibly disciplined. I didn't clean or tidy but I studied very very hard over many years, which was, in my own life, more important in the long run. I am still somone with a very strong work ethic. That did not come from being made to make my own bed. I am not saying it is a problem getting young people to do housework, and if that is what is needed in the particular household, to keep things going for everyone, then they should be doing it. Just that doing housework is not something that is particularly valuable in its own right, in my opinion. As long as the family members are all happy with the level of tidiness and cleanliness in the house, whatever that level is and however it is achieved, that is fine by me.

Some really helpful suggestions here, thank you!

The nanny isn't a housekeeper, she's just a part time nanny. The cleaner is employed as a cleaner and housekeeper.

I'm glad plenty of people think they're just normal - they're not bratty children (mostly)

And I agree, it's my choice to hire staff, absolutely.

ppeat interesting about teenage rebellion mode - maybe that's where my DH was at the beginning too He now does washing, dishes, ironing, etc. I think he's realised that if he wanted someone to wash and tidy for him, he married the wrong person. I don't even like doing it for myself

OP the staff issue is always fraught on MN, and in RL sometimes too. But you don't have a problem with having staff so there's no way, if I were you, that I'd be making life more difficult and making someone unemployed to satisfy the anti-staff MNers. My DM worked as a cleaner when I was school-age and she never made a negative comment about clients leaving stuff lying around. She loved cleaning (and still does) sometimes it's hard to believe we are related

I never had to do much housework growing up. Tidy my room when it got to health hazard level and that's about it (though I wouldn't have got away with leaving uneaten food lying about, I admit.) We didnt have a cleaner, my mum did all the routine cleaning and tidying. Not ideal from her point of view, but as an adult, I am more than capable of tidying up after myself. I'm fact I'm the clean and tidy one in the family. DH, who had loads of chores to do as a child, just doesn't see or care about mess. IMO entitled attitudes are not to do with how many chores you inflict on kids, it is a more general attitude that you teach them about their place in the world relative to others. It sounds like you have your head screwed on OK in that respect, so I think they'll be OK!

They sound perfectly normal.
I'd have a cleaner/housekeeper 5 days a week if i could, I find no joy in stripping beds or cleaning loos.
My teens are often equally lazy, my tip is pick up the rubbish they've left lying about and put it in their beds.
A sweaty tennis shoe, empty coke can and 6 bits of paper are not comfy. They'll soon get the message.