Stay at home mums with kids at school, why dont they get jobs??

[sleepinbeauty]

Just a bit hacked off with mums at school, they moan about having no life away from their kids/ not much money, yet they all seem to refuse to get jobs or careers!
why do some women just want to do sweet FA all day when their kids are at school? They seem content for their husbands to slog their guts out at work while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv! Dont get it! i think its called laziness??

At homestart we worked out thatfor Social Services to give the same support (likely)it would cost £800 for every £8 it costs homestart

Homestart runs off mainly stay at home mums

hard facts

What makes you think nurses are not compassionate Sugarfree?

You are not one of these patients that asks the only qualified nurse on a 30 bed ward to bring you a cup of tea when she is in the middle of doing chest compressions on a 19 year old who is dying and then accuses the nurse of not caring because she wouldn't drop what she is doing and bring your one are you? I find people like this are the ones who think that nurses are uncaring. Remember, unless you know how many other patients a nurse has and know what is going on with them, you don't have the knowledge to make any kind of judgement call.

Oh here is one. Once I was the only nurse on a 30 bedded ward and one of my patients started bleeding to death. The hospitals want to save money by only allowing too few nurses on the ward at one time.

They understand that the fucktard public will blame the one nurse running around like a chicken with her head cut off between 30 patients for 15 hours if anything goes wrong. Then the managers pat themselves on the back for a job well done reducing staffing levels and saving money.

Back to to the bleeder. I was running around like a nut trying to hang blood on the guy and do a million other things. He crashed and I started working on him, was still waiting for the crash team to show up.

Another patients daughter walked up to me in the middle of this and asked me to take her mother to the toilet. Keep in mind that I was managing other unstable patients plus people needing painkillers etc etc during all of this. I told her no because I had an emergency.

Had I left that patient to walk someone to the toilet he would have died ( he did live by the way) and I could have been facing serious legal action. The other patients daughter than proceeded to berate me telling me that it was my fault her mother wee'd herself and asked how I could be so uncaring as to not immediately take her mother to the loo. She's probably another one running around saying that nurses are not compassionate. Of course if the managers would have allowed and paid for another nurse or a care assistant to be on the ward there may have been someone else there. But it is all the nurses fault because they are evil and uncaring and think that they are above cleaning people up. Crock of shit.

The thanks you get for working a 15 hour day. If you wanted to hit a nerve sugartwit, you just did. Congrats.

Hey woah slow down Anoah honey, I know it's hard on those wards - one of the reasons I gave it up when I had my babies! How many times have you been asked for a vase in the middle of an emergency - always my favourite. Beleive me I know what you're saying but don't bite

Just a mean name for people who are ignorant.

Remember how you laughed at us SAHM being easy to wind up

Havent read all the thread but would like to say that have been a SAHM for nearly a year on mat leave.My kids are 2.9 and 9 months.I have never been so tired,even when working ft plus loads of ot and unsocial hours including nights.I think in our society the role of the mother is totally undervalued.It is very hard work.I found it easier taking charge of a busy ward than having 2 small children,its a different kind of work but no less valuable.If people want to be SAHM then all power to their elbow.It would be a boring world if we were all the same!!

I don't think nurses aren't compassionate,I've been one for the last 18 years.I think you are.

REALLY not nice to refer to the public Anoah.

Ther are some escellent nurses out there, And some really uncompasionate ones, too. I don't know this because of being an awkward patient, I know it because I too have nursed (mainly psychiatric, many years ago)

Obviously the woman asking you to toilet her Mum was asking way too much- but you know, she was probably concerned about her mother and that's pretty human. Certainly doesn't earn her the offensive title you gave her.

Yes I remember that. I am ultra easy to wind up.

Whoa I just read that back and realised that Anoahtwat transferred a lot of negative crap onto Sugarfree that she has nothing to do with. Wow. I think I am burned out. Sorry Sugarfree.

(Apology accepted btw)

No way. I am getting another job in something totally unrelated to healthcare. I didn't realize how burnt I was until a few seconds ago. Crispy and smokin!

Bloody good on yer! I was doing 3 x earlies a week after Ds3's maternity leave and what with stress at work,holiday clubs,breakfast clubs,a childminder going through a divorce and exhaustion on top of working just to pay child care costs for half the month I decided enough was enough and now do 2 earlies every other weekend.We're all a lot happier now,life is just too short to be that crappy and miserable and you really do sound at the end of your tether.

Dh a nurse too?

Anoah,just seen your post,can empathise.My personal fav was "Oh they are late with the tea again" Whilst busy with a big bleed!!It is hard being a SAHM though cos I miss my colleagues and the camaraderie,the buzz of it all and the "sameness" of my days give a different kind of stress.In some ways am dreading returning as I have slowed my pace far too much!!Also I feel I have no sense of purpose I mean dp asks what Ive done and in the great scheme of things it sounds likre nothing but Ive been working damned hard to develop my children in alll spheres of their life in between the tedious housework.

Just how many nurses do we have on this thread?

Well I suppose my name says it all then .

I am planning to give up work when ds starts school - Yes you heard right. I think it is far easier to work when your kids are very small especially if like me you don't particularly like spending all day every day with little children.

Once they start school the sort of career I have will be pretty much impossible if I want to be in any way involved with their schooling. I plan to work hard now and save money. I'll give up work when ds starts school and use some of the spare time to retrain in something where I am self-employed then go back to work again when ds is about 11 years old (i.e in secondary school).

Medulla,generally I keep quiet in case someone comes over all faint or threatens to show me their scars.

Good point

No DH works for the police. The staffing is getting me down. They are cutting and cutting and cutting nurses out. Despite the fact that there aren't enough people to care for patients we are all lucky to have jobs actually. They really want rid of the qualified staff.

I was ragging on SAHM's earlier but actually I think they are smarter for doing it, especially if they are nurses LOL!! Kids pick up on parent's job related stress. They are making big redundancies where I am so I may end up a SAHM after all for awhile. I'm dying to go work for Pizza Hut you know. Don't know why.

You sound like youve had a crap time Anoah,put your feet up have a glass of wine.I often come home from shifts totally wound up about the usual short staffing and crap that is the NHS.Think Ive mellowed post kids as I try to shut it off but if youve had a pig of a day its hard.

They've just shut 6 beds on my ward,and we've lost 2 untrained and 2 untrained.
I know that there is NO WAY I would do it fulltime anymore,it makes me seethe with fury sometimes.
Will the new job be shifts Anoah? Co-ordinating shifts with DH must be stressful in itself I would think.

You know,if you can afford it why not try SAHM for a spell?