Stay at home mums with kids at school, why dont they get jobs??

[sleepinbeauty]

Just a bit hacked off with mums at school, they moan about having no life away from their kids/ not much money, yet they all seem to refuse to get jobs or careers!
why do some women just want to do sweet FA all day when their kids are at school? They seem content for their husbands to slog their guts out at work while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv! Dont get it! i think its called laziness??

Agree strawberry, I think mums at home do a marvelous job as it is the hardest job I have ever done, perhaps I am getting on my high horse a little but I find it sooooo frustrating.

I am a working mum but am at home at the mo due to broken hand stupidity and I will admit I am vvvvv jealous of sahm

Yes my mum worked once i was at school, and i remember being really proud of it, she was/is a teacher so we didnt need childminders etc.i had friends whose mums didnt work and i found that a bit weird tbh.

"just get part time jobs then, or work from home, or work evenings when your partner gets home"

bless!{hmm}

so you obviously class money more mportant than being with your family/dp/children..cant say i feel the same..im not money orientated, but i do pay my own way and think time with my dp/dd is more important than anything..whats the point of the money if you cant enjoy it?

Yes my mum worked once i was at school, and i remember being really proud of it, she was/is a teacher so we didnt need childminders etc.i had friends whose mums didnt work and i found that a bit weird tbh.

i knew that answer before it came tho!

Sleepin how would you feel if those mums said "why did you have children to dump them on a childminder or holiday playscheme, what a selfish soandso when you don't need to work". Oh to see oueselves as others see us

Sleeping beauty can you teulry put hand on haert and say you have never had a moan about your work . We all have bad days whether at home or paid employemnt .

Perhaps you need an outside interest besides work .

no sleeping beauty, my husband is away a lot, can never do school pick up etc, and he is more than happy for me to stay at home without working, it makes all our lives a lot less streefull (i've tried the work and children bit and it was foul for our circs). I'm not bored (tend to agree with my mum - only boring people are bored), I ride my horse daily,grow my own fruit and veg, meet my friends, do voluntary work, watch all the matches/galas/plays etc that take place during the school day. I can keep my children at home if they are ill instead of having to pretend they are ok because I've got an important meeting, and i do a little bit of work on a business i'm setting up, but go back to work proper - ask me again in 10 years time

or you need to stop earwigging on peoples conversations and judging people you know sod all about!

Sleepin I can understand your argument about not moaning about it - I don't actually know many sahms personally who moan about it though? I'm a sahm mum and tbh it's pretty easy now the kids are at school. Dh has a decent job so I'm not on benefits. My dh isn't a tyrant who expects his meals on the table and a pristine house. I don't expect him to do much though as he works long hours. He does when asked.

Today I spent a few hours cleaning and the house is tidy appart from the bedrooms. Then a friend came and I gave her and my mam lunch. Then we sat and chatted for ages. Then we went to the supermarket. Then I picked up Ds1 as ds2 was at football. Picked up ds2 then tidied some more and made dinner. Tidied again a bit.
Tomorrow I'm spending all day in town with a friend So, I'm not moaning.

I am going for further education soon but it won't affect dss care. When qualified I can pick and choose hours so that'll fit in well. Unless our financial circumstances change? You just never know.

Dh and I have just given up ft jobs to both work part timeish so we can spend more time together and with ds we are totally skint but don't regret decision for one second

When all my kids are at school I'd love a job that fits with school hours & hols and also gives me time off when my kids are sick.

I'll be 40 when this happens & wont have worked in a paid job for 11yrs.

Should be no trouble finding any job then!

You need a reality check here sleepinbeauty

Do you think being a sole earner is worrying?????

What a crock of shit, I have never met a child that's really proud of anything their parents do outside of the house, mother or father. Every child I have ever come across sees any distraction from their parents being with them as something to compete with.

Can't be ar$ed to read the thread beyond the original post so I'll just make my reponse to that:

Hahahahahahahahahahah!

"while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv"

Hahahahahahahaha.....

Actually I was proud of my Dad cos he drove trains and all the boys were jealous cos I could ride in the engine.

Ds1 always says my gift is cooking I don't know where he gets that idea pmsl I once joked I'd go back to work and he was horrified. Made him behave for a whole week

I think you need to realise as well sleepin that some women actually work pre-school and then GIVE UP when their kids go to schl. Is that weird too? Some women find kids starting out at schl need extra support, they need to be there to pick up, to help deal with the problems that schl brings. Not to mention finding a job that fits in with pick ups and drops offs. Really, I don't think you are doing anyone favours with such wide generalisations and in your OP you didn't seem to be just upset by their moaning - you actually called it 'laziness'.

Today I mostly drank peppermint tea

If you are a SAHP and your partner lost his/her job and you knew that you could fairly easily get a job cos you were trained in an area that was always in need of people, would you?

Would you wait for however long it took you partner to get a new job in their field?

How would you feel if you did swap roles?

I am a SAHM and went in as a parent helper on an outing, DD was so happy and all her friend's were rushing over saying "XX your Mum's coming on the trip, my mum can't she is working" I enjoyed it, it made DDs day and I never got that sort of welcome in meetings when I worked , some things money can't buy.

my mum worked as cook cleaner sandwhich maker..anything she could to fit around my schooling, my father (the nonce that he is) ducked and dived mainly in and out of our lives!
I went to colledge for 2 years and since, have never claimed 'dole' and woked right up until i was made redundant on maternity leave...my upbringing was shit, my parents were shit, they gave me no guidance or support, yet i turned out ok!

i was a manager of a large store for 6 years, so i know that me being off now with dd will NOT make her think sod that for a game of soldiers, ill sit on my arse when im older, shell do as she sees fit at the time!