Stay at home mums with kids at school, why dont they get jobs??

[sleepinbeauty]

Just a bit hacked off with mums at school, they moan about having no life away from their kids/ not much money, yet they all seem to refuse to get jobs or careers!
why do some women just want to do sweet FA all day when their kids are at school? They seem content for their husbands to slog their guts out at work while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv! Dont get it! i think its called laziness??

Oh and forgot to add not claiming benefits - we don't get anything, not would i expect too. My mum worked whilst i was child btw, and I remember long summer holidays alone with my sisters, wishing my mum was at home, and getting off the bus into a cold dark house after school all the time.

I wonder if I would be classed as a SAHM? I work 3 mornings a week from 6am to 9am and 7 hours on a Sunday(dh looks after ds)so I am basically there during the 'normal day' and luckily don't have to worry about childcare.

I have often wondered why people who have children who are at school all day (not preschool)don't work. Maybe they just don't have to. I haven't the luxury of giving up work as we need the extra money.
When I was pg I had always thought I would work a lot more hours but now I am a Mum I want to work as less hours as possible.

ullesyees!! you sure you where not doing anything else other than drinking peppermint tea was dh at home with you???
p.s got email thanks x

I think she's on a wind up tbh (or is it a he?)

AngelaChill .. its not a croc of shit, i WAS really proud that my mum was a teacher, i used to tell everyone! When she had a year off (illness) we kept asking "when are you going back to be a teacher again?"
So there.

not read all posts as this is a biggie! first of all apologies if repeating what anyone else said - second - here is my view -

I am a SAHM , have been for almost 3 years - one son at school, DD at home with me as 14 months old. When son at school - apart from raising/nurturing DD, i cook, clean, wash, iron, hoover, mop, run errands, make meals and packed lunches etc etc etc so yes , my husband slogs his guts out at work - but i'm kind of breaking a sweat too!!!

what is so wrong with being at home, looking after family home, and being there for the kids.

organising childcare for kids when at work is a nightmare - so many mums i know struggle with child-minders letting them down, what to do in school hols etc...what to do if kids ill and can't go to school...

I'm not lazy - might sit down and have a cup of tea now and again when DD sleeps - but I'm pretty sure most people working outside the home get a tea break too.....

sure this thread will run and run

lilymolly, left a message on the love life thread.

drosophila - I have asked my dh if he is worried or stressed about being the sole wage earner - he's not (genuinely).

why would you care about someone else's life if you're so happy? I have one child at home and one at school. I work evenings, and will change to days when dd starts school. But believe me, If i didn't need to work I wouldn't do it, as i'm knackered, I rush about all the time, and i don't seem to have any me time when they are in bed. If they're moaning, let em.

Back from Basketball and baths. If I appeared rude I unreservedly appologise it was not my intention but I typed quickly to get it out before the off.

What I meant was I always wonder about the posters who come on and start a thread that is going to be a fight to justify opposing view points. I meant to say that I dont see mumsnet like that infact I have always found it a source of fun, help and advice. I wondeed if SinB or other posters of "fight" threads really wanted to chat or share with like minded folk but somehow it came out wrong. If that is the case Im sure that MN has a place to suit somewhere on its boards. Hope that comes out OK - like I say didnt mean to be rude, subtle or otherwise.

ooh shall we all meet up tommorrow after the tv programme on smacking your child?? kidding keeping well away from that one.......

Well may post just 1 comment

Just out of interest Sleeping beauty what line of work are you in and how long have you been doing it .

I know alot of professional mums, including myslef who meorked for many yeras before children and had quite stressful jobs who are now SAHM. Beacuse no matter what Government and legislation says it is not always easy for Mums to go back to work and find child friendly hours and make it all fit.

Do you work school hours and term time only ?

Or do you have to arrange after school care and care during school holidays ?

I'm a SAHM MP, but I'm touching a computer right now

I think the problem is that Sleeeing beauty has made a generalistaion in her inital posting.

christina there are no underlying issues in our house thank you very much, if i wanted to work i could there would be no problem inworking but out of respect for me my dh has always said that since having kids dont ever think i would have to go back to work. Before i had children i worked and he didnt i had the good job, when i had ds1 he then went back to his profession, why should i be critised for having a husband who respects everything i do in this house and i never feel under a ny pressure to contribute financially towards the home, i like picking my kids up from school and doing all the fun things that women who work full time miss out on it so you can carry on taking the piss out of me as much as you want but me and dh are both sat here laughing at some of the stupid threads - you may think i live in the 50's but we have a very happy family how about yours?

thanks morningpaper, someone is on my wavelength! also, yes maybe i was generalising on my OP ..

i ahvent time to wroka dni am not prepared to run myself ragged adn deprive my kdis of attention after schoolt o wrok for money we dont need,
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MP I don't think that there is a lot of "spiritual/emotional or intellectual fulfillment" in a lot of poorly paid part time work that women do to fit around school hours.

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a dn lets face it if you dont need WHY do it
god men woudlnt do it woudl they

that magging though Cod - that must give you "spiritual/emotional or intellectual fulfillment"

you can read the last thread sleepin beauty as well

it doesn't pay well though does it