Gardening in the winter sun. 40-something mums Christmas thread

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40-something mums with babies of all ages - please join us. The 20-something and 30-something mums will never satisfy you like this thread.

Scarecrow. . . Are you being dramatic again :) your only going back 3.5 days a week ( if i remember correctly ) that still leaves 3 lazy morning and 4 play afternoon's. :) and they will be even morepprecious. Xx
Good luck, I'll be thinking of you. Xx

Weaning has taken over here! Yesterday rosebud hoovered her Sunday roast straight off the highchair tray, tonight she smacked her lips repeatedly whilst licking rice and chicken off her fingers and suckled green beans like lollypops. I've just made a jelly for some messy play tomorrow :)
Bought a new bath seat at the weekend which has revolutionised bath time it's so much more fun when they can sit up.

While In the bath tonight dd passed a toy from one hand to the other in order not to loose it whilst reaching for the sponge. She's so cleaver

Rosie, pears can help transit for Rosebud. Is she better now ?

She's having a pear every lunchtime and prunes in yoghurt for breakfast. .. it's keeping things moving.... no cosmic poo story's yet though.

Also apricots and peas (not at the same time) as snacks/treats. :) a few peas on her walker tray and she's happy for ages

Also apricots and peas (not at the same time) as snacks/treats. :) a few peas on her walker tray and she's happy for ages

And water with high content of magnesium, that helped me in the past and DS ! Watch out for poonami

When I was pregnant with BG, DH and I were having lunch in a pub, and I was watching a little boy in a high chair who was really enjoying his lunch. He looked about 18 months old. Was having a bit of trouble picking up the peas though, as they just kept escaping around the tray. So in the end he just put his head down and hoovered them!
Them his mum handed him a serviette. He looked at her blankly, so she said 'Go on, wipe your face!' and mined the action. Complete comprehension dawned on his little face and he ate the serviette...
Your mentioning the peas reminded me, Rosie! They are a big favourite here too - BG carefully picks them out of stew and eats them first. Ah, weaning, happy days...

I know it's been ages since I posted, I've haven't had much time to MN lately, (also I find it absorbing an awful lot of time when I do come on!). I hope all fab 40+ mums and babies are doing well. Scarecrow, I hope your return to work is going ok. I'll try and catch up in the next few days. DD2 is nearly 6 months old (no idea how that happened) and lovely, so weaning is looming - I'm going to try baby-led which her nanas will definitely disapprove of, so will probably be seeking advice!

sparkly welcome back! I think.of you often, especially wondering how dh is getting along - and so of course you, doubly so. We have a Facebook group which you are welcome to join - just pm Knotty. There are lots of blw mums and babies here to advise - the photos on FB are

return to work is thankfully soft as been given a week to get into the swing of things before I have to produce anything. Boy it's inactive though sittin behind a desk. It's a v friendly place to work which is nice, and I am enjoying getting my brain working again. Such that it is! Yesterday DD had quite a high temperature and seemed v worried by the change so woke a lot needing reassurance on Mon night, while T is still waking twice a night too, though I did one feed on way to bed. Last night though was good and though I gave T a bottle at half 4 they were both still asleep when I left this morning at half 6. (Bah, they learn to sleep just now???!) I think DD just needed to :^know^ I would come back and pick her up etc and she seems so much more at peace. T continues to be happy as long as somebody fills his belly and cuddles him on demand, and seems to be loving the cm's - another baby all morning and heaps of cuddles all afternoon : what's not to like if you are 10 mo?!

Rosie you are right I'm starting back on a 3-day week by taking holiday, so cannot complain. In fact I feel a bit spoiled.

Sorry I've been a bit absent - the broken nights and the worst cold I've ever had took their toll and I find my evenings more and more filled with.domestic drudge and early.nights. Waves and hugs to.those that need them. xx

So today is my actual birthday... so far I've lost a set of keys... and have someone who needs their heads knocked together over some stingy stationery ordering on my budget which means my assistant whose salary my budget is paying, is left hoping things come back to her with flimsy envelopes, that she's having to hand write an address code on that should have been printed on the envelopes that my budget paid for.

I have a righteous birthday rage.

I did get a very cute card from DS (either helped by the CM or my DH, I'm not sure which though there was a suspicious pen mark on his hand when he came back from the CM, though it was DH who picked him up!).

I also have cake, that I made, and that smells delicious. It's concealed in the fridge in the break room at work, and I've notified a few of my colleagues and friends that cake will be eaten later this afternoon, in a location at work (but far from my office)...

Do you want to keep guessing what my present is, or shall I tell you (I haven't actually opened it yet).

Happy birthday!!!! Has your DS borrowed your keys? If so, and you find them, could you tell me where they were? Haven't seen mine for about ten days now...
I currently have utterly no imagination but a healthy dose of curiosity. I want to know what your present is!

Oh, and the flavour of the cake

My keys are my second set of work keys (for doors, cabinets etc. that are only at work - not my office door, and not my house keys) so they are either somewhere at work, or possibly in a bag or coat that I've brought to work in the last few weeks.

Cake is banana and chocolate (the one my mum said was going to be HORRIBLE), which chocolate ganache.

I have let my mum off though as she's given me a generous cheque which is very nice of her.

The present is an overlocker (and I know most of you don't know what that is - it's a kind of sewing machine).

The cake sounds yum! When are we coming over?...

And my mum had an overlocker. Do you do a lot of sewing?

Happy birthday DrSpouse ! Love the choc and banana cake, enjoy !!!! Would have never found an overlocker.... What is it ?
Sparkly, so nice to hear from you. Can't believe your LO is already 6mo!!!! How are things with DH?
Goat, are you ok ? So sorry for DH. Hope he is ok too. Lots of love to you.

happy birthday drspouse I'm sure your mum is lovely, etcetera, but boy she had no idea about cake - it sounds YUMMY!! I have a recipe for chocolate carrot cake I'm going to have to dust off now I think.... In million years I'd not have guessed an over-locker. Enjoy!

and x

Thanks everyone!

Overlockers are used for sewing knit fabrics, mainly - if you're wearing a t-shirt, the seams will have been done with an overlocker.

I now have acquired more cake. My assistant and a couple of other nice work friends came to have tea and cake at the work cafe, but the assistant is new and hadn't been to this cafe before so didn't understand that I was bringing cake... so she brought a Victoria sponge as well!

DH has gone to get a takeaway and I'm about to open my new toy!

Hello everyone,
Happy birthday drspouse
Scarecrow, very glad the back to work is going well and lovely that your office is a nice place to be. ;) it makes a huge difference if you enjoy your work too (which I know you do
Had a very impromptu meet with pudding yesterday. .... We managed a takeaway coffee under a tree!!! my chosen destinations shut at 3 and pudding parked in a different car park and had to cross the whole park to get to the coffee shop. :) baby pud is just lovely and doing really well with her weaning. She is also quite mobile and getting into mischief :)

We are hoping to meet again tomorrow for a walk and coffee (weather permitting)

Hi sparkly. :) i think of you often too. Where did the time go? ? Dd too has reached and passed the magic 6 months! Hope you're enjoying her. Weaning well underway here, we're doing a bit of everything mostly finger stuff but some puree (from ellas wonderful kitchen I struggled with chocking fear to start with but she's been really good lately) I started with tastes of fruit then mushed fruit and yogurt and sweet potato. Now I give her most things to try. I had a long chat with pudding which really helped my confidence also got some great advice on here (not that far back if you want a look) also kn

Hi all!!!
I post mostly on fb now as I can't keep up with posting here on my phone....but reading often.
I am posting here today because on fb my dh might be able to see...here it goes....

Should J be our last one? I am 42 and dh is 54. He will retire as a teacher in his sixties. He is fit but losing his hearing...
I definitely would like another one! I feel like my quota is not there. Even though I haven't slept properly since mister J no sleep came to our lives.! :)

My dh worries that he will be too old ( considering the gap before another pg). Is it true??
I can't ask others so asking here. Is it a cultural thing? Is it not to be done here apart from celebrities??? Should i let it go???

His twin sister frowns on us for having another one so late( although she is besotted with J). Dh is in love with our little man.

Of course it might not happen at all if we tried...as we all know making babies is a wondrous and magical thing...

DH felt supported knowing there were other 40's mums knowing not all would be married to a younger guy....

Notso, a friend of mine 43 has decided to have her first child with the love of her life 54, they have known each other for 20 years and have just reconnected and made the big jump. Both are healthy, hard working, energetic, have other children. I am highly admirative and wish them all the best. AFM, Had I been 10 years younger, I would have gone for a 3rd baby but I can just cope as things are now, DH was happy with 1, he agreed with a 2nd because I really really wanted and loves both to bits but somehow it has changed our relationship, which I hope will get out of these first 3 years stronger (only another 18 months to go, fx!)

notsoold We are both much older than you (about the same age gap between us). DH will retire around the time that DS finishes primary school. I reckon it's going to be very useful to have a retired dad to ferry him to football practice/Scouts/brass band or whatever time consuming extracurricular activity he decides to do!

The upcoming adoption will hopefully be our second, and will definitely be our last, though. We reckon one per hand (if you are on your own with them) or one per parent is just right.

So I don't know how many you have already, but the total number of children in your family is a personal decision. However neither of you are too old - because if you are, we're FAR too old. DS was born when I was 44.

Totally agree with drspouse, it's such a personal thing. I was also 44 when DD was born, although DP is a couple of years younger.

Hello all, lovely sunny day here - I've been just been building furniture and toys for toddler seaside - bits of wood and piles of screws have been kicking around here since Christmas. I feel very handy.

Happy birthday for yesterday drspouse I would really like an overlocker - have you used it yet?