Gardening in the winter sun. 40-something mums Christmas thread

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40-something mums with babies of all ages - please join us. The 20-something and 30-something mums will never satisfy you like this thread.

Rosie, have a great time with your best friend and DD2 and DGS. Brilliant news about the car. How are things on the house sale front ?
Somewhere, love the 2 stories. I can imagine baby Some blowing and smiling at you, isn't it the cutest smile ever ? I have tried to take pics of A when she has this look but can't avoid taking my boob at the sale time so I have given up unless I photoshop them afterwards.... I hate my nursing bras, can't stand them anymore. I have a biker learher vest which looks awful if I have my nursing bras on ! But much better if I use normal ones. But I am too lazy to get changed during the day. Anyway, yeah to BF for cleavage ! Maybe I should keep on until she is 4... if I find nicer nursing bras maybe :)
DrSpouse and Scarecrow, thank you so much for your detailed post. I suppose I need to speak to each potential schools to find out what their policy is. DS has some classmates that are born in July, August so almost 9 months after him, they look so tiny but they seem to be absolutely fine, probably exhausted at the end of the week, poor sweety pies. His school also offer Wed afternoon off throughout Reception year, it is a solution, a long nap to recover and restart the 2nd bit of the week fresher ! I have a few months before deadlines for putting her name down so will start next week. Thank you again.

Rosie, stair gates are on since A was 10 months, they were on door openings first, then she was so upset that I moved them to stairs, she can now deal with going up and down most of the time and falls are a constant worry and I make sure I m behind her when she goes up, she is never out of my sight or reach. DH is just a bit too relaxed and she has no fear tbh. Scary, isn't it ? It is hard to find the balance between letting them try and being overprotective.

Hi everyone! Sorry I don't post very often, but I do try to catch up as often as I can. Somewhere, lovely stories re Baby Somelet, and I really hope things improve with your sister. Rosie, glad you're back home in one piece. I did try to keep up to date with all the goings on in Egypt, sounds like you dealt with it all magnificently. Love all the little descriptions of Rosebud. Have a fab time with your family. Drspouse, wishing you all the best with the adoption process, your DS sounds gorgeous. Eagle, hope Eaglet's eye is better. Goat, you poor thing, really hope you're both feeling better. BBD, blimey, the stairs incident sounds scary, really glad A was OK.
Similar developments here - Rosa loves to climb the stairs as well, I have to make sure I'm behind her as she thinks she can do two at a time! Yesterday, she also worked out how to climb onto the armchairs but she can't get down on her own which scares the bejesus out of me as she climbs up, perches on the edge with her back to the edge, looking all chuffed with herself but teetering backwards! Oh well, in a few weeks, she'll be doing something else! She is walking but only if you hold her hand. She is obsessed with books and will look at them nearly all day. No interest in TV at all and believe me, I've tried! Unlike DS at that age, who would happily sit and watch the Boobahs whilst I washed up. I have to do it with Rosa clinging to my leg, trying to shove a book at me! She loves looking for pictures of dogs and makes a very excited "woof woof" sound when she finds one. She smiles nearly all the time, and if someone she doesn't know speaks to her, she coyly tips her head to one side whilst smiling. I'm loving taking her to Music Bugs where she has a particularly affection for the parachute! Sorry for the indulgent post .
DP is looking after her today and I'm taking DS to see the Lego Movie give me strength. Hope everyone has a lovely Sunday .

Hello all, long time no chat, just dropping by to say hi and make unrealistic promises to stay in touch better in future. I'm back at work ft :-( and babyseaside - well toddlerseaside these days - is in nursery. Thank god that bit is going ok so far. After having been a complete velcro baby, she now thankfully sleeps in her OWN BED!!! and naps at nursery without any boobs. wow. I'm living proof that things get easier, even if you are a complete soft touch and can't face any kind of sleep training. (lack of backbone masquerading as attachment parenting )
knotty I'm trying to encourage tv too - her sitting still ability is far too short these days, so I don't get anything done. DP bu**ered off, so I have no back up now. I try to clean bathroom etc when she's in the bath, but she's taken it as a green flag to do a massive poo if in there for more than a couple of minutes. ugh. A new low.
Will try and catch up with what's going on with you all, but will probably fail
(special wave to Monkey and Eagle - I promise I will email soon sorry)

seaside lovely to hear from you. how did you get baby seaside in her own bed ???

What do you mean Dh has buggerd off?

Xxx

Hello Seaside, it is good to hear from you !
Just saying a quick hello, on my own for most of the week with kids, all will be fine, my new mantra, all will be fine....

Hello everyone!!! Lurking as always and seeing you all on fb but no posting.
J decided by himself to no more swaddling and his getting better at sleep. He hates with H the sleeping bag though so blankets it is!!!

Our old thread from when pregnant is being used again!!! They were asking for an update on our births/ babies. Just thought I would let you know....

Back to lurking.... But grateful for all your support and love!¡

Looking forward to seeing some of you tomorrow.
Don't be surprise to see a zombie though. 2nd night on my own, DS playing up and asking me at 5am to teach him how to sleep on his own (!) and A took an hour to fall asleep, eventually down at 8.30pm, then woke up at 3.30 and 6 and at 7.20 still asleep.... DS was up at 5, woke him up at 7.15 of course he was tired... Will go to bed at the same time as the kids tonight.

Bbd, we can prop each other up in a corner!

Yep Goat ! Zzzzzzzz....

Seaside it is such a treat to hear from you: I am so so sorry about DH leaving (did I understand he has left you?) - the last I remember you were supporting him through illness too. It seems especially cruel in many ways but hope you can start to fins your own space and time and happiness. That ToddlerSeaside is so confident in herself is an inspiring lesson in the security and happiness a mummy can bring to a baby'a life when so much around her is in flux. I am genuinely moved by how lovely-a-mum you.must be, and really hope somebody is supporting you when you must bw giving so much to others.
We love it when you visit: and/or pm.Knotty if you are on FB and want to chat there instead.
take care x

notso great about J moving out if swaddle in his own time: it's a good reminder how often I worry away at how or when to move to a next phase and then when dc ready its actually pretty easy. Great news too about our old thread....I need to find it!

Hi all, well we've been going through a bit of a roller coaster, if it isn't one thing it's another. DS and DH are well which is the most important thing. The adoption approval process is moving ahead, though very slowly, but there are some hiccups in the overseas end, we just hope they are temporary.

seaside I too am sad to hear what it sounds like has happened?

Anyway I said I'd meet someone for about 20 mins before I have to pick up DS but they are 10 mins late now so I'm going to have to go soon!

Drspouse- sounds like adoption is like pg somehow with worrying growth scans or missing paperwork, hope you get better news soon
Seaside, I am sorry, Talk to us if it helps, big hugs to you and toddlerSeaside
Somewhere, how was baby Somelet today with nanny ? How did you feel if you had a chance to think about her amongst all the things you had to deal with today.
Goat, what did doc say about recurring stomach aches for baby Goat ? Is he better today ?
On the puke side, I just had an episode involving again blueberries. 2nd time A coughs and throws up in 18 months, so it is not too bad, but each time she had blueberries and her white night gros and bedsheets have blue spots... Anyway, it is not an allergic reaction as she often eats them with no issue and here I am with 5 spare min to post waiting for the first wash to finish and put a second wash in !

Scarecrow, enjoy your week end and will be thinking of you next week. You know you have lots of pics of DS and DD on your phone to look at if you miss them too much

LRM, a bit early but happy birthday tomorrow

To all, wishing you a lovely Valentine's day, hope DH will treat you all as you deserve.

Time is up, washing machine has just finished.... Good night everyone

Seaside' lovely to see you here! Do come back again. about your DH. You sound like you (and baby seaside) are doing amazingly.

BG is much better, and the dr was actually helpful! this being my usually crap dr who thinks of me as a hysterical pfb mother. He looked on the computer, saw the diagnosis of CMPI and his manner changed entirely. Hmm, interesting what a diagnosis from a proper person (I.e. A male hcp) will do. Anyway. He said that given the intolerance, this means that BG has never had the opportunity to recover from the tummy bugs properly and is possibly developing a lactose intolerance as a result. So we are to take him off everything including goat milk etc etc for four weeks, give him soya milk, and if things improve, he will prescribe proper lactose/protein free milk. As you shouldn't overload boys under four with too much soya, so he wouldn't want BG on it long term. So we have a plan of action and watch this space!

Downside is that BG in his generosity shared his d&v with me. I have been off work for two days. Thank goodness for an extremely understanding line manager.

Hope you are all well!

Hi everyone. Happy valentines
Hugs seaside, I'll be your valentines if you need one today.
Come on ladies make me with pics of your lovely valentines gifts. :)
Life crazy here. Rosebud constipated and grumpy. Having a car again is great, dd1and dgs ccoming tonight for the weekend. Looking at jobs and nursery.

Hope everyone is surviving the storms. (Scarecrow? ??)
Goat glad you have a plan. Fx things start to get better. Dd2 was dairy and wheat intolerant till about 4, once i got the hang of it it became easy to manage. Xx
Right. Dd asleep. .. more tidying to do.

Hi

Hi ladies finally found you all. Missing in action for months. How is everyone. Dylan and I are dandy. Toddler Dylan now. Walking some talking like oh dear jasper and shoes. My little man is running around destroying my house love him

Finally it's Friday - didn't get to go to toddler "dancing" as it wasn't on today, and next week is half term, but we got some errands run this morning. A friend who is moving away at very short notice came over at lunch time. Then my mum came to stay and is being her usual high maintenance self [confus.

(I've just had to reload the dishwasher after making dinner, with her "watching" DS, and letting him throw his ball in the TV room, she did offer to tidy up but as I say she didn't really DO the tidying, and rather than saying "oh I'll make you a birthday cake", she asked "what kind are you going to make" and when I told her she said "that sounds horrible" . I'm just counting the minutes till she complains I haven't made up her bed).

And I have a headache, and I'm trying to stick to my MFP calorie total today, and while the wine isn't tempting me, the chocolates our guest earlier in the week brought definitely are.

We've reached a truce with my mum as she (faint) found a cake in the supermarket that she deigned to admit was edible (it was one that I thought looked lovely but she is fussy about bought cake too).

So we'll have that for afternoon cake today and if there's not much left by my actual birthday I'll make the one I was planning.

Gosh drspouse, I sympathise with the fraught cake! Who knew it could be so emotive. Hope the rest of the visit is going

...ok.
Lovely weather. we are off out while everyone is relatively healthy!

We did have a fairly calm visit to a play farm, DH wasn't going to come as he's feeling a bit rubbish but I pointed out to him that it was more work to take her and DS than just DS. So he very kindly came and I'm going to bring him a steady stream of tea this afternoon.

I did have to shout in the car on the way back as I went round a sharp corner and she shouted in that way that means "OMG there's a hazard you haven't seen!" except when she does it, when it means "OMG there's a hazard and I can't let it go by without exclaiming". But if you're driving and negotiating a corner or hazard and someone does that you look to see what else you haven't spotted. Which is not safe. But I'm not entirely sure if she didn't hear me, or got the point that it's not safe to shout in the car.

Oh DrSpouse what a stressful journey. I find it too very difficult to have a shouting passenger when I drive. I have not driven since I moved to London, except when I go back for hols... But I will have to get back to it when A is 4 because I won't be able to deal with schoolrun otherwise. I am trying as much as I can not to use a car, it is ok atm as we are in London. Wondering if I should take a few lessons beforehand.

It has been non event days, it ishalf term, have both DCs today, house is a bombsite ! Planning visit to swimming pool and museums for DS when A is at nursery, playdates and it will be it ! Today was a pyjamas day :)

back to work tomorrow on the 6.41am train.

good bye maternity leave, morning cuddles in bed, days being smiled at by my handsome boy, naptime cuddled.up to DD or baking and licking the spoons together, lazy afternoons bf my baby boy and doing jobs on the carpet, walking dd to nursery school, holding her hand and listening to her chatter, morning coffee with all of you lovely ladies catching up on news and sharing happiness and worries.....

Goodbye too fretful mornings running late because DD keeps taking her shoes off and T has pooed, again; to endless floor.mopping, to never being able to send an email because one child is eating the mouse and the other is "helping mummy" by pressing keys on the keyboard.....

thank you for the company, advice, sympathy and laughter xxx

oh, and last night my little boy asked for me: "mama, mama...."

Will be thinking if you tomorrow morning Scarecrow whilst bfing A. Come back, please. Good luck, my friend. You will get used to it, "mama, mama"