Do you love your children more than your husband

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As husband could leave anyday (they come and go, obviously )
Do you feel more love for your child ?

There is no opposition here - it's never either/or.

I love them all, and I care for each according to their needs.

I love them equally but differently.

But... I can imagine that if DH died I would at some point find a new relationship.

If my children died I might need to be sedated for the rest of my life.

I agree with SummerRain.

Would jump in front of a train to save DC's but wouldn't try so hard for DP.

I know that I can't imagine life without either my hubby or my baby, it would be unbearable either way. It is a different love and both are immeasurable.

I heard someone say once: "When you meet the love of your life, you would throw yourself under a bus for them. When you have children, you realise that for them, you would throw the love of your life under a bus."

I think I love DH and the DC differently, so I can't even begin to compare the two.

Also, what elfycat said.

This did not end well last time it was asked

I agree that it's different love and in a way you love them equally but I'm not sure that I do. If someone said I could only have one or the other I'd pick the children every time and I'd hope DH would say the same.

Yes.

"When you meet the love of your life, you would throw yourself under a bus for them. When you have children, you realise that for them, you would throw the love of your life under a bus."

Creepy.

No and I think thats the best way to make a child secure. I love the fact my parents have been together since they were teenagers, and that we have such a strong family bond with each member as important as the other. Dh and I are replicating that with our children as well.

Yes. Like others have said, it the total unconditionality (not an actual word? nvm) that makes the difference, not the intensity.

I love them in a very different way. It is incomparable.

@pokamoo
That's creepy. I don't think about such stuff or situations and i would rather die to save them all instead of sacrificing one over the other.

Yes!

I think it's one of the many reasons why some women completely collapse when their OH walks out on them. If you think of him in this light:

'BUT I love their daddy more. Their daddy is the most important person in this world to me. He’s my partner. We’re a team. He’s my best friend. He’s my lover. He’s here for me and me for him.'

then what can you do when the centre of your universe ends the relationship, but die inside?

No.

I can't really compare, I love them both immeasurably and couldn't imagine being without either.

I agree with jasminerose

I also have so much admiration for the Mnetters who have lost children and still manage to keep going and live their lives. The courage that must take on a daily basis is unimaginable to me.

I think its the other way round silverapples and that tje marriages that die is because they didnt do anything together like talk, laugh, have sex and carry on being best friends like they were when they met.

Our children are always saying daddy kiss mummy or tell her you love her and vice versa. Thats what children want more than anything a happy, secure family unit.

Dare you to try that line on the relationships board jasmine!

@silverapples
I don't know what you are talking about. I am not dependent on my dh. But we do know that "The best thing we can do for our kids is to provide a happy and loving home with happy parents".
My mom always put US first and when we left she didn't had anything in common with our dad. They parted ways.
Having kids should not be the end of a marriage. Without my husband there would be no kids to begin with.

No, differently.

I think its natural to love your children more than a partner. We are all genetically programmed to put them first, and protect them at any cost. That doesn't mean you can't have a strong and enduring relationship with said partner as well.

@yorkieaddict
And we wonder why our divorce rates are so high ?

Its a different love. There is not just one sort of love.

It's not black and white though is it? Divorce rates aren't high because people love their kids more than their partners.

The two aren't mutually exclusive you can love both and maintain both relationships perfectly well.