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Leaving kids in the car

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chicaguapa · 19/04/2006 23:29

I have recently been in a situation where I was challenged for leaving my kids in the car while I popped into a shop.
I had driven to B&Q to get a pot of paint. Both my children fell asleep on the way, so I parked right next to the door and ran in to get the paint. I left 2 windows slightly open so there was air in the car. Unfortunately there was a huge queue and by the time I got out both had woken up and the youngest who was under 1 at the time was crying. This was noticeable as the windows were open.
There was a man hanging around who started shouting at me and said he was about to phone the police to report me. Initially I was quite shocked and particularly annoyed as he'd confronted me then walked off without giving me a chance to answer back. But I was pleased that we live in a society where people look out for other children. I would have preferred that than everyone walk past my crying child and not give a sh*t. If that makes sense.
I never really know what to do about leaving the kids in the car. I have a friend who often leaves her kids in the car and pops in a shop up the road out of sight! I have memories of sitting in the car for what seemed like hours while my parents did the shopping. But not everything they did then is ok now.
So I'm always faced with a dilemma. If they are awake, there's no question. But I hate to wake them. And then do I lock the car or not? I have central locking and do lock it as I feel it's too easy for someone to open the door and steal one of them. But then I worry that if the handbrake suddenly failed and they needed to be got out, there'd be no way in. Or is the simple answer, never leave them in the car alone? I normally try and do everything right and would hate to think I'm taking enormous risks with my kids.

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ma2cra · 24/04/2006 22:02

It was very traumatic Greensleeves, our eldest had just started in reception, my youngest was 3/4 months old, and we had a toddler inbetween. Poor mites hardly had a look-in for a while.

curlysmum · 26/04/2006 00:36

Sorry not very good at links but this is the case I always think of when I hear about this type of thing. It happenned not far from where I live. I can remember it still quite clearly. This baby was never found the father went to the cash point and picked up a takeaway quickly got back and the baby was gone. Is it really worth the risk for a few short minutes

news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/4232659.stm

jellyjelly · 28/04/2006 18:57

That story is so sad, i would and never have left my son in the car to do anything other than pay for petrol at tesco when i can see him and when the pay at pump isnt working and i try to avoid doing it when ds is with me anyway. (even when i had 4 i would take them in the shops with me.

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Seona1973 · 28/04/2006 20:31

I have on occasion left dd in the car, asleep, while paying for my petrol (not until she was around 2 though). If she is awake she wants to come in with me so she can buy something!! When she was younger (in a travel system car seat) I used to take the car seat complete with dd in with me. I would not consider leaving her alone in the car anywhere else, e.g. to go into a shop where she will be out of sight. I always lock the door if I do leave her in the car at the petrol station.

unpaidcleaner · 28/04/2006 20:35

No, never have, never would. don't have a car Grin. seriously though, kids go everywhere i go.

unpaidcleaner · 28/04/2006 20:36

and i seriously havent got a car, btw!

Filyjonk · 28/04/2006 21:25

would leave them to go pay for petrol. my 2 yo would be more of liability walkig over forecourt, esp since i'd be holding baby also. if i had just one, i'd take them though.

haveg said that i do leave my keys, mobile etc on the front seat. maybe i shouldn't esp with kids in car...

Thomcat · 28/04/2006 21:29

I'm finding this one really difficulat at the moment. My 4 yr old has special needs and can't walk. I also havean 18 week old. What do you do? I have to carry DD1 in, leave her, run and get DD2. Leavign DD1 while I get DD2 isn't always safe, so I hhave to leave DD2 in the locked car for longer than I want to. But what is the alternativ e. What other option do I have?

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