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[Hpbp]

Mum of 2, DS1 nearly 4yo and DD2 almost 11 weeks. I hope to find here advices from experienced mums so that I can avoid mistakes... I made some with DS1 and my life sometimes is hell, it is hard to unlearn wrong behaviour, so hard.
At the time being, DD2 is a very sweet baby, she is easy to decipher, cries are always related to some kind of discomfort and I managed to learn what they mean, or almost. Only one issue with her ATM is that she rejects bottle feeding even with expressed milk. I'd like to be able to escape a bit from the house to get a haircut or a facial. And I am sure DH would like to feed her sometimes too.
I struggle a bit more with DS1, who is usually a good boy, energetic, happy and loving. But after school, getting him to take his bath is a battle and falling and staying asleep all night are big issues. The problems did exist before but now with the recent arrival of his sister, the intensity has increased. Or maybe they are the same but to me they seem bigger and need to be addressed quickly so that I can look after both without raising my voice.
All advice are welcome. I need help here.

Also I'd like to invite all the graduates from the Fantastic 40+ Mums to be thread to join. You have been truly fantastic and so supportive during my pg. I hope to be able to keep on sharing with you this wonderful parenting adventure.

Shuffles with Vq I think I have a prolapse

What a niče morning i have nad. Woken up by baby monkey at six. We both had breakfast. Had a good bed time play with phone and rattle. Change of poo pants. Grabbed some nuts and have laid here cuddling for three hours. His little face looking up at me. Fabulous :-D. Hair not brushed. Still in Jim jams. House a tip. Priceless. Got two items on eBay as well couple of tops. So happy Friday. Bloody starving now. Could murder a big mac and fries

Valium queen. Shuffle back very soon. We miss u

Midget that doesn't sound nice, although im not quite sure what one is?

lrm lovely! We've just had relaxing tummytub bath, put her best clothes on (im still in baggy bottomed leggings. its the scruffy mine artist look again :( ) and waiting for visitors! God im tired, but baby seasides munchiness does help a lot

Just tired. Very tired. Very tired indeed.

He is 3 weeks old now, so hopefully the fog will lift soon.

It is hard with three from a logistical point of view. DD2 wakes at 5.30, which is usually just after DS has decided it is sleep time.

I need to wake him now (been settled since 1pm) to attempt a feed before the school run. Gonna try the sling today. Wish me luck!

DH finds it very hard to get out of bed in the morning he says this morning. He is being a lazy twat. His mother and sister are visiting tomorrow apparently, and staying for two sodding nights. Fuckballs!

I am however, very happy with my lovely boy, and know that this too shall pass

I hear you VQ, 2 is hard enough for me, I can't imagine what it would be with number 3. But you are right, it shall pass. Hang on. Sending you big hugs.

Vq. Sending u massive hugs and admiration for doing it with a three week old and your other two. Hope your visitors chip in and help u. If not pot noodles for all for tea. U get yourselves nice Chinese sit in bed with your Jim jams on and enjoy. Oh and some choccy biscuits.
I feel knackered today but have no place saying so as u must work very hard at being a mum.
I have decided not to google any more baby stuff as it had made me mental with the green poo. Oh he has yellow poo and seems much better. I eliminated diary and eggs for the week. Dont know if it helped but I like to think so especially as I miss my cup of brew and choccy oh and cereal.
Dp off the weekend so nice for a break as he can do some poo duty.
Whats everyone else up to. Christmas shopping. Sounds crap but everyone Is getting vouchers this year as I dont fancy hours around the shops. Winsome bits online. But would rather rest at home. Plus first year off in retail at christmas so last thing I want to see is shops and more shops. My go nuts and do some baking snd homemade cards :

Midget. R u ok twinkle?

oh vq, I'd be fed up too if dps family came to stay. Well just hand them a list of jobs to do (or the baby to hold), including making up their own beds and getting dinner (or have fish and chips for every meal). this doesn't seem to bring out the best in some DHs does it? should realise they can't seriously complain about being tired when you are bf all night! luckily my dp wouldnt dare right now - he can see I'm one tactless comment away from crying / shouting at any time! I'm in awe of you managing 3. how was the sling? baby seaside is so teeny I worry she will slip out.
certainly fish and chips for us tonight - I'm really ready for bed now, and the evening cluster feeding hasn't even begun ...

Midget. U ok honey?

I must be a real dumb ass. Cluster feeding. How does that work and how do u know to do it. Sorry to appear thick.
Vq how did the sling go. Baby monkey in his today holy crap back aches. I am six foot tall and quite large framed sorry very large framed and lord it is hard work.

Men should nt be allowed to say they are tired. They may be tired after a day's work. But Mum's day does never stop so they should not complain.
After a week sent with the 2 children, DH realised why I Was so grumpy some evenings, it is non stop with several kids, when I have finished with baby then I have to deal with her brother and when it is done, baby wakes up again...
Some nights, I hardly get some sleep. Anastasia's runny nose seems much better even if I still need to clean it but it seems now that she entered the 4 months sleep regression... Really hope it passes quickly. I have to restrain myself when I hear her waking up and calling gently for us. And she goes back to sleep on her own. But I am then wide awake. As soon as I fall asleep, her brother calls saying that he is scared, I then spend 5 minutes with him, fall asleep again and Anastasia wakes up again... And the cycle starts again.
I can only hope that both of them settle back.
Off to pick up DH from Eurostar. His weekly commute !
Wish every one a good night sleep.
Love to you VQ

Thank you ladies.

LRM I imagine you being 4'11 and 8 stone wet through cluster feeding is when the baby feeds non stop in the early weeks to stimulate supply, usually in the evening and overnight too at first. Milk flows slower in the evening and the milk producing hormones are higher overnight. You are allowed to be tired with 'just' one baby. The first has extra stresses as it is your first and you are both learning. It is only when you have subsequent babies that the thought of having 'just' one seems easier. I know if I did not have DD2 things would be easier as she is a little thug at times, but without her I would not know it was easier, and would have a 6yo PFB to contend with, so it may well seem harder. I guess what I am trying to say is that having kids is hard, whether you have one or more.

I thought green poo was due to too much foremilk, and if you limit them to one boobie per feed, or three hour period of cluster feeding, the baby will get more hind milk.

Brillant vq wish I was 8 stone. Well I am if u cut me in half. Put on 4 stone and that was with baby out. Heho my own fault. So worried when pregnant about everything the biscuit barrel was my best mate. Sorry to blow your vision of me. Plus I am desperate for a hair colour. I will have to get dp to do it cant afford 90 quid for hairdresser to do it Plus dp does an amazing job and is funny as hell as he does the whole weather holiday chat with cups of tea
Thanks for explanation re cluster feeds. I asked pediatrician about fore milk and yeh keep em on the same boo as long as they feed. Babymonkey sometimes only feeds five mins on one and won't take any more move to boob two and a lot longer. Then cross my fingers for sleepy baby. I have set ewan off next to me to help with some les open eyes. Good old ewan in the evenings he works a treat. He is shit during the day. Had a small panic last night his battery ran out. Dp was all over house and found some. God help me needing a puffy sheep

Lrm your dp sounds lovely and highly skilled. Mine would panic if he even had to do the trainee hairdresser stuff like washing and combing my hair! I love cutting his hair though, so satisfying.

Hpbp blessyou for your optimism wishing us all a good night sleep! No chance here tonight, but i did have an hour evening nap which helps.

i feel surprisingly awake somehow. Ewan still not working, but the harp-with-heartbeat sooths me and dp.

Caved in and got out some dummies tonight, maybe they will help. right now she's fed, eyelids drooping, but bet you anything they will ping open when i put her in her cot ...

We have slightly green poo here today. how green does it have to be to be a problem? Tmi alert: base colour still yellow but with spinach like bits. how lovely. she's not dehydrated,and should be getting lots of hind milk. not sure what
Else it might be?

The odd bit of spinach is ok so long as main colour is yellow. I find with washables if left the yellow goes green so perhaos it is just if poo is there for a while? Not implying neglect obviously but they sometimes sneak one out, although ours are usually enough to wake the dead.

Had a better night. Slept in cot from 1 to 3 then in bed from 4.30 to 8. I slept a bit but was woken by the girls at regular intervals.

Tell me about the sheep. DD1 loved her mobile. DD2 had a light show with music. Not tried either with DS yet.

Main issue with DS is wind. Determined not to use infacol but need to research how to get his wind out. May be latch. Feel I can actually tackle this now rather than having to remember to breathe in and out.

Had haircut, hairdresser suggested black with deep blue coloration.... Is she trying to tell me I have tons of white hair ? A bit sad, now...

Hp how did you come up with that thought? I would take it as a compliment as to carry off black hair with deep blue you would need to look both young and good. She would not suggest that if you had too much white hair. Now if she suggested a blue rinse...

I would love black and blue hair, but am willing to settle with clean at the moment, with the faintest hint of baby sick.

Hpbp. I would love black blue hair go for it sounds fab. Really glam. Mine looks like a ginger scarecrow. Mine needs a cut but can't be arsed at the moment.
Dylan has decoded that day time is for looking about feeding andi cuddles and sleeping on me it is not for being put down. Two weeks ago he would sleep duribf the day for a little bit but now only an hour all day unless on me. Nights he does do his first slot for three hours then two lots of two hours then the five o clock hebie jebie.
Should not complain he is lovely bitch would like to brush my hair with out him screaming as I have put him down.
Did loads of christmas shopping over the weekend which is good. Mostly vouchers to make life easier all round. What did everyone else get up to? Dp asked what I would like. I have put in a request for christmas week an iou for some sleep

Feck. I put bitch sorry typo. Silly me not checking before posting. Child is not a bitch. Lord I need some sleep. Need to win the lottery hire nanny for evenings

midget what makes you think you have a prolapse? Hopefully those thoughts are passed now. Not nice thinking that.

LRM had a smile at Dylan being a lovely bitch

I went to Tesco today, driving for the first time. Felt good. Easily pleased clearly. I am also trying to get on top of Christmas at the moment. It will be a frugal one.

Meant to come back after my shuffle but too busy scouring the Internet.... Dr google is a bitch.

GP thinks I have one, so do I. Fuck. My worst fear and why a wanted ELCS. Trying to think positive as so soon after birth but currently not looking good. Can't walk anywhere much, lift anything. I am broken!

Master Midge is still an angel thank god or I would be full on mental by now.

Oh midget sorry to hear that. They can be fixed but it is not nice. I am assuming you have a vaginal prolapse? Bugger. Fingers crossed it decides to pop back all on its own. Not sure if that is possible though.