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[Hpbp]

Mum of 2, DS1 nearly 4yo and DD2 almost 11 weeks. I hope to find here advices from experienced mums so that I can avoid mistakes... I made some with DS1 and my life sometimes is hell, it is hard to unlearn wrong behaviour, so hard.
At the time being, DD2 is a very sweet baby, she is easy to decipher, cries are always related to some kind of discomfort and I managed to learn what they mean, or almost. Only one issue with her ATM is that she rejects bottle feeding even with expressed milk. I'd like to be able to escape a bit from the house to get a haircut or a facial. And I am sure DH would like to feed her sometimes too.
I struggle a bit more with DS1, who is usually a good boy, energetic, happy and loving. But after school, getting him to take his bath is a battle and falling and staying asleep all night are big issues. The problems did exist before but now with the recent arrival of his sister, the intensity has increased. Or maybe they are the same but to me they seem bigger and need to be addressed quickly so that I can look after both without raising my voice.
All advice are welcome. I need help here.

Also I'd like to invite all the graduates from the Fantastic 40+ Mums to be thread to join. You have been truly fantastic and so supportive during my pg. I hope to be able to keep on sharing with you this wonderful parenting adventure.

I wrote a long one handed post and lost it ... luckily i have plenty more time! Im utterly knackered but have 2 good bits of sleep news : last night baby seaside slept for 3 and half hour stretch, in our bed obviously, and tonight, having so far treated new expensive fresh-from-germany babybay as yet another cot to avoid sleeping in, she just slept a whole hour in it! Granted i had my head in there too at a weird angle, but progress i think.
Read your posts at a particularly sleepless moment last night and immediately ordered a ewen without even reading usual reviews. arrives tomorrow (ie today! Will use immediately and let you know how our joint nap goes!
God im so grumpy with dp atm, poor man can't do anything right. i need to be nicer.

Hey team mummys.
What a night we have had. Baby monkey had the most violent diarrhoea after midnight a couple of time and we thought fuck waiting for gp getting back to me Tuesday with stool sample results.Took him to a&e where he was taken to the pedestrian. They did loads of tests gp doesn't. Told he has gastric flu. So no diary products for me for a few days. Lots of time on my boob and in his bed with wonder sheep ewan
Also will take leaf out of bythesea and less of an old troll to dp. Lack of sleep makes the troll with ginger hair much worse. Will try harder

oh dear LRM, hope you will get a bit of rest today and baby Monkey feels better soon.
I am often very angry with GP because they do not seem to check properly. As Mums we just want to know what is wrong, we feel very sad when our LO are sick, if not in our flesh and those stupid GP just go, it will pass... arrgh
I reckon we are all overreacting a bit on our DP. Poor them, but if only they could listen and observe to get things right, the way we want !!!! I don't know how many times I apologised for being a little cross. After a whole week with me and the 2 kids, my DP understands more why I am so grumpy all the time: I am not getting enough rest ! hence my patience is not what it used to be... I never stop. But I would not change a thing, life is hectic and will remain so for a few years, there are wonderful moments and less fantastic ones but the joy kids bring is so incredible. And time flies far too fast. Lets try to enjoy as much as we can.

Seaside, I am amazed too Anastasia sleeps so well when she is not ill as opposed to her big brother who is still a bad sleeper at 4yo. I can't recall what I am doing differently though. I feed her 5 times a day, put her down around 7pm after burping her, changing her nappy, cleaning her nose and she would just sleeps until 6,7 sometimes 8am when she was around 10 weeks. I was told that when babies reach 5.5kg, they have enough stock to sleep through. VQ has some tips too, I am sure.

We celebrated her christening yesterday. It was very emotional. Everything went well. Except that I had too much cake. And ordered way too much food. so will be living on leftovers for 2 days or so.

Will be back later, Anastasia just woke up from her nap.

Midget, Goat, I swear by sleeping bags, I find them very handy, babies are kept warm and no risks of being tangled or suffocation as long as baby's head is big enough. I like those which have the zip on the side instaed of in the middle.

fireflies meant to say I love your word 'poppety' and have been using it with baby s, she's been a complete poppet today, despite the very frequent pooing she seems to be doing squeaky baby taichi at the moment - utterly poppety!

lrm poor little monkey :( hope it clears up and you get a break

hpbp glad you had lovely christening, and party leftovers are brilliant - my favourite food!

goat do you mean like grobags?

ps treat of the morning: lemon pancakes, toasted, sandwiched together with butter and my mums blackcurrent jam mmmmm

celebrating as new pushchair finally arrives today! there's always a reason to over-indulge in sugar and carbs round here ...

Bythesea. Love carbs best thing ever.
Baby monkey has not settled all day bless him so on super cuddle duty with my poppet. Yeh new pushchair. Get that strutting outfit on and enjoying.
Ps. I want some pancakes n jam.

Is it just me I cant get anything done. Day goes so quick with little one. House is a tip. I know I cant do it all. Sorry moaning.

Also no settling here. Time to pick up from school and done nothing. Hope green pooh is going

i cant get anything done either ... baby seaside wont go down. ever. so it took the most enormous effort to get dressed, put overflowing nappy bin in dustbin, load dishwasher and wipe yesterdays food spills off table before health visitor arrived - am still trying to carry on pretence of coping haha. still waiting for pushchair delivery. perhaps if she likes it it can be an inside pushchair to wheel around downstairs too, sling is ruining my back. im sure the shopping basket would take a load of washing ... who am i kidding? she will never sleep in the carrycot!!

I have been told by shrink today to try to be a not perfect Mum, it does not matter if house is a bit of a warzone and DS1 does not have a bath everyday ! Trying hard but just can't put him to bed without a shower.
Anastasia's runny nose still here, hope she sleeps better tonight and can still feed. Had a 1 hour nap with her this afternoon, really needed it ! BTW she had green poo for 2 weeks but pediatrician said it is just her transit, nothing to worry and it stopped. Back to yellow mustardy ones now.
Working on DS1 sleep pattern again this week. So tiring. But will get there.

Gosh, missed lots! Read but forgot, sorry. Love 'n' hugs to all, big and small.

DD2 well enough for nursery tomorrow thank The Lord!

DS has a cold poor little thing, so sleep last night was sparse.

DH is a twat. It is not me, it is him!

I get very little done, but am keeping on top of washing, including nappies for two which is no mean feat! And the kids get fed. Chicken nuggets tonight, but it is still food!

midget I love you! I fed DS on his mattress in bed and he slept in his Moses basket. For about three hours. Progress.

Off to google Ewan the sheep. I have no idea what you is talking about . No doubt I will buy one before I return.

All DH's are a little twatish an it is ALWAYS them not us.

HP listen to the shrink - they are wise.

just looking at master midge and my heart totally melted. Just wanted to share that really. Shall I have another one?

midget yes, but leave it a couple of cycles

ah, midget - how lovely! I feel the same, but also wonder whether I've now had all my life's worth of good luck with baby seaside
Off to bed with the sheep - I feel hopeful.
Pushchair arrived - it is massive! also needs a stand for the carrycot if I want to use it for daytime snoozing - hadn't realised that (benefit of internet shopping ...) but it is smart, lovely and has bigger shopping basket than I dreamed. Think of all the shopping I can do once I leave the house!
VQ I'm amazed you are managing to do all that, in addition to cleaning up sick.
VQ also - if you want to get lots of presents and cards, you need to have a prem baby! We've had tons of things from kind people we barely know. Lots of knitting especially. Its probably (definitely) not worth having a prem baby just for that though ...

Evening.bm is having his two o'clock session. All cute with his mittens on. Baby gro look this morning is blue stars. Drink of choice is mummys boob cocktail. Served with smile. Sir may dribble his milk at the end if he wishes!. Conversation is about Santa and his current good boy status :-D

Bythesea. How did bd get on with ewan was it a match made in fleece sheep heaven. ? Internet shopping is quite lovely. Cant wait to hear all your pram adventures. I went out last weekend with mine. Bloody pavements r shite I blame ntl and bT.
Midget. Men r weird. Dp just said as he got into bed as I dont have acid reflux my breath does not smell. Well no sex for u for. A week u big bag of bollocks

Hello everyone, it's been busy here!

seaside at your head being in the bedside crib! That's quite an image! I hope Aegean does his job for you. My Ewan is diurnal. I am trying to figure out how to make him take a night shift. promise juicier grass, perhaps?

hpbp hope you had a wonderful christening. There is no such thing as too much cake.

A wadded sleeper is I guess halfway between a sleepsuit and a pramsuit. A wearable quilt. Kid won't even do grobags . wadded sleeper please note this is for boys - apparently girls dissolve if they wear red stripes

vq you are amazing dealing with three of them! I can barely cope with one.

I am very very lucky with my DH

goat well ewan has let me down ... seemed to freak baby seaside out! Maybe you are right, will try in daytime if i can raise some hope. worst night yet , crying, her and, pathetically, me. i must teach my baby to sleep! Ate entire bar of green and blacks to stave off hunger and crying during mega 2 hour feeding frenzy and baby now covered in choc marks. terrible mummy...
Hohum tomorrows another day

seaside for your awful night. I too have before now ended up with a baby in a chocolate-covered sleepsuit when morning dawns! This is not bad mummyness - think of it as a combination of two things that you love

Just saw my last post. Who on earth is Aegean?... Well done for decoding!

Bythesea. Naughty ewan. I would have some strong words with him. We tried ours during the day so he got use to him and the noise. Putting a lot of confidence in his purple paws. When does baby b sleep mainly? And yes vq is amazing one is hard work enough I could not imagine three. My little guy is all consuming u know it won't last forever but with lack of sleep it feels that way. I thanked my mum the other day for all her effort looking after me. I am one of twins so can't imagine two of em at the same time. Holy shit. My friends friend has given up breastfeeding all together so her mum and partner can give bottles so she can sleep. She thinks I am mad breastfeeding mine and getting very little sleep. Good job she is not my friend I would tell her to go f#&@ herself:

Morning goat. How's baby g? We should pick a topic of discussion each evening or a moan marathon I am up for it. I seem to have three hours spare during the wee hours to kill. I am sat with no nightie on as I did not get nappy on quick enough and a little dude pissed on me
Anyone have a tips on a baby who after two mins of feeding lets go and when he re latches can seem to make the effort to suck and gets very very upset. I keep re adjusting him help

Do many people love Ewan, I have not let him into my life.

goat thanks for the link, not seen those before. I need something as realised my grobag is 1 tog. Poor master midge must have been freezing.

Been getting a little bored or newborn land but have two things to make me very happy.

1. Proper smiles - no mistaking big grins

1. Skyfall - off to baby cinema - a trip out the house, for me, one month past birth. Go me!

Hope pooh watch is bringing back a healthier colour. Right. I best prepare to go out even though I don't have to leave for bloody hours nothing is stopping me

So many... Not do I fecking hate autocorrect...

Midget enjoy Daniel craig. Let me know how u get on. I have a couple of sleep bags I have yet to try em. Do u put any blankets on top. Bag is 2.5 tog?

We have yellow good poo! !!! Happy days ;