Fantastic 40+ Mums

[Hpbp]

Mum of 2, DS1 nearly 4yo and DD2 almost 11 weeks. I hope to find here advices from experienced mums so that I can avoid mistakes... I made some with DS1 and my life sometimes is hell, it is hard to unlearn wrong behaviour, so hard.
At the time being, DD2 is a very sweet baby, she is easy to decipher, cries are always related to some kind of discomfort and I managed to learn what they mean, or almost. Only one issue with her ATM is that she rejects bottle feeding even with expressed milk. I'd like to be able to escape a bit from the house to get a haircut or a facial. And I am sure DH would like to feed her sometimes too.
I struggle a bit more with DS1, who is usually a good boy, energetic, happy and loving. But after school, getting him to take his bath is a battle and falling and staying asleep all night are big issues. The problems did exist before but now with the recent arrival of his sister, the intensity has increased. Or maybe they are the same but to me they seem bigger and need to be addressed quickly so that I can look after both without raising my voice.
All advice are welcome. I need help here.

Also I'd like to invite all the graduates from the Fantastic 40+ Mums to be thread to join. You have been truly fantastic and so supportive during my pg. I hope to be able to keep on sharing with you this wonderful parenting adventure.

[littleredmonkey]

Midget brillant. Love a good cupcakes. Happy days.
Bf lady was fab. I had been doing it wrong she showed me whole new technique and he was not keen at first but did ok. It took a while but happy when he came off the boob milk all running down his chops :-D. He fell asleep on me at 730 took him to bed and woke at 12. So that was amazing. He is on again and lets see what happens this time. New technique is making my back ache but will work on that. C

[Goatbongosanonymous]

lrm hooray on bf front! So glad it is working out.

midget what kind of cupcakes? I need some middle-of-the-night-feed food porn!

seaside I don't know when the light sleep goes. I must ask at the next prem group I go to! There is a mum with a 7 month old. Hope it's jut around the corner, though!
Did you know 17 November is World Prematurity Day?

[Goatbongosanonymous]

seaside sorry, can't remember how old babyseaside is?

[bytheseaside]

Goat 7 weeks already! How old is kid?

[bytheseaside]

I guess we are both up with our light sleeping bundles... Mines looking impossibly cute

[Goatbongosanonymous]

16 weeks... And attempting an aerobic circuit of the bed. While feeding.

[littleredmonkey]

Haha cupcake porn. I must admit got me thinking what they were like. I ended up with a cornetto as my treat. Shite compared to midget so will try harder today. Babymonkey managed neArly three hours more kip. was quite amazed. Will have to work on this new position Friday as he is one wriggle monkey
Just noticing how random some baby gros Are. This one has an elephant and a goat on a train waving.

[Goatbongosanonymous]

to randomness - my local children's centre has a play hut outside with a sign that says 'baggage claim'.

[ValiumQueen]

DD2 has vomiting bug. Just what I need with a newborn

[bytheseaside]

Morning oldies :)

Oh poor poor you vq not sure i would cope well with that ...

lrm greatnews on bf! What did she advise?

midget good work on cupcakes

Re randomness , what is it with baby girls clothes and 'cute' (pink) ) rabbits? Im a bit suspicious of cartoon motifs at the best of times but some of these are truly dreadful, and all over the clothes we've had as presents! Wondering if i can unpick some of these appliqued cutesters. and don't get me started on the ubiquity of pink ... a mean a little bit is fine , but every card, gro, sock ..... I feel babyseaside's options in later life diminishing with every new frill and flounce ... and ironically she looks lovely in pink. But im on the look out for navy and red logo-and-rabbit-free clothes everywhere i go.

As you can see, a bit grumpy today. Finally put up new babybay cosleeper crib yesterday, and it turns out we have yet another bed baby seaside won't sleep in ...

I wonder how fjord and exexe are getting on? Have there been more babies on our old thread? Im so behind

[bytheseaside]

Ps goat expect we will be marking international prem day with a display of light sleeping (obvious not in a cot) and lots of cake for me

[bytheseaside]

fireflies did you have a sidebar for your babybay? Cant figure out how to put together the screw/spring/peg fixing.rubbish instructions, i expected better from the Germans. Lovely cot though, now just need to convince baby that its lovely.

[ValiumQueen]

Thankfully DD2 seems to be on the mend. DS has been feeding non stop. I am shattered!

I hope the little ones soon appreciate their fancy bed nests!

[Goatbongosanonymous]

seaside about the display of light sleeping - I am sure it will be gold medal standard!
I have noticed how much PINK there is for girls! Beside the mud-coloured clothes for boys is the pink explosion. A doctor in the NNU assured me solemnly that they would dress Kid in 'gender appropriate clothing' - it made me want to put him in the pink sleep suit I found in their cupboards that had an attached tutu.
vq glad dd is feeling better!

[littleredmonkey]

Hey ladies.
Re ; breastfeeding advice was to change the position I was told to use from the side to the front also his head alignment was not helping him latch on properly. The lady wAs lovely but a bit taken back I had so many drugs during labour. I dont think she liked the idea of drugs. I however found lovely compared to the shocking pain I was in.
Poor baby monkey has tummy bug so lots of green crap. Giving him drops of rehydration power mixed with water. Gave them a sample. He is feeding. Just violent green poo. so VQ think of u and your little on. Also agree with the pink over kill

[10000Fireflies]

Evening all

Oh, poor you LRM, and poor baby Monkey. I hope he?s feeling better soon. A cold, diahorrea? Poor poppet. Glad the BF counsellor helped. And as for you, LRM. You sexy mother! Digging those big pants!!!

I must be a bit stoopid. Didn?t pay too much attention to baby FF having green poos. Will do from now on!

Well done seaside for getting out and treating yourself. You must feel a bit of freedom now you?ve managed it.

Ah midget. Three cupcakes!! Well done! I remember those heady days, back in early July when I troughed delicately snacked on 4 humungous Bakin Boys muffins. Oh joy?..!! I am fooling myself into thinking I am eating more healthily by only having naughtiness as part of meal. I have just enjoyed a large bowl of vanilla icecream and two large, soft choc cookies. MMMMMMMmmmmmmmm. How?s that for food porn, Goatbongosanonymous ?

Valium how is DD2? Sorry to hear about the bug. Nasty.

Seaside navy is a great colour for disguising poo! Have you sorted the Babybay ishoos? We didn?t get the side bar. Meant to so I could move it away from the bed, but baby FF decided to go through a stage of not sleeping in the daytime and I now have the cot instead anyway. Find having BB near door now v handy to pop baby on and wrestle him into coat on these colder days.

Do you think the prob with getting baby to settle in the BB is because it?s cold? I get BFF off to sleep usually BFing on our bed. He often wakes when moved to cot (or previously bay or moses basket). Think is the temperature change. So have just started warming his mattress when I do the bedtime feed. I prop it against the radiator. Seems to help. Am stuck in the middle of the night though if he?s been in for a feed and cuddle.

We should keep an eye on the preggo thread and invite grads over to join us. I just don?t have so much time for playing on the computer any more though.

Hope you are ok HPBP?

BFF has been a whingey knickers all day. I am knackered. Don?t know what happened to his lunchtime nap. And he has bitten me twice, but I didn't have the heart to tell him off as he seemed so poppety today. Still, he is asleep now. I have a large bottle of formula ready for his next feed. I hope I can get him to sleep through until morning like the magical two nights he did that last week. Also, have started weaning. He loves it, though I think he scoffed too much and it contributed a bit to todays whingeyness.

Going to a parent and baby screening of Skyfall tomorrow. Love and hugs to you all. FF xx

[Midgetm]

FF think you are on to something with the warming of the mattress. I sometimes take his mattress into bed with me and lay him on it when I feed him, the transfer him sleeping and it works a treat.

Bugger he's just waking. Arse. Best go. Hope mini VQ and LRM on the mend.

[littleredmonkey]

VQ hope little one on the mend honey. Hop e u r ok also.
Operation green shit still here. Such a worry. Eating well. Sleeping fine. Extra water and rehydration powder being given. So strange. hoping for yellow shit soon.

When I start feeding baby monkey. I put a hot water bottle in his bed and when he drops off to sleep on me se rremove it hey Presto one toasty baby basket. Works every time. I thought I hate a cold bed so does he.
Ff. I need the sexy big draws to cover my giant ass. Dp got me some 99 calorie areo bars. I found out why they had few calories. They were the smallest choccy bar ever. Looked like one chip! !!
Friends also bought us a ewan the sheep sleep aid. Fluffy sheep that has sounds of the womb and also nice tunes. It works as well. Look on line ladies.
How's r u hpbp?
Let me know what the film experience is like. Silly dp has painted a picture of changing mats in the aisles. Women asleep in a dark room with their boobs out! !

[Goatbongosanonymous]

Thanks for the food porn ff my addiction is momentarily sated! hope you are getting some sleep after your knackering day. Enjoy Skyfall tomorrow! Wold love to know what you think of it! (haven't seen it yet though)

lrm I hope baby monkey is feeling better. We had that this last week too, and it is horrible, isn't it? Watching them feel miserable and not being able to do much to alleviate it instantly. Ewan is wonderful! Over on the other middle-of-the-night-feeding thread I think almost everyone has bought one; in fact, amazon nearly ran out at one point!

midget good luck with the settling. Babygoat is currently asleep beside me with his legs stuck straight up in the air. Thus no blankets. I am going to try a wadded sleeper to try and keep some bedding on him! Try getting out of one of those, baby evil-genius-Houdini!

[littleredmonkey]

Hi
Just thought I would share how fab that breastfeeding consultant was. After changing position baby monkey slept fours then two lots of two hours. Last night he did it agAin. So over the weekend have gain an extra couple of hours sleep which is fecking amazing. He even put himself to sleep a few times. Give it till neatest and he may do four hour sessions /

[littleredmonkey]

Ff. Dont drop popcorn all over bff today! !! :

[Midgetm]

Midget baby making noises like a wilderbeast - farting and squeaking snuffling, snorting. Snot all over him. his not mine

What is this sleeper you talk about goat? Will anything contain the kid?

at lrm hoping for yellow shit, how our lives have changed eh?

Best go clean the boy. He is currently leaking from every orifice

[Hpbp]

It has been busy on the thread. I am just popping in to say Hi to everyone and will drop everything in a sec, I need some sleep. Anasasia has runny nose and wakes up 3 times a night, I was so used to have her sleep from 7pm to 8am that I forgot how tiring it is. Will be back as soon as I can.
Hugs to every one for now and to all babies.

[littleredmonkey]

Hpbp. How's Anastasia. Hope she feels better soon. Especially your envious sleep times. How are you managing her to sleep that long? We are amazed at 4 hours here at the moment.
Shit watch is still green but not as Runny also like cottage cheese. Sorry gross I know but I know you ladies understand the poo situation.
Baby monkey is having his usual thrash grumble around when feeding. Does any one else have to wrestle to keep baby onthe boob. Legs kicking arms like windmills. He is wearing a Halloween baby gro from Disneyworld. It has pumpkins all over and pumpkin feet. Cute as hell. ;
Hugs to all xx

[Goatbongosanonymous]

lrm thwt's great to hear about the bf counsellor helping you get some more sleep! That is medal worthy! And I struggle to keep Kid still at any time, not jut feeding. I definitely have a little ninja on my hands.

ff how was Skyfall? Any changing mats in the aisle?!

midget the sleeper is just a wadded sleepsuit that is 2.5 tog - so a quilt in wearable form. So far it is working brilliantly! fingers crossed for the rest of the night.

Good to see you again hpbp - on the sleeping and I hope Anastasia returns to those patterns soon!