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What's it really like with two?

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Cbell · 14/06/2012 20:28

I know it's a very general question but I find myself pregnant with baby number two (unplanned: failed coil) and am not sure if I want more.

All I can think about is how hard it will be and how much I will miss enjoying my DD (17 months)

Very sad

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pjd · 14/06/2012 20:40

Very hard work.
But worth it.

AThingInYourLife · 14/06/2012 20:45

It's totally great.

You will still enjoy your DD, but there will be another one to enjoy too.

And they will enjoy each other :)

I found it easier than one - you've plenty to keep you busy, so its not as boring.

QueenOfPlaguegroup · 14/06/2012 20:46

I have a 2.8 year gap, so slightly larger than yours.

I found being pregnant really hard work with a toddler to run round after, I also didn't enjoy having a toddler and a newborn.

Now DS2 is nearly 18 months I love it, DS1 and DS2 are really sweet together. There are times when they play together for a bit while I relax, I still have to referee a bit and I don't think many siblings don't argue occasionally, but they will spend more and more time entertaining each other. DS1 melts my heart completely when he cuddles DS2, or tries to comfort him when he cries.

Between the two of them I hope they'll be able to afford a better nursing home for me in my old age, an only child might struggle more to keep me in reasonable style.

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AllOverIt · 14/06/2012 20:46

Hard work, but lovely. DS and DD are best friends and play together beautifully (most of the time!).

MrsDandBaby · 14/06/2012 20:47

mine are 1 and 3 at the moment and it is hard work - but lovely to see them start to play together and can't wait till they are a bit older and will enjoy each others company even more.

the hard work is the older one most of the time, the second seems a doddle compared to number one!

Sparklingbrook · 14/06/2012 20:48

It's fab-really. They are 12 and 10 now, but they still play games together, go off and play football together. It's lovely.

Congratulations and good luck. x

NewDKmum · 14/06/2012 20:50

I am sorry to hear that you are sad about your pregnancy.

I have two DD's 18 months apart, and I can honestly say it's great!

Of course they quarrel at times, but generally they love each other so much. They are now 4 1/2 and 6 and they play together all the time, share a double bed and miss each other dearly when they are apart. They have a special bond and can give each other some input that my husband and I can't - I don't know about you, but I just can't face dressing up in a zillion different outfits and playing various roles for 3-4 hours :-). If I feel like one of them needs special attention, my husband and I take one each and do something half a Saturday or Sunday.

Hope you will get used to the thought soon and honestly - it's as great second time around!

CointreauVersial · 14/06/2012 20:52

What's it like with two?

Well, very peaceful in this house, because it means one of the monsters is elsewhere.

Honestly, seeing the bond develop between siblings is lovely. You won't believe you can love anyone as much as DC1, but you will.

habbibu · 14/06/2012 21:00

Love having 2 - first year a bit busy, but ds is 2 now, and 5yo Dd loves playing with him. And they're both so lovely, you don't stop having fun with dc1, just dc2 gets to join in...

ilikeyoursleeves · 14/06/2012 21:02

Having two is utterly fab! I have two ds's 21 months between them and they love each other so much and are best friends. They play together every day and although there are the occasional squabbles, they pretty much keep each other entertained. They share a room (ds3 due any day now!) and chat for ages, so cute.

You will be fine and your dc will love having a sibling. Good luck!

chezziejo · 14/06/2012 21:04

I'm worried too Chell. I'm 17 weeks with number two and terrified of how we will gonon. Ds will be two this month and is on with the tantrums etc. people keep telling me it's easier with the second as you have more of an idea what your doing but I'm still not convinced. This was a shock pregnancy too. Shock for me anyway, dp is super excited so that was a big relief. Anyway your not alone with your worries xx

Ciske · 14/06/2012 21:06

I found it difficult at the start because my toddler was very jealous and some of the things she said really broke my heart. But after a few weeks she got used to her new brother and started to take a real interest in him. He is now the first one she looks for in the morning and we've had a few heart warming moments where she told him 'I love you' or tried to comfort or kiss him.

So be prepared that your relationship with your DD will change, but it will all be worth it when you see the two of them bond and grow to love each other. It will be fine, it really will.

MrsJamin · 14/06/2012 21:11

I won't dwell on the first year (yeah it's hard...), but now DS2 is 2, and DS1 is 4, they make each other laugh, DS1 sings songs to DS2 when they wake up in the morning, DS2 insists on DS1 holding his hand when walking down the road. When you're just with one for a significant period of time (a whole day etc), I find it so very 2 dimensional, nearly boring, rather than the chaotic rowdy loveliness of two boisterous boys! There's so much to look forward to, hope you come to terms with it soon.

Quip · 14/06/2012 21:16

blissfully quiet and civilised, once you have three :o

ipanicked · 14/06/2012 21:18

I feel like I have a proper family and I'm not just pretending to be a mum

If I thought I had no time for life in general with 1 DC, I really don't now I have 2 (but they are both still toddlers so still smack in the middle of it being a total mind numbing grind)

I love DS more, not less since DD came along (I was worried about missing him too)

It does make it worth it when I see just how much they love each other already. They were giving each other little kisses in the bath and it totally melted my heart

eastendywendy · 14/06/2012 21:22

I have a bigger age gap but its brilliant. My two adore each other.

The only bad thing about it is when they're ill and you get it either together or one after the other. That's the only bad thing though.

surroundedbyblondes · 14/06/2012 21:26

The hardest and yet the most wonderful thing I did in my life . DDs are 1,7 and 3,7 and adore eachother. The thought that they will have eachother when DH and I are long gone is something amazing to me.

mistressploppy · 14/06/2012 21:30

Nowhere near as hard as I'd feared

And it goes a lot faster the second time around

badtasteflump · 14/06/2012 21:31

Am I the only one who's had a couple of wines and clicked on the title of this thread thinking it was going to be much more interesting?

AWimbaWay · 14/06/2012 21:32

It's great, personally I found two (now three) much easier than one.

Mine are now 6, 4 and 1 and I find it much easier if they're all around as they entertain each other rather than relying on me constantly. They obviously love and like each other so much and it's heart warming watching one of them make the others laugh.

Obviously they also argue and it can be tiring, but it's so worth it!

Chunkamatic · 14/06/2012 21:34

I have a 2 year age gap, they are now 2 and 4. DS2 was not planned to come when he did and it took me a while to get my head round it, so dont feel bad.

They are loud, boisterous, bounding balls of energy that have me run ragged most of the day! It is very hard at times but what you get back cannot be compared to anything else. They bring out the best and the worst in each other but they love each other to the core.

UnnamedFemaleProtagonist · 14/06/2012 21:37

A piece of piss compared to three. HTH.

BonzoDooDah · 14/06/2012 21:40

At first? Bloody awful. Hell on Earth ... crying new baby, utterly demonic put-out 2yo, healing CS scar, tired, emotional me.

Now? (nearly 3 years later) ... lovely! They play together so well - such a good age gap (2 years exactly for mine). They are so close and play together really nicely and imaginatively, utterly love eachother ... I can only see it getting better.

It will be okay ... honest! (eventually)

FishfingersAreOK · 14/06/2012 21:41

Some bits were hard - but as surroundedbyblondes says my DD6 and DS4 adore each other too and love each others company. I love my big sister. I would be lost without her. Now definitely easier having 2.

poshbird1 · 14/06/2012 21:42

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