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'SAHMS' that have full time childcare or help - a fantastic liberation or downright lazy?

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Enid · 21/02/2006 09:51

There are lots of mothers down here in Dorset who are (or whose husbands are) well off enough to afford NOT to work. I know a few and they all have full time aupairs or nannies. One of them has TWO nannies - one for each of her children.

It seems to be a matter of pride that you always take the nanny/au pair on holiday to help with your children. Also that the nanny/au pair takes the children to clubs and activities.

OK - I think it is outrageously lazy (and so does dh). What do you think?

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flashingnose · 21/02/2006 10:20

How many of you have had to wake a sleeping baby to do the school run? How many of you felt terrible doing it? Wouldn't you have loved someone in your house at that point in time so you didn't have to?

fisil · 21/02/2006 10:21

controversial ...

... I work because I want to. At the moment we scrimp so that dp and I can work 4 days a week and have the boys in nursery 5 days a week. Today is my day off this week and so far I have read an academic text and done some work for church. Next I'm off to the library and a few errands and then this afternoon I'm picking up the boys and some friends are coming over for pancakes. That's a kind of perfect day!

... if money were no object I would still have the boys in full time childcare, because anyone would be much better at it (full-time) than me. I would fill my time by reading and writing and doing consultancy work and training, etc. My head is full of things I'd like to find out about and pursue, and in my ideal world I'd like to be able to do that, as well as spending a lot more time with my gorgeous boys. When they are both at school I think I will try to do this. To be honest, if someone would kindly give me 1 1/2 grand a month then I would do that now!

expatinscotland · 21/02/2006 10:21

no, i never heard of chalet school books. i had a very deprived childhood .

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MaloryTowers · 21/02/2006 10:21

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cod · 21/02/2006 10:21

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mummytosteven · 21/02/2006 10:21

exactly Caligula - DS would love shopping if I let him run up and down the aisles throwing cans and packets around! however being stuck in his buggy he tends to find it somewhat less fun!

soapbox · 21/02/2006 10:22

I almost always did supermarket in the evening when DCs were in bed when they were little - mind you that was before internet shopping

Was okay with one, but with two was a nightmare if done during the day!

cod · 21/02/2006 10:22

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nailpolish · 21/02/2006 10:22

i like going shopping with dd's too. you get to prance around and sing songs loudly, whooping with delight at spotting the ketchup before anyone else. makes it less boring

and clothes shopping is good too - was looking for a coat on sunday and dd1 brought everything over to me that she liked "youd look beautiful in this mummy"

then you can go to cafe and have big cakes and milkshakes

satine · 21/02/2006 10:22

Why do all these threads end up as "I'm a working mum out of necessity, not because I hate my kids"?

cod · 21/02/2006 10:22

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muma3 · 21/02/2006 10:23

flashing nose that is part and parcel of family life isnt it? the babies get taken here there and everywhere accordig to older siblings school/gamesclub/sleepovers etc?
my dd3 has got round our routine now and they all just fit in with each others routines ime

cod · 21/02/2006 10:23

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Blu · 21/02/2006 10:23

Muma3 - yu don't think people who can't afford to be a SAHM should have kids? Just to get this clear?

If I was v rich, I would have a craft assistant. DP and I are tying ourselves in knots so that one of us can always meet DS out of school - but I am DREADING the day he has to make a model of a pheasant as homework.

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nailpolish · 21/02/2006 10:24

soapbox - the eh? was for something cod said about me and muma3

expatinscotland · 21/02/2006 10:24

you bunch o' hippy dippies! yer just jealous cuz those other mums look very, very glam.

cod · 21/02/2006 10:24

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Blu · 21/02/2006 10:25

If I was very rich I would pay for OTHER sahms to have a p/t nanny so that I could go to the supermarket whitout encountering hordes of miserbale crying children.

cod · 21/02/2006 10:25

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soapbox · 21/02/2006 10:25

Ahem Cod - just in case everyone else thinks those of us posting about work have lost the plot!

I think you asked this question

'OK
what if ( grins manically)
tHE did earne nought o pay for her NOT to YET she still went to work'

harpsichordcarrier · 21/02/2006 10:25

if I could afford it I would employ someone to be in charge of Things I Need to TAke to Nursery
I am unbelievably crap at that

Blu · 21/02/2006 10:25

That pheasant thread made a big impact on me. I was dreading DS starting school because of it.

muma3 · 21/02/2006 10:26

no blu not at all i just think that it takes alot of time to bring them up and dedication and if it is possible for you to stay at home and look after your kids yourself then that is what i think should happen

if you have to work for financial reasons then part-time etc would be resonable and if you dont work then you dont need 2 bloody nannies !!!

there

nailpolish · 21/02/2006 10:26

muma3 thats my mums favourite saying

"its just family life"

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