'SAHMS' that have full time childcare or help - a fantastic liberation or downright lazy?

[Enid]

There are lots of mothers down here in Dorset who are (or whose husbands are) well off enough to afford NOT to work. I know a few and they all have full time aupairs or nannies. One of them has TWO nannies - one for each of her children.

It seems to be a matter of pride that you always take the nanny/au pair on holiday to help with your children. Also that the nanny/au pair takes the children to clubs and activities.

OK - I think it is outrageously lazy (and so does dh). What do you think?

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I am quite well in tune with my inner-millionaire, and she tells me that yes, if money was no object, she would insist that we have SOME occasional or p/t childcare help so that we could actually enjoy the time to go to the hairdressers, gym etc...but not once the children had started school. Because you could do all that then, couldn't you, while the cleaner was busy etc. And we would quite like to take a nanny on holiday with us, so that we could spend some days not pretending to be a hungry shark or having dinner at 6pm.
We would do this because we have read on MN - and are quite sure that it is true - that being a f/t SAHM with pre-school children is actually v hard work and you need a break for some adult activityu / company.

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Exactly soapbox

I'd have a gardener like John in Desperate Housewives

i agreee with you too nailpolish . im lucky enough to be able to afford to stay at home with the children but i really believe that having children is a job and you need to be dedicated in the first few years
(dont all dive on me please )
cant afford to stay at home then think twice about having kids or go part time there is always an alternative .
she doesnt work and has childcare i really dont understand? does she not like being with her kids or what?

Bugger. Have to go out in a mo. Was enjoying having a judge too

totally lazy - what do these people think when they look back at their lives - "Ooh, I did such a good job playing tennis"?
Would hate to live such a wasteful and frivolous existence.

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for real, man, tho, be for real: if you won the lotto, you wouldn't hire any help?

cuz that's just fecking crazy - the FIRST thing i'd do - after blowing this fire trap for a suite of rooms in The Balmoral Hotel - would be to hire some help - a cleaner at the least. A cook. A personal trainer.

Oh, want to leap on muma3, but can't as toddler group is calling

Believe me, girl, these kinds of peeps don't see anything wasteful about their existence. And tbh, there are a people who are much more of a waste of space than someone who hires nannies and cooks and whatnot.

oh hunkermunker hunni have to have a go later

I wouldn't hire someone to look after the children, nope
I like it just the three of us

you know how you see all these threads from mums about their kids driving them bonkers and they're getting all stressed out and yadda yadda yadda? well, let's just say, i had a very relaxed mum. and some very lovely nannies .

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do these women then send their children to boarding school?

what do they do in the school holidays

I really don't see what's so morally upstanding about wiping down high chairs and sweeping up bits of dropped dinner. If I could get someone else to do that for me, I would. I'd get Anthea Turner to do it.

Well I have to admit to having some childcare. Sorry but I must be vain - I haven't yet managed to have my haircut whilst looking after 2 under 4s. In fact there are a number of activities which are not "fun for young children". Whilst a treat to the village post office is fun, being dragged round Tescos or clothes shops just isn't fun (well not for my boys).

Absoloutely fantistic if you can manage it all, but I feel much better knowing that I've got someone looking after my children with their full concentration on those days when I'm trying to fit in other things too.

NP
A lot of kids who go to boarding school do so b/c their parents work abroad. I was desperate for my dad to get an assignment in Saudi when I was in high school, b/c the company sent kids to a co-ed boarding school . . . in AUSTRIA! Wicked!

But when he got the assignment I was a fresher at uni. No boarding school in Austria .

anthea seems to me to want to shut the children in their rooms all day to play. whats wrong with them bringing some toys downstairs during the day? she banishes all toys to their rooms. even if they are tiny children

Hmmm. I have to admit that on the very rare occasions when my leave from work and our nanny's holiday have not coincided and I've been floating around at home enjoying all the 'nice' bits of being with the kids (a little light play in the paddling pool, cuddles and stories but absolutely no bum-wiping or meal-time supervision) it's been heavenly!