'SAHMS' that have full time childcare or help - a fantastic liberation or downright lazy?

[Enid]

There are lots of mothers down here in Dorset who are (or whose husbands are) well off enough to afford NOT to work. I know a few and they all have full time aupairs or nannies. One of them has TWO nannies - one for each of her children.

It seems to be a matter of pride that you always take the nanny/au pair on holiday to help with your children. Also that the nanny/au pair takes the children to clubs and activities.

OK - I think it is outrageously lazy (and so does dh). What do you think?

I'm sorry, anyone who would prefer to wake a sleeping baby up to do a school run because it's "part and parcel of family life" is barking.

blu
and I would employ someone to make sodding sandcastles
I bloody hate that
the rest, I don't mind

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cod - dunno

bloody hard to be a part time lawyer
ime
know lots of pt gp's though

Really? Mine didn't - made them v grumpy.

my gp is pt

she is always stressed and has smudged mascara

when i mention something about not sleeping or tantrums she just rolls her eyes and shouts "oh god i know!"

I hate waking them up for the school run, I don't care if they love it.

And after school clubs which don't end till 7.30pm so you can't put the younger children to bed and they're ranting with tiredness - nightmare.

god dd2 loves going to fetch dd1 from playgroup

flashing nose - my dd3 isnt asleep in the mornings to do a school run as she knows now our routine she is awake has her brekkie with older girls and when we return from school run she will go back off to sllep for her morning nap . it all just fits in together iyswim

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I'm not talking about tiny babies or morning school runs or children who are awake, I'm talking about toddlers who are having a 1.5 hour afternoon nap. Just to clarify.

And Caligula, good point re evening things and dog-tired little ones.

lol!

cod doesnt have a warrant to sign - phil and fern has started

im off to watch them too

oh and play with dd2

and dust and iron and empty dishwasher

My mother recommended our cleaner to our children's doctor when we moved abroad. She - the doc - was eternally grateful. She plays in my mum's bridge club

what is bridge? ive always wondered

Just because you've got someone available ft for childcare doesn't mean you have to use them ft.

imo your children should just be part of your routine and daily life . they should fit in with what ever yourr doing and if not then work around them .
there really isnt any need to use a nanny or any other childcare just to get through a day . they really arent that much hard work?

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oh blimey

please dont make this into a working/non working argument

I work part time and have childcare then

when I was off poorly lsat week I kept my kids in childcare/at school and it was lush

we arent talking about getting someone to watch them while you have your hair done

this is FULL TIME CHILDCARE (not cleaning or gardening) while the mum is at home all day.

It's four people playing cards, np. But that's about all I know. I used to love it when Mama was hosting her bridge club at our house, tho, b/c she'd buy all these forbidden goodies - like chocolate-covered 'bridge mix', nuts and the like, and fizzy juice, and bake all these yummies and make Chex Mix. And we could have all the leftovers. A kid's dream! We'd stand in the hall when we were supposed to be in bed or in our rooms and say selfish prayers that they'd all leave soon.