cods potty training thread

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I am determined that this is the end of nappies. Feel much more relaxed this time, especially as DS2 is nearly 8 months old so not feeding all the time etc. Just needed to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Tanya makes a lot of sense, just difficult to remember to think like that when you're faced with tantruming child and poo on the carpet! May be back soon if all gets on top of me again.

OK, Day 1. Tried to get him to put pants on at 8.30 to walk up to school with older 2 (only 2 mins up the road): huge paddy, ended up abandoning him to dh, stood in the bathroom in only a vest. Spent from about 9 until after 10 trying to get him to sit on the toilet (or potty) refused both. Had fun looking in the cistern though. Got to sitting next to it with his feet resting on the seat. I sat him on it on the end and he had a total paddy, screaming and crying. Praised him lots for sitting there. Let him off after a couple of minutes but wanted him to put pants on. More screaming. But he has now let me put pants and trousers on and is watching Teletubbies. No wee or poo at all in all of that. Am planning some breakfast now (for me) and will take him back up to the toilet at 11. Will keep you updated!

Accident at 10.50. But he did sit fairly happily on the toilet after and no fuss about clean pants. Progress of sorts!

morning all trainers!
well ds1's belly seems ok so far and no accidents yet so putting it down to party food and whole bowl of dried papaya he found and sat quietly eating!

party was great thanks mamb, think ds1 got crush on girl next door, spent lots of time picking her up to show how strong he is but think thats a whole other thread! (along the lines of will any girl ever be good enough??)

vossy, it does get easier, good days and bad days. i found i was on edge for first few days but asking do you want a wee has become the same as do you want a drink now.

keep going ponygirl!

Have fun ladies, hope its a dry one for all of us

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He came and sat on the loo quite happily just now, though nothing happened. We have a bribery system sorted: 1 smartie for sitting on the toilet, 2 for a wee, 3 for a poo. Will prompt again in a while.

Thanks lact8. Am determined to persevere. Am fed up of nappies: this is my third and if I can crack this I'll be able to leave the house without changing things for the first time in over 7 years!

The starkers thing has been helpful with DS1. Has anyone got any tips on how to encourage them to go of their own accord? Everytime I ask DS1 if he needs a wee or poo he always says 'no, not yet' but if I then use bribery to get him on the potty he'll always go!

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Thank you. Will give that a go. At nursery today and I don't think they take them that often so he will be left to make his own mind up anyway.

Vossy, you sound in very similar position to me. My DD is just over 3 and has been nappiless for 1 week. But I need to remind her about every 2 hours, she screams i take her then she always pees! It's a battle I have to keep at as i know she will stop crying some time, and I always ignore it completely. Took her to playgroup this morning, which is the first time she has had to go on a big toilet other than at nursery. She screamed first time and did nothing, 2nd time screamed and I held her on and she did a pee!
she has not yet told me that she needs to go or managed to get a full poo in potty!! Still im not giving up. I also have DS who is nearly 8 months!

Wow that's fab progress Ponygirl - from 8.30 this morning when he was kicking up to even sit on the toilet in less then 4 hours he's doing it voluntarily - excellent.

Right Cod. here's our lowdown - save us please?

I'm going to try this again.

Ds - 3.4

Out of nappies since March 2005

Went straight into boys' undies - no pull ups etc.

At first spent 2 weeks at home taking ds to loo every half hour etc.

Have used chocolate/star charts/toys/mega praise/ignoring accidents etc.

Ds refuses to ask, but is entirely capable of holding it in (we've had a few dry weeks over the last year).

Doesn't mind wet or pooey pants at all.

HV says he's cottoned on to the fact that the loo is boring and that if he doesn't go I'll just clean up after him anyway. She says it'll click overnight (has done for the last year).

He's a real smart alec and very bright and articulate for his age.

I'm very close to losing it with him.

As his lack of using the toilet is just sheer defiance and laziness - can I start to punish him/withdraw treats etc???

Please help -anyone???

So far, four accidents. He's been sitting on the toilet fairly happily (though only fairly - he's not thrilled!) but hasn't done anything yet. Gets upset at wet trousers which is a good thing.

MeAndMyBoy - yes, I think he's made great progress both in sitting on the toilet and wearing pants, both of which he absolutely howled at this morning. Now he's gaily picking which colour he wants to wear next (found a big pile of ds1's old pants). We've got school pick-up soon, so we'll go for a try before we go and cross our fingers.

mcmudda what does he do when his friends go to the loo? my girls' friends go together, bit like dancing round handbags

Bundle - he just says he'll wait till later and says they are "clever/good for going to the toilet like a big boy/girl" So he's picked up my mantra but won't put it into practice on himself - grrrrr

He's not at nursery yet - our local will only take toddlers as unreliable as ds if they're in pull ups. Put him in training pants in November after giving up on the washing of 9 months of almost every wee and poo being in his pants.

hmmmm i must admit my nursery (both girls went there from 7 mths, 3 days a week) was central to us cracking potty training quite quickly, i could never have managed it without them. many people say boys are "slower" for various reasons, but without the motivation it's going to be very hard. is there any kind of treat that he simply adores?

Pink milk - he's a big charlie and lola fan

offer to take him for big tub of nesquick if he manages to get the loo & stay dry. but make the goals small ones, so he can build up with stickers or a chart aiming for pink milk heaven. or say he can play on the charlie & lola website catching butterflies game..

the website is a big favourite too (and a huge distraction - guaranteed to soak the computer chair).

If there's something he loves ie pink milk/website, should I make that a treat rather than an every day thing to see if that motivates him.

Will also speak to nursery again and explain our dilemma.

HV said peer pressure was the only way now too. vicious circle...

also in our house knickers are a big motivator - i take the girls shopping for them or just buy really groovy ones.

Bundle - we started off with Bob/Thomas/Tigger pants - he wasn't that impressed I have to say.

Then we moved on to washable training pants (Imse Vimse - will just about hold one accident, but will keep clothes dry) with a funky jungle pattern - I liked them, but ds just shrugged.

Now he's in the disposables I tried to get him to keep them dry by making them talk thus creating "Mr Pants" who begged him not to wee on his head ( I know I know but we're desperate her...).

Ds promised Mr Pants he wouldn't wee on him, but 10 mins later promptly did so. He then said "I'm really really sorry for doing that, but it's ok you can get another Mr Pants from the pack". Note to self: hide bulk box of pants.

hmmm mr pants does sound a bit well, pants

I can't believe how much more naff it looks written down. I'l get me coat...

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