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how many of you have never had your DC looked after over night?

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alwayswantedamrfrosty99 · 02/12/2011 16:43

my DS is nearly 20 months old,he has never been looked after over night by anyone

my parents have him 2 days a week while me and OH are at work,my OH works 7 days a week at the min so i have DS 5 days a week

all i hear off other mums is,my mums got my LO this sat night so i can go out,or my parents have asked if they can have my LO for the weekend,my mum will babysit,she comes to our house but we have to be home by 11

how much help do you get with your LO s? do your parents offer to have them or do u have to ask

just curious

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lisad123 · 02/12/2011 16:44

My girls have only ever stayed over my mums once last year, they are 8 and 4!!

meditrina · 02/12/2011 16:47

Aside from the times I was actually having the younger DCs, mine had one or other parent with them overnight until they were mid-primary age and were asking to have sleepovers with friends.

We don't have family nearby to ask; if we had, I daresay I'd have let them stay with them from much younger. With close family, I wouldn't wait for them to offer, but I would ask in a way that gave them a genuine option of saying no.

cookingfat · 02/12/2011 16:49

DD is 10 mo - will have third night away on Saturday! Am I awful? She goes to MIL who adores her, and never seems bothered by it. Gets thoroughly spoilt and MIL follows our routine to a tee.

I was reluctant the first time, but now relish it...

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lisad123 · 02/12/2011 16:51

No not awful at all.
My mum can't have my girls anyone due to her health so no night away for me and dh anytime in the future

MrsChristmasDB · 02/12/2011 16:52

Mine are 12 years and 7 years.

Never stayed anywhere else.

No family help either. Oh, I tell a lie. My parents have babysat a grand total of 3 times while DH and I went out.

lljkk · 02/12/2011 16:54

Virtually never, OP. DC1 just once (toddler age, my wedding night), only sleepovers for older ones after that (age 8+).

SanTEEClaus · 02/12/2011 16:55

Never. I mean, I've had my son on my own and so has my husband as we've both travelled for work or whatever, but with both of us gone? Never.

My parents are in the US and my husband's are not well enough to look after a toddler. Perhaps when he is older he will stay with them over night.

LoonyRationalist · 02/12/2011 16:57

My dd's, 5 & 2.9 stayed overnight with my dad at the end of October. First time ever - me & DH were meeting friends for a night out & stayed overnight in a hotel. We had a fab time & it was very relaxing but it was long enough iyswim, DH & I both said as we went to collect them that it we had missed them.

Whilst we will do it again - dd1 is already planning a trip to Grandma's (MIL) next time - - once or twice a year would be plenty for me & I feel that dd2 is only just old enough to start now.

You should do what you are happy with; some people leave their babies overnight from a few weeks old, some people don't leave them until their children are into double figures. Neither is wrong, just what is right for them.

TheChristmasCountessOlenska · 02/12/2011 16:59

I never have - DD is 20 months. She still sleeps with me and breastfeeds through the night. I could leave her with my mother, but I would feel guilty as I'm sure both of them would have a dreadful night!

Very of those of you who do though. As soon as she's off the boob I will be booking my child free weekend away

chocoroo · 02/12/2011 17:02

Our DD (9m) usually goes to DP's parents overnight about every six weeks or so. They go to bed early so they'd rather have her there than babysit at our house. It started because we had a number of weddings to go to over the summer and couldn't / didn't want to take DD.

My mum lives a couple of hours ago and is a bit jealous that she can't have DD overnight without us being around.

nagynolonger · 02/12/2011 17:02

Mine never stayed away over night. They went on cub camps, school trips, and the occasional sleepover, but they never stayed with GP. They babysat and we had the odd evening out but that's all. I think my parents would if we had asked but money was too tight to spend on weekends away.

WhereTheWildThingsWere · 02/12/2011 17:05

The only time I have left ds (7) overnight is to give birth to dd and then dp was here, I have never left dd.

HappyAsASandboy · 02/12/2011 17:10

My twins are one. I have been away overnight once (for work), and my mum stayed over with DH to look after them (she had them at out house the two days and so stayed over in the middle IYSWIM).

At 13 months I don't really want to leave them. I enjoye my night of sleep (normally cosleep and bf through the night), but I missed them.

To the person up thread who also cosleeps and feeds all night - you might be surprised if you left them. They didn't seem to miss me and were happy with Grandma's cuddles, where they insist on milk from me. If you want a night off, try it!

RockStockAndTwoOpenBottles · 02/12/2011 17:13

My older DC are late teens, and therefore have spent many nights away from me! Their first sleepovers with friends started at around 2-2½ (very close friends), and they would be either all at home or all at their chums' pretty much every weekend. The peace was fab

DD3 is 2.9 and I am having my FIRST NIGHT EVER away from her tomorrow. I CAN NOT WAIT . I (obvs) love her dearly, but it will be wonderful not to have her sleeping on my head for half the night, which is her favoured resting place from around 2am. She tells me it's comfy. Fucking weird child.

Bring on the space and peace I say.

flowerytaleofNewYork · 02/12/2011 17:17

My parents and in laws are all far away and don't babysit, especially overnight. The only time that has happened was when DS2 was born- I had a complication after c-section and DH was with me through the night.

Weekend away with DH would be lovely. In laws probably could have them but as they've never offered so I wouldn't dream of asking them.

ScarlettIsWalking · 02/12/2011 17:19

DD is 5 but never slept anywhere else. Her GP have her lots during holidays and stuff though.

mrsravelstein · 02/12/2011 17:19

ds1 is 10 and regularly stayed with GPs from when he was 12 months old (probably one night every 3 months or so)

ds2 (4) and dd(2) have never been left overnight.

exoticfruits · 02/12/2011 17:30

I started leaving overnight with grandparents from about 15month-it is so lovely for both sides.

exoticfruits · 02/12/2011 17:31

We started with them staying in our house while we went away and moved on to going to their house.

stegasaurus · 02/12/2011 17:31

Not yet, but she is only 7 months old. MIL has been asking for her to stay the night at their house since she was literally 6 weeks old. Unfortunately for MIL, DD is breastfed so can't stay the night anywhere without me. I guess it will happen fairly soon, as I go back to work in Feb and will have to do some nightshifts. MIL will probably persuade DH that it will be easier for him if she has DD some nights.

Pancakeflipper · 02/12/2011 17:35

My DS1 is 6 and it was only this Summer he stayed at a relatives house overnight.

My DS2 is 3 and we have not spent apart.

We do not have any family near to us to send them off to for a night. Shame cos' I have great memories of staying at my Grandparents.

PippiLongBottom · 02/12/2011 17:43

Me. My elder one has occasionally (she is nearly 10) but not my boys. They are five and two. They both still sleep in my room and the elder one in my bed.

Its hard when you have no help. I tend to rant drunkenly about it on facebook.

sleeplessinderbyshire · 02/12/2011 17:46

DD is 27 months we left her overnight for first time one night with my in laws 2 weeks ago. I've been away overnight with work/on hen dos and left her with DH he's been away loads with work/stag dos etc and left her with me. She rarely sleeps through and all GPs are 200+ miles away so doesn't make it easy

Bucharest · 02/12/2011 17:46

dd is 8 and has never been left.

I am an antisocial people hater though, so staying at home in my jimjams is what I choose to do!

exoticfruits · 02/12/2011 17:57

It is so hard for them when they get to school residential visits and they have never been allowed away from mum.

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