Caught SIL raising her eyes today after I made DD another meal when she didn't want the first option..

[ScarlettIsWalking]

Is this so wrong?

On the odd occasion when DD says doesn't like her lunch/ supper I make her something else. It really isn't a big deal to me at all.

Today I made her penne with pomodoro sauce and she tried but didn't eat it, I asked her what she fancied and she said she would prefer Spaghetti with cheese sauce and broccoli, it took me all of 10 mins to prepare her another meal which she devoured and cleared the plate. I saw SIL was very surprised -in a negative way- that I did this.

I would much rather give her something she loves than force her to eat something she doesn't, what us the point in that? I feel it may give her messed up ideas about food. She is polite, well mannered and healthy. Actually a stranger commented to me at a cafe how lovely and well behaved she was, - that's an aside but I am trying to communicate that she is not brattish or anything.

This is how I was brought up - my Mother made different dinners for all our varying appetites in a family of 6 and I really don't see a problem with it. I suspect many other's do?

It may not have bothered you to do it once and it may have well be the quickest way to get out of a lunch, rather than force your dd to eat something she didn't like. I would not judge this incident. cooking for a young PFB could be fun.

however what really put my back up was you not recognising that your mother cooking 6 different meals was ok. Since I have had children and had to cook for them day in and day out, save for the odd 'cereals for dinner' novelty, I shudder in shame at the memory of any of us mouthing "I doooooon't like it" "don't waaaaant this" "not this agaaaaaain" to whatever my mum put down (being mine an italian mama too, I can tell you that they were always a long multiple courses cooked from scratch 'proper' lovely meals).