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Knickers in bed

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JuJusDad · 13/02/2011 19:09

I'm a lone (male) parent to DD of 3.6. She's been out of nappies at night for about a good month or so now, and a lady of my acquaintance told me she should be wearing knickers at night.

So. Should DD wear knickers in bed along with her pyjamas?

Personally, I can't see any point in it as it's just another thing for her to remember to remove when she uses the potty in the night.

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JuJusDad · 13/02/2011 20:05

I had already made the decision - DD doesn't wear knickers in bed. I can't see that there's any need or point.

There was / is a general consensus of "no need", so that's cool.

The suggestion came from a woman as something of a passing comment, DD is female, I'm not, so I thought I'd ask, in case I was missing something or was completely wrong.

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notcitrus · 13/02/2011 20:06

Surely if you don't wear pants under your PJs you'd have to wash the PJs every day? Pants are much smaller and easier to wash.

Have to say this thread reminds me of kids activity holidays where either the pants or no-pants in bed group would be in the majority in the girls bedroom and tell the other lot they were disgusting and bully them all week...

IngridBergmann · 13/02/2011 20:06

I do believe you are overthinking this.

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OnlyWantsOne · 13/02/2011 20:07

... a bit by some of the responces on here TBH

My DD doesn't wear any thing under her pj'S however, she doesd wear a clean pair every day and we dont do nighties in this house.

IngridBergmann · 13/02/2011 20:07

@ jjd, sorry!

tabulahrasa · 13/02/2011 20:08

I can't for the life of me see what's wrong with the OP asking...

The rule here is bottoms need to be covered, so either underwear or pyjama bottoms - but that's for both DD and DS

Though actually I don't really care how they actually sleep as long as they don't try to wander around with their bits out - but mine are a fair bit older, lol

tictactical · 13/02/2011 20:08

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expatinscotland · 13/02/2011 20:10

I am in no way attacking you according to the guidlines here. You seem to be more prone to thrush than other people, who for most part do fine wearing knickers.

If you don't want to, fine, but they do not cause yeast infections/thrush as a general rule (to which you seem to the be the exception).

It is not attacking to point that out.

If people don't want to wear them, so what?

GwendolineMaryLacey · 13/02/2011 20:12

I think the OP just asked a question, it's everyone crying wierd that's overthinking it. Pity any male single parent who thinks he can come to you lot for advice.

NorthernGobshite · 13/02/2011 20:12

I am sickened that people are dubious about OP's intentions because he is male. What a sad thing.

And in answer to OP, no need for pants under PJ's.

IngridBergmann · 13/02/2011 20:13

expat, her personal health is not our business. just let it go.

RealityIsKnockedUp · 13/02/2011 20:13

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JuJusDad · 13/02/2011 20:17

tictactical - please see my post of 20:05.

And I resent the veiled and unpleasant personal attack that is implied in your post.

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NorthernGobshite · 13/02/2011 20:18

what is it then reality?

LadyBiscuit · 13/02/2011 20:20

So why does it bother you, Reality? I don't understand your issue with the question.

I don't think you need to wear knickers in bed but if parents like expat really want their children to wear them, then that's fine.

expatinscotland · 13/02/2011 20:20

'expat, her personal health is not our business. just let it go.'

Then it should be kept to oneself.

I don't have to 'let anything go', this is an open forum and I in no way attacked the poster, who voluntarily brought up her own condition.

It's untrue for the vast majority of the population that wearing knickers at night will cause overgrowth of candida and it is not attacking anyone to point that out.

JusJus, that is true, you are a well-known poster. I agree, I see nothing inherently odd about your OP just because you are male.

DirtyMartini · 13/02/2011 20:21

I don't think it is odd in the slightest, fwiw.

Comment re sleeping naked was obv an afterthought, and not in relation to his dd AND what, is any mention of being naked now automatically about sex or something salacious? Because there are masses of threads where people mention they sleep naked.

Also think it was a reasonable question from a single dad. I lived with my dad for a few years and he used to second-guess himself about all sorts of girl-specific stuff. It's not always obvious or easy to be sure you're doing stuff right, esp if someone tells you to do something you think seems weird (as here).

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JuJusDad · 13/02/2011 20:21

Thank you, expat.

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JuJusDad · 13/02/2011 20:24

Also thank you, Martini.

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DirtyMartini · 13/02/2011 20:24

JuJus, it's a shame you are being Put In Your Place. But it happens to women too - anyone remember the disastrous thread where a regular woman poster namechanged to ask about washing her dd's bits? Horrible, harsh, totally totally unjustified flaming because she didn't feel sure on a basic issue - something that was apparently deeply suspect of her to dare ask about on a parenting forum

IngridBergmann · 13/02/2011 20:24

No, Expat, you didn't attack her but you commented on her health in a manner that I (and she) found inappropriate - probably you meant your advice in a helpful way but it came across as intrusive.

Anyway...it isn't my job to speak out for someone who has already put her view across. You know she was upset by it and I think it would be nice if you apologised, but that's jmo.

pointythings · 13/02/2011 20:25

Mine don 't wear knickers under PJs, do wear them under nighties and these days both like sleeping either in just sleep shorts (no top) or just knockers (cotton).

When it gets really hot I suspect they'll start going for nothing at all.

We all wash daily, expats!

ifancyashandy · 13/02/2011 20:26

Never have or do wear knickers under pj's (clean ones every day) or nightdresses.

Find the idea of wearing them under nightwear quite odd. Not sure why, but it feels... I dunno, a little repressed but each to their own.

pointythings · 13/02/2011 20:26

Erm - knickers, not knockers. Been watching an 'allo 'allo DVD so blaming that instead of dodgy typing.

expatinscotland · 13/02/2011 20:26

Lots of people sleep nude, but no one bats an eye about that if it's the mother posting or a couple.

I have a son and don't know much about the willy, I leave it all to DH.

But if I had him on my own I'd have no one I could really ask about these sorts of things (like what age the foreskin should retract, what age to stand at the toilet rather than sit, that sort of thing).

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