How much do you 'ignore' your children?

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Have just been out with two families - friends of ours- who have kids about the same age, and I have to confess, I am amzed by the extent to which they actively 'ignore' their children trhoughout the whole afternoon.

By this I mean they seem to 'zone out' from all the various requests/ questions/ constant 'to-ing and fro-ing' that seems typical of under- 6s??

As a result they actively seem to enjoy themselves more, manage to have 'adult' conversations (which I gave up years ago )and it seems that their kids eventually give up and go and sort out themselves whatever it is they want....( which seems like a good thing I suppose)

I can't decide whether I'm just a mug with my kids and let them dominate my life too much... but I simply CAN'T ignore them - it seems really rude and uncaring somehow??

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cod?

its time to light the lights

Vaunda?

Oh do keep up JoolsToo!

HIya all,
Just a few points I would very much like to make if you don't mind... (and if you do then don't read it lol )
Right i did come on here originally to give my point of view and my experience of what i did with my son. I did not say anyone else was wrong for THEIR way of doing things after all we are all different.
Things got totally out of hand as I continued to explain how things were for lil man and I. It is hard to accept/believe that he could use sentences at 10 months I too was shocked and would also (if i didn't have ds) doubt it if someone else said it. We all have some degree of doubt in others experiences. I do however want to stress the fact that I have no reason to lie, I cannot abide lying.
I do parent in a way many others wouldn't even consider and I have no phylisophical reason for this. It is just the way I did things, now whether that is right or wrong only time will tell, but then surely we all have to play the waiting game to see if what we as parents did was right for our child.
Lil man is a very clever boy and I do in my heart of hearts believe that that is partly because he had my undivided attention from birth, was read to daily, as i walked along with him in his pram i would talk to him and tell him what things in the street were... pretty stupid when you think i did that with a day old baby yes i know lol.

I genuinely believed that the RSB accepted 3 children out of the school each yr as i said the parents of last yrs juniors (still there just moved up) were discussing this on friday.

Now can we please carry on with whatever subject aside from my parenting methods comes up.
lets relax kick off our shoes and have a glass of wine.

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ooo toothy - quick thread?

Re refs to another child:
his 1st name has been mentioned, there is a link to the school, Vaunda, you made ref to the name of his class teacher, the fact that he is in your opinion 'spiteful', the year that he is in, some reference Vaunda made to 'golder' and some other hints about inidents and people.

I certainly would not feel comnfortable about this if it was my child...not interested in who posted the refs, i just think they shouldn't remain.

Harps will a light sabre help???? I have a double ended one

Blu,
I never said that child was spiteful I said a mn posters relative was spiteful and if you care to read through you will see i also stated it was not the child in question. so please arm yourself with all the facts before going off half cocked.

A double-ended one?

Of Darth Mord, is it?

Nearer to the dark side, this thread gets...

Masteryoda.
shhhh but it isn't mine and i will get in trouble if he finds out i am playing with darth mauls sabre...... I perosnally would prefer a sabre toothed tiger hee hee hee

i do think it would be wise to ask to have the posts with specific details removed (in fact I think it may be Mumsnet legal obligation to do so)

Zippi, i have asked but i have got to go through all the posts to find them first

Ah, Maul, the wretch is called, not Maud.

Pay attention, I must.

Yoda,
I didn't know whose it was i just bought it for him cos it looked cool lol

Vaunda

i don't envy you that task

zippi
i don't wanna do it toooooooooooooo longgggggggggggg

Can I just say that I read to my children daily too, and point out things in the house/street/supermarket/whatever and name them too (even from tiny baby) and none of my children are as advanced as has been described on this thread...

however, my mum brought me up naming things and teaching me things and brags that by two I could count, recite the alphabet etc, and by three write my own name (Stephanie, not exactly an 'easy' name). Apparently I was toilet trained day and night by 18m too which I find very hard to believe as a mum myself, but my parents insist it is true.

I remember none of this, but do remember reading quite grown up books and being assessed at 9 and having a reading age of 13, so I do believe these statements by other mnetters. I have always loved reading and learning and still do now (in no way a brag) and while I am far from being 'clever', I am interested in many subjects (as are most people).

Saying that, Einstein didn't speak at all until the age of 2, reputedly, so child acquisition of learning obviously has no bearing on intelligence/skills in adulthood.

NO it was 5, but Einstein was autistic.

Did you see that program on Einstein's brain, Jimjams? It was facinating

no- wasn't it big?

It was big, but bits of it were bigger than others, and specificaly he had significan;y more synapsses in one specific area....for the life of me I can't remember which bit! Will google for a link