How much do you 'ignore' your children?

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Have just been out with two families - friends of ours- who have kids about the same age, and I have to confess, I am amzed by the extent to which they actively 'ignore' their children trhoughout the whole afternoon.

By this I mean they seem to 'zone out' from all the various requests/ questions/ constant 'to-ing and fro-ing' that seems typical of under- 6s??

As a result they actively seem to enjoy themselves more, manage to have 'adult' conversations (which I gave up years ago )and it seems that their kids eventually give up and go and sort out themselves whatever it is they want....( which seems like a good thing I suppose)

I can't decide whether I'm just a mug with my kids and let them dominate my life too much... but I simply CAN'T ignore them - it seems really rude and uncaring somehow??

Sorry JImjams, I just thought if she was being so vocal about her problems then her HV or GP might have alerted them.

There's nothing more annoying than being left babysitting indefinitely, I can agree with you there.

QoQ because he was living with me as was she and she did feck all for him. So somebody had to do the things he needed.

So you say absolutely that your son's primary school sends three children to the RBS every year for life and those 3 places are guaranteed? Not an outreach programme that anyone enthusiastic can join, but an audition for the RBS?

woha - now I'm totally confused - she was living with you? Yet you didn't know her son since he was 4 months old?

If it wasn't lunchtime I'd have another glass of cider - it seemed to make much more sense then

How long would it take for me to read this far with this thread? Is it worth the time? Should I play with my son instead?

Our local CoE church offers mass. IT's not solely reserved for the Catholic mass. It's a fairly high church term though.

Zippi, if she had just allowed lil man to get to know me i am sure he would have been more comfortable but they had only moved from amnchester to london teh day before and she went off for hours on end. he thought his mummy had left him

yoyo - read it - your DS will be find playing - put Cbeebies on, give him some food and juice and read it

I think vaunda said her 2nd cousin turned up and expected to be taken in by her and then she went out and met someone and took advantage of vaunda's good nature

It was the use of the word mass that made me suspect english as a 2nd language. Still cannot get my head around the RBS stuff though.

Vaunda - my DS thought we'd "left" him when we first went out for an evening - yet he was with my parents - who he knows extremely well!

DS2 "still" thinks I'm leaving him if I so much as go out into the garden LOL

QoQ she moved to Manchester when he was 5 months old and i didn't see or hear from her in 4 yrs then she and her mum wanted to move back to london and i offered hr and her son a home. her mum moved in with my mum.

yoyo - you'd probably be better employed taking a leaf from Monkeytrousers' book and reading the collected works of marx and engels!

No wonder the poor boy was bewildered, vaunda

Oh rats I cracked. It is possible to nestle in the bosom of the C of E and refer to holy communion as "Mass" if you are anglo-cath. Lots of inner-city churches in Diocese of Southwark are surprisingly bells and smells.

Oh come on guys - stop interrogating poor Vaunda !!

Has this not gone on long enough now ?

QoQ , but had you just uprooted him from teh only home he ever knew? moved him to a total different area into a home with 3 people already living there and then go and leave him for hours on end? without warning the people you left him with what he was or wasn't capable or able of doing?

If he deosn't do the RBS thing is The Chicken Shack /Shed group near you?

Marina the exact religion we are Anglican Catholic. well hubby isn't he is a muslim but lil one and I are

what's that got to do with it?

He still thought we'd left him for good!

Oh this is classic.

I HAVE JUST RUNG THE SCHOOL..........................................

stop press

well I'm giving up as well- seems I am never going to get to the bottom of the RBS stuff unless we get it from MarsLady- my guess is that they do visit and maybe select kids for an outreach dance thing but a place at the RBS for life? Nah.

Vaunda's enjoying the attention