How much do you 'ignore' your children?

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Have just been out with two families - friends of ours- who have kids about the same age, and I have to confess, I am amzed by the extent to which they actively 'ignore' their children trhoughout the whole afternoon.

By this I mean they seem to 'zone out' from all the various requests/ questions/ constant 'to-ing and fro-ing' that seems typical of under- 6s??

As a result they actively seem to enjoy themselves more, manage to have 'adult' conversations (which I gave up years ago )and it seems that their kids eventually give up and go and sort out themselves whatever it is they want....( which seems like a good thing I suppose)

I can't decide whether I'm just a mug with my kids and let them dominate my life too much... but I simply CAN'T ignore them - it seems really rude and uncaring somehow??

and making up for lost time it seems!

I went to a party with Peter Davidson once and he had a massive bag of coke, he offered me some and I said no

Batters, i do write poetry yes. It is my way of expressing what i feel inside.... why is that a problem? I have already said i don't sleep well and i do a lot of my writing in the evening.

Fox and why shouldn't we?

www.postpoems.com/members/vaunda

still nearly newly weds - how long have you been married??

Ds' favourite present (he was 5 on Saurday) is a full size inflatable Dalek. It was sitting in our lounge while he watched Docotr Who last night (special treat - we wouldn't normally let him stay up that late on a school night), but this morning he decide he wanted it up in his bedroom and took it upstairs (up a narrow spiral stair case - don't know how he did it! ).

I think if you didn't ignore the whinges whines and demands sometimes you would go mad!There are certain situations where you answer them but aren't really listening iykwim As for all the other stuff children really need to be children while they can and are not mini adults

QoQ 2 years tomorrow

Vaunda has been married for 2 years she must be exhausted

I'm still intrigued how Karl's 24 inch TV fell on his head if it was on the floor.

Sorry...that's the bit that's doing MY head in.

I read this thread and thought I was a particularly cynical woman, as I agreed with sobernow's first assessment of the fiction-writer. And when Vaunda threw the word "whore" in so liberally, well that sealed it for me.

Vaunda - please start a new thread. I'm thinking "Aliens visit my child's school every Thursday and choose the brightest five to be teletransported to Gog-on-sea for neurological profiling - should I let him go?" . I'll post on it!

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Prettybird, we are waiting for the delivery of the sonic screwdriver for him. a friend has bought him it but we waiting for postie to bring it now

I would like to know where you got your ideas on marriage and kids and if all your friends live like you Sex every night aswell Surely not?

Mogwai, i explained how the tv fell, he climbed on the bottom drawer of his chest of drawers and it fell off hit his head and landed on the floor.

as for calling my cousin a whore anyone who can leave their (then) 4 yr old son with someone he hasn't seen since he was 4 months old to go and spend the day in bed with a man she has only met the day before is a whore.

I didn't say all my friends live like me. As for my ideas on marriage... I take my ideas from our marriage and we are very happy. As for my ideas on raising children i take them from my parents who raised 3 of us.

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that isn't a whore unless of course he pays her

Vaunda your technical understanding of whoredom is at fault

(why am I joining in with this?

Noddy, I wouldn't know what he did with her. But she is/was far from a responsible mother... for all my faults many people (in their opinion) have discovered and highlighted i do not leave my son to go off with someone i have just met. It isn't how i work.

(Did he pay her?)

Caligula what would you ohhh so perfect class it as then?

so a 24inch tv bounced off his head and landed on the floor? Does Karl have a rubber head by any chance?

She left her DS with her SIL didn't she? Not with a random stranger.

No he bought her her daily alcohol, and also clothes so she got a form of payment from him.