How much do you 'ignore' your children?

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Have just been out with two families - friends of ours- who have kids about the same age, and I have to confess, I am amzed by the extent to which they actively 'ignore' their children trhoughout the whole afternoon.

By this I mean they seem to 'zone out' from all the various requests/ questions/ constant 'to-ing and fro-ing' that seems typical of under- 6s??

As a result they actively seem to enjoy themselves more, manage to have 'adult' conversations (which I gave up years ago )and it seems that their kids eventually give up and go and sort out themselves whatever it is they want....( which seems like a good thing I suppose)

I can't decide whether I'm just a mug with my kids and let them dominate my life too much... but I simply CAN'T ignore them - it seems really rude and uncaring somehow??

Vaunda you do sound odd but just maybe you are not Judge Flounce in disguise...

Sorry but I don't believe you about the Royal Ballet - did you ever answer why it was your ds school in particular that they picked and is it just one of the things they do to look egalitarian?

what does your dh think about your relationship with your son?

vaunda you are totaly barking

Vaund is this your area

Making dance accessible

The Royal Ballet School has recently been working collaboratively with Brampton Manor School, a state school in Newham, and with its associated primary schools. The partnership has resulted in an exciting two-way partnership benefiting pupils and teachers in both institutions. While the Royal Ballet School can provide first-rate training in classical ballet techniques, Brampton Manor pupils can provide inspirational drama and alternative perspectives in community dance. The two schools have put on stimulating and innovative performances at Stratford Circus, East London in 2003 and 2004 under the banner "East meets West" to encourage excellence in the arts and make dance accessible to all. As a result of this activity, at least two real-life "Billy Elliots" have been admitted to the Royal Ballet School.

Further details about the Royal Ballet School's outreach programme can be found at www.royal-ballet-school.org.uk/Outreach/outreach.htm. The school also works closely with the Royal Opera House - see info.royaloperahouse.org/Education/Index.cfm?highlight=education

The Arts Educational School, Tring and the Hammond School, Chester both develop dance partnerships with local state schools and provide community based dance performance and training opportunities further afield.

Oh this is just priceless. rotfl

No he goes to St John the Divine school. And they save 3 places a year at the RBS for children from St John the Divine.

hmm not guaranteed places vaunda maybe you should warn Karl

St John the Divine?

that doesnt sound very CofE to me

It's posted earlier in the thread Enid. Luckily all the school's disabled children are in karl's class.

I'm beginning to think Vaunda's name begins with L.

Enid,
My relationship with my son is that of a mother and child. My dh see's nothing wrong with me treating our son as just that.

Oh this is getting mean, and far to bizarre for me. I'm off to have a life. I still don't believe the 3 guaranteed places at the RBS thing and I still think it is a wind-up.

JimJams are they? there are disabled children throughout the school whether they have physical, educational, mental disabilities is another thing entitrely.

I'm sure you have a very strong relationship with your son Vaunda, I have to say that my dh would NOT be happy if my dds came everywhere with us (including to a 40th birthday party)

JimJams my name begins with V or maybe you cannot see that

according to your schools ofsted there is less than usual SN pupils at your school

Enid
my dh is sitting in the room with me and i just asked him
"Do you have a problem with the fact that everywhere we go karl goes too"
He replied
"No we are a family and that is what families do"

ping. light dawns. its lavenderrr sint' it. ti has allt he hallmarks of lavenderrr postings. well done that woman you done us proud. rofl

Enid,
I know of 5 off the top of my head in teh school which hav a disability of some form or another. I know of another 4 who are waiting for statementing. I also explained that a lot of karls friends are from outside of school.

I really don;t like the term "mental disabilities" IIRC correctly your son's school has 4 statemented children - now the boy on crutches may not have a statement, but the children with hydrocephallus and autism will- unless they are very high functioning (in which case it would be a bit weird to refer to them as "disabled" before refering to other things about them) Which means they must all be in karl's class.

Can't claim it Mud- it was suggested to me - and yes it was a stroke of genius I think.

if you care to read you will see i have said the child on crutches is NOT from school.

I doubt the child on crutches would be listed as having SEN anyway.

but the child does have SN and attends a smaller school

I sat here yesterday and read this whole thread and it got weirder and weirder. all i can say is:

No offence to you Vaunda i am not trying to pick on you but i was forced to grow up very quickly at the age of 13 because i had something terrible happen to me which im not going into on here, but i felt i lost my childhood, and thats at 13, at the age of 7 he should be learning to be around his own age group, play, get messy, be silly. he shouldnt be worrying about war or the twin towers bombings, even if he appears level headed hes probably terrified. im just warning, it took me 4 years of councilling to get over what i went through and then i had to rehabilitate myself to my friends, which didnt happen and i went off into the adult world rather than being a teenager.
i can see that your boy is happy and healthy and you are doing nothing to discorage him in doing everything he wants to do, but children nedd friends and sillyness, dont let them grow up too quickly, forces outside our control make them grow up quick enough!