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Gameboy · 10/09/2005 17:02

Have just been out with two families - friends of ours- who have kids about the same age, and I have to confess, I am amzed by the extent to which they actively 'ignore' their children trhoughout the whole afternoon.

By this I mean they seem to 'zone out' from all the various requests/ questions/ constant 'to-ing and fro-ing' that seems typical of under- 6s??

As a result they actively seem to enjoy themselves more, manage to have 'adult' conversations (which I gave up years ago )and it seems that their kids eventually give up and go and sort out themselves whatever it is they want....( which seems like a good thing I suppose)

I can't decide whether I'm just a mug with my kids and let them dominate my life too much... but I simply CAN'T ignore them - it seems really rude and uncaring somehow??

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QueenOfQuotes · 12/09/2005 01:28

noo its not wine - its cider - and i must sleep now - i've typed this very slowly do I don't make any mistakes

steffee · 12/09/2005 01:35

lol QoQ

WideWebWitch · 12/09/2005 06:49

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Pruni · 12/09/2005 06:55

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Jimjams · 12/09/2005 08:02

Nothin strange about children playing with orchestra's for school children, or appearing in west end plays (gosh one girl from my school even got into the Royal Ballet School), it's the idea that the RBS keeps aside 3 places every year for kids from one primary school which is utter bollards.

I'm not offended about the kids not looking disabled thing- just thing its hilarious that comment was directed at me!

Vaunda · 12/09/2005 08:06

Marslady,
I just have to ask you this
1 how is golder? and 2 where on earth does david play football as it is banned in the school playground, unless he is in the infants. Ohhh and by the way your david's teacher is Mr Passy.

Nightynight · 12/09/2005 08:13

Morning QoQ - how's your head?

zippitippitoes · 12/09/2005 08:21

I haven't caught up with this thread since yesterday ,b ut just seen you mention that he isn't allowed to run around like other kids because of anoxic seizures

well forget them, my daughter has the same and they really really don't affect childhood games, thery are worrying but they recover pretty quickly...so let him do the rough and tumble, just warn anyone looking after him so that they aren't at a loss if he has one.

Vaunda · 12/09/2005 08:28

Zippi, thanks for that info. As he has not long been diagnosed with it and I don't know too much about it.

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QueenOfQuotes · 12/09/2005 08:44

how's the head?

Absolutely fine - I can still drink like a fish and wake up with no hangover

Fio2 · 12/09/2005 08:46

i cant, i feel awful

Jimjams · 12/09/2005 08:52

Wouldn't anoxic seizures affect your chance of entry into the Royal Ballet School for life? And why is a CofE school having mass (as someone mentioned earlier).

zippitippitoes · 12/09/2005 08:56

And vaunda I've found that Bach's rescue formula is good to aid recovery.

He'll probably have quite a few of the reflex anoxic seizures if he does the ballet, dd1 found the high kicks and dancing with a partner especially lethal (not literally of course)

Had one particularly memorable occasion on holiday at an Arts Festival when she went to a rock and roll class and the boy she was with caught her on the chin with his foot.

The upside was that we got taken backstage for her to recover and she was put on a bed in the bands' dressing area, but it was aneye opener to me just remeber your dh is a drummer so wouldn't be quite such a thing for you.

zippitippitoes · 12/09/2005 08:57

just remembered etc etc

zippitippitoes · 12/09/2005 09:02

Just noticed that he hasn't been diagnosed, in my opinion experience they are quite benign (I think many people have them and don't get diagnosed). There have been threads on here before, it's also common to grow out of them by adulthood.

Here is some info to allay any worries you have (from netdoctor)

What are anoxic seizures?

A reflex anoxic seizure is a type of fit triggered by a temporary cutting off of the supply of blood to the brain.

It is NOT a form of epilepsy, and is different from breath-holding attacks.

A reflex anoxic seizure can be induced by any unexpected stimuli such as pain, fear or fright, or even by a very hot or cold bath.

The trigger factor causes the heart to stop or slow down dramatically, which in turn reduces the flow of blood to the brain.

The child goes limp, falls down and becomes very pale. The body may stiffen and there may be jerking movements of the arms and legs.

After a short while the blood flow to the brain is restored and the child rapidly returns to normal although they may sleep for some time afterwards.

Reflex anoxic seizures probably occur in about 8 out of every 1000 preschool children. They are most common between the ages of six months and two years but they can also occur in teenagers and adults.

Although parents often say their child looks as if they have died during an attack, I have never heard of the condition causing death.

Often no treatment is required, but some studies have suggested that the drug atropine is effective in reducing the frequency of the attacks.

Thankfully, reflex anoxic seizures usually get less frequent and eventually stop during childhood. Occasionally the attacks persist into early adult life.

If you'd like to get in touch with a self help group you can contact the Reflex Anoxic Seizure Support Group (R.A.S.) at PO Box 175, Stratford upon Avon CV37 8YD, tel/fax: 01789 450564, e-mail: [email protected]

Yours sincerely

The Medical Team

zippitippitoes · 12/09/2005 09:04

Sorry vaunda I'm crossed eyed this morning Karl has been diagnosed but it makes no difference really as I said.

Vaunda · 12/09/2005 09:31

Zippi as i am sure you are aware, when this is first diagnosed and with very little info to go on you do worry

Vaunda · 12/09/2005 09:32

The school have mass on occassion just as they go to the church which is attached to the school (well not actually attached just up the road).

Vaunda · 12/09/2005 09:33

I did look out for marslady's nephew but it seems he and his sister are not in school today.....
I think it would be extremely difficult to see their mum as she doesn't take them to school they go alone.

zippitippitoes · 12/09/2005 09:36

I was worried, yes...I used to be off to A&E until I relaised it was not the injury she might have sustained causing it.

There is surprisingly little risk to falling as the body is limp and all though alarming to witness they do recover pretty quickly...only they may not know what happened and be tired or confused for a while. It's one of those things you come to accept.

So I was really saying don't worry.

Jimjams · 12/09/2005 09:36

mass - in CofE??? Isn't mass a catholic thing?

Won't the anoxic seizures affect karl's chance of getting one of the guaranteed RBS places? If he really wants it maybe you should warn him his medical condition may go against him.

QueenOfQuotes · 12/09/2005 09:36

I'm still very suprised that a Church of England school - has a Catholic service - our headmistress wouldn't even dream of doing that LOL.

Vaunda · 12/09/2005 09:39

JimJams.... please for your own sake learn to read for not once have i said Karl had a gaurenteed place i said the entire juniors will be auditioned. And he really wants to do ballet.

Jimjams · 12/09/2005 09:41

and not once did I say he had a guaranteed place. I said if he wants the place very badly (one of the 3 guaranteed places that goes to children in his school- bollards) then maybe you should caution him that he is unlikely to get it, as his anoxic seizures may predjudice his chances. Just like the child on crutches will be less likely to get one of the places, and one of the 4 with autism, or hydrocephallus.

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