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Stupid inane things that people say...

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Pruni · 14/08/2005 14:13

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milward · 14/08/2005 23:36

Miaou - I get that now. I've 3 dds & will have a boy in sept. Always get the now you can stop trying for a boy talk or how will he manage with 3 sisters. Drives me insane.

RnB · 14/08/2005 23:41

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eidsvold · 14/08/2005 23:48

they're always so loving and happy ( to my dd1 who has down syndrome) NO - try getting her to go to bed, try getting her when she is off on a tantrum........

sallystrawberry · 14/08/2005 23:53

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milward · 14/08/2005 23:54

dd4 has high risk of downs from the risk factors of the antenatal tests. Have told some friends & have go the words - that I'll feel chosen, that they're so rewarding. I think this is rubbish - our ds will be who he is just like any other kid.

sallystrawberry · 15/08/2005 00:00

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Socci · 15/08/2005 00:05

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sparklymieow · 15/08/2005 00:15

the other one is 'he/she doesn't look disabled' what do they want, horns or something???

Socci · 15/08/2005 00:18

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cleverclogs · 15/08/2005 00:20

I have twin girls (now 9 yrs) when they were babies, someone asked me which one was my favourite? ahh now let me see ......

sparklymieow · 15/08/2005 00:21

and 'but he makes up for not being able to use his legs properably by using his brain'
Yes he is smart, but if he was normal (hate that word) he would still have the same brain FFS!!!

wheresmyfroggy · 15/08/2005 00:24

People who say.
"you'll be pregnant again soon I bet" to dw as if we just breed and nothing else.

AlmostAnAngel · 15/08/2005 06:35

i hope you dont mind me saying...........[hmm sounds like i prob will]
when people say hasnt she grown! [well yes! as the last time you saw her she was 4 now shes 8 most proberly!]

WideWebWitch · 15/08/2005 06:58

"with all due respect" and "no disrespect but" both really pee me off

mumtosomeone · 15/08/2005 07:23

I heard someone say once..you dont look old enough to have twins!!

and on another note a saying that makes me laugh..would you like a nice cup of tea?
who wants a horrid one?!!!

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Pruni · 15/08/2005 07:26

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AlmostAnAngel · 15/08/2005 07:32

or."dont take this the wrong way"! arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh

Jimjams · 15/08/2005 08:17

My aunt last week said

"oh well you'll be able to go to restaurants- do lots of eating out - tha'll be nice".

I explained there was no way we could go to a restaurant with ds1.

"Oh but your mum said he was getting better since he's been at his new school".

WTF????? So then had to explain that she meant that he was improving a lot, and was a lot happpier, but was still miles away from normal and always will be. And that restaurants didn't feature.

I've had the "oh he doesn't look autistic" one RnB and the sppecial skill - usually oh "I bet he's really good at maths isn't he?". Talk about not having a clue.

gingerbear · 15/08/2005 08:50

When I was asked when pregnant,'Do you know what you are having' I would answer, 'well I think it is a baby, but I was hoping for an antelope, because they can stand and walk within two minutes of birth and I wouldn't have to mess about with nappies.'

logic · 15/08/2005 08:51

I'm a bit shocked by the mocking posts on here about ppl trying to comment on SN children in a positive way. Would you rather they said something nasty? Would you rather they ignored them on the grounds that they don't know what to say? I don't think that I would...

Btw, I don't have an SN child but I do have a baby with a birthmark on her face so I do have to deal with ppl not knowing what to say about it...

Jimjams · 15/08/2005 09:03

oh FGS

Sorry but he'll soon catch up is a ridiculous thing to say to someone with a severely disabled child. It deserves mockery, particularly because I can't say anything in response- so it's let out here.

Sparkley's things she's had to endure about thwe brain taking over the legs are equally stupid. So stupid they made me laugh when I read them

special skill- yawn.

And as for my AUNT- well I could forgive a stranger- why would they know how far from that he was- but my AUNT should make some attempt to understand our situation.

Jimjams · 15/08/2005 09:03

oh FGS

Sorry but he'll soon catch up is a ridiculous thing to say to someone with a severely disabled child. It deserves mockery, particularly because I can't say anything in response- so it's let out here.

Sparkley's things she's had to endure about thwe brain taking over the legs are equally stupid. So stupid they made me laugh when I read them

special skill- yawn.

And as for my AUNT- well I could forgive a stranger- why would they know how far from that he was- but my AUNT should make some attempt to understand our situation.

RnB · 15/08/2005 09:12

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Jimjams · 15/08/2005 09:32

I think it depends who says it as well. For example in the weeks leadng up to xmas everyone and their dog says "ooh I bet they're really looking forward to xmas aren't they?" and I smile sweetly and say yes. BUT when my SIL says it EVERY WEEK, every year even though every time we reply we say "Well ds1 doesn't really understand about xmas" then it gets draining and I want to stick my head in a bucket of icy water. I think it just shows an unwillingness to take on board anything really.

Jimjams · 15/08/2005 09:36

Oh and I've just remembered the stupidist thing anyone has ever said to me ever. Having been in her class for almost a year DS1's mainstream teacher sent a note home in the home-link book saying "could you sit ds1 down this weekend and explain to him that pinching hurts". I was LIVID, and worried (as it showed she had zero clue, absolutely zero) until I showed his SALT who threw back her head, rooared with laughter and had to wipe the tears from her eyes.

Thank god for special schools.

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