Ladies, I need some help.

[TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle]

Some of you may know that ds1 has had a hard time at school and as a result i had to pull him out.well i have found him a new school but the problem I have is financing the uniform I have not been so broke in a long time.

I have got to find so much by monday, does anyone have any 12-13 grey trousers, 12-13 white shirts, and any other bits that may be useful.

I still have to get all of the following

WA Boys Heavy Duty Twill Blazer with free tie £29.99
WA Pullover 100% cotton £14.99
WA White PE shirt £9.99
WA Black PE shorts £9.99
WA Navy Fleece sports Jacket £19.99
WA Navy Jogging pants £19.99
TRUTEX Shirts White twin Pack £9.99 (any white shirts)
Grey flat Front trousers £11.99 (any grey trousers)
Boy Banner Winter 3-in-1 Jacket £34.99 (this I can get any winter coat in place of)

You could have home educated him during the time he was off. Just because he is not in school does not mean he cannot do any mwork. There is a wealth of resources at the touch of a button, including the national curriculum. I would tell the school that due to financial probs at present you cannot afford the uniform until the end of the month or whenever and you will have no alternative but to home educate until the unform is provided. Then, if they want him there they can surely lend him something from lost property or second hand until that time.

ILT, I sat and worked it all out to the penny and now I have got trousers and shirts and a tie sorted it is even less.

eyetunes, that is what i have been doing...the thing he has missed out on is a school education....

You know, I can kind of sympathise with you in a way. You needed the uniform in a hurry and upon searching I can see you regularly use mumsnet so no doubt you thought mumsnet could help. In your eagerness to get your son into school on the Monday, perhaps thinking that on Mon all your problems would be at an end, you didn't consider any other options, you just had a rash thought.

It was tasteless to post on Trinity's thread, perhaps you thought that's where all the generous people were to be found.

I don't know anything about your family situation other than you had a baby in 2007. I don't know if your ds is half to blame for the problems in his last school or what measures you took. I haven't read all your past threads in full, there are too many of them.

But this is the first time you've asked mumsnet for anything and you have given others advice in the past.

So my advice to you now is to take some of these practical suggestions on board. Yes it will be a pain to wait an extra 2 weeks when you thought he'd be in school and everything sorted for Monday, but that's what you may have to do. You never know, they may relent yet once you tell them what you plan to do.

I would ask for this thread to be deleted and rely on kind mumsnetters not to bring this thread, or your past name, up again.

Hope it all works out.

Rhubarb, Thankyou.
I wish everyone who does bring my past name up would leave it alone tbh. At the time I was posting I had severe depression and with a lot of work, staying away from MN and the internet in general, as well as getting a divorce, i picked myself up. I wish I could change everything i said then but hey ho thats life......

I thought somebody else said there were many threads asking for money? I'm confused.

Good luck with the new school though- I'm sure there's a way round this.

Hey guys, she's got the point, now leave her alone. Let's not beat up a Mum who's just trying to do her best for her kids. We all make mistakes sometimes, no?

OP, glad you've managed to get your DS into somewhere that you think he'll be happy, hope it all works out for you.

BoF, I only posted this thread. Another MNetter posted one asking for people to help me.

I was asking for help in general, if anyone had any of the items not necessarily financial help but if anyone had spare trousers, shirts, etc.

TLES: I have read many of your threads about your family, your dp and your ex-p, in my years on Mumsnet but always felt unable to say anything constructive on them. It seems to me (sorry for very plain speaking here) that there is always some huge drama or crisis (didn't your ds go missing on his way home from school recently?) and that you are not necessarily very good at listening to the advice given to you. I am not sure that moving your ds after, what?, only four weeks in his new school is going to do anything to improve your lives. I hope this doesn't sound harsh, but I wonder if the way you all operate together as a family is somehow causing all this stress and angst.

Apologies if this is going too far - I felt moved to speak out on this occasion.

BBH, he got the wrong bus once but never went missing....that was when i first let him travel alone.

I post about the things that annoy/wind me up as a release, a safe place to let off steam.

DS1's behaviour is not a huge dillema/crisis, it is sadly a fact of life, and I do take everyones advice...I can't show you obviously but I do.

The bullying he was subjected to in school had nothing to do with his homelife...and I hope this move will be the right thing for him.

TLEC, I'm sure I remember you in the past singing your son's praises, his maturity, how much your friends enjoyed his company etc. That's why I was very confused in the summer when you talked about his horrid behaviour towards your family. What has happened to him to cause this huge change? OK, he's growing up, hitting the dreaded teenage years but that doesn't seem to explain the complete change of personality that he appears to have undergone.

AnnH, he has changed and I don't know why tbh.
He can be an angel and in a split second he can be a nightmare.

there are a lot of things that have changed and maybe thats the reason he has....who knows. I guess that when he was having me all to himself he was happy...maybe its a sharing thing mixed with those dreaded hormones.

Annh, also I stopped taking him out with friends etc, i started having a life of my own.

shineon, i know i realised all the advice on here was right and my way although not wrong was not right for ds1