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Ladies, I need some help.

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TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle · 03/11/2009 21:50

Some of you may know that ds1 has had a hard time at school and as a result i had to pull him out.well i have found him a new school but the problem I have is financing the uniform I have not been so broke in a long time.

I have got to find so much by monday, does anyone have any 12-13 grey trousers, 12-13 white shirts, and any other bits that may be useful.

I still have to get all of the following

WA Boys Heavy Duty Twill Blazer with free tie £29.99
WA Pullover 100% cotton £14.99
WA White PE shirt £9.99
WA Black PE shorts £9.99
WA Navy Fleece sports Jacket £19.99
WA Navy Jogging pants £19.99
TRUTEX Shirts White twin Pack £9.99 (any white shirts)
Grey flat Front trousers £11.99 (any grey trousers)
Boy Banner Winter 3-in-1 Jacket £34.99 (this I can get any winter coat in place of)

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GypsyMoth · 04/11/2009 14:23

you don't need rules changed...anyway,there is always an exception,to every rule...

tribeleader · 04/11/2009 14:24

from directgov

If your child breaks the rules when it comes to school uniform, they could be punished by the headteacher. More serious punishments like suspension or expulsion from the school are only considered acceptable if the pupil's disregard of uniform policy is persistent and defiant.

Schools should be considerate if a pupil does not keep to the uniform policy, and try to find out why it is happening. If a family is having financial difficulties, the school should allow for this and give the parents time to buy the right items.

Pupils should not be made to feel uncomfortable, nor discriminated against, because their parents cannot provide them with the right school uniform.

Rhubarb · 04/11/2009 14:27

LadyEvenStar, he's been at his secondary for just one half term. I would be trying harder to sort it out than traumatise him by moving schools - that means he'll have to try and fit in all over again.

Enrol him in some self defence classes to boost his confidence. Ask to see the schools anti-bullying policy.

There is no guarantee that his problems will not continue at this new school. And if you can afford the uniform in 2 weeks then I would personally wait 2 weeks and inform the school and the board of governors that he will not start until you can afford the uniform, they may well make an exception then.

There are alternatives that you could be considering rather than asking mumsnetters to stump up the cost.

Gymandbareit · 04/11/2009 14:27

I can understand not wanting ds to start school without correct uniform, especially if he had a hard time at his last school.

There must surely be other avenues for you to explore though. Think this has been really poorly done.

nailpolish · 04/11/2009 14:27

sorry but it is a fact that school are not allowed to insist on logod uniform. its acceptable for schools to say white shirt black trousers but to say they have to be logod is not allowed

unless of course it is a private school

is it a private school?

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TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle · 04/11/2009 14:27

Please I have asked for help, obviously people feel it was the wrong thing to do or i asked in the wrong way for this I apologise, I am not begging, I am sitting here so embarrassed by for the first time in 11 yrs not being able to provide my son with what he needs. But I will ask for this to be removed, to the kind lady who did send a donation, i shall return it, i did not want any hassle, i genuinely need some help. I have asked friends and family but have had no joy, it is very short notice.

As for my mobile phone being smashed by ds1, yes he did, no I am not after a new one, I am happy to continue using what I have, I will get a new one eventually. I don't know what I can do other than ask for this to be removed.

Please accept my Apologies

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FluffysBeenBittenByAVampire · 04/11/2009 14:28

Tribeleader's right, they can't do anything if your child turns up at school in a non-regulation uniform, it's not a private school is it??
Your best bet is to pop to tesco for the jumper/shirt/trousers and buy a regulation blazer, no one will see the jumper/shirt underneith anyway. It's the same for the pe kit, just find as close as you can.

themildmanneredjanitor · 04/11/2009 14:28

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

nailpolish · 04/11/2009 14:28

also cant you let him stay off school until your dhs payday? its only a week away

StretchOnaRocket · 04/11/2009 14:29

Did you have a different name? Begins with 'V'? Or am I way off track??!!

pofacedandproud · 04/11/2009 14:30

LadyE they are being most unfair in forcing you to come up with the logo uniform so quickly - how could others who might be in the same boat or worse off than you manage? You have to ask them for a couple of weeks grace.

nailpolish · 04/11/2009 14:30

is it a private school?

if not you should inform the local authorities that the school is breaking the rules regarding uniform. children do not have to wear uniform to state schools

fact

GypsyMoth · 04/11/2009 14:31

but you stated on another thread he has left other school because he's miles ahead and doing all wonderful stuff,like expected to do 11 gcses etc etc and that they can't provide his educational needs......not bullying???

Lizzylou · 04/11/2009 14:31

Don't do that, TLES.

Look, I think you've maybe gone about things in the wrong way, but it is obv you are just trying to do right by your son.
Morningpaper made a good point on the other thread about the PTA, could you approach them?

CaptainNancy · 04/11/2009 14:31

Yes Stretch- entirely correct.

eyetunes · 04/11/2009 14:32

that is what i thought nailpolish.

LilyloovesGuyFawkes · 04/11/2009 14:32

I think this has been illjudged Thelady try 'wanted' (i would also get your posts taken off Trinity's thread imo)

HellBent · 04/11/2009 14:32

TMMJ this is pretty much how the deleted thread went too, a few others agreed with me saying she wanted in on some of the action on another thread (TR's) and seeing as we are a generous lot maybe buy this for her. FWIW I agree Rhubarb and others about trying at the current school if he's only been there a few months or keeping him off for the 2 weeks until payday and not begging on here!

seeker · 04/11/2009 14:32

All that keeps going round in my head is the threads about your ds's horrible behaviour to you and the rest of his family over the summer holidays - and how you were a little reluctant to take any of the helpful advice you were offered. I do hope that this school move helps him - but at a risk of being considered unkind, I do think that he needs to look at his behaviour, and it doesn't seem to me that moving schools so very quickly is the most helpful thing to do.

stressed2007 · 04/11/2009 14:33

none of this is too helpful though when she needs her child uniformed to whatever limited extent for Monday though.

not very clever to argue with the shcool about what can and cannot be enforced before he even starts.

me23 · 04/11/2009 14:33

Go to the bank ask for emergengy overdraft? have you done this? if not if you dont work I would leave ds at home for a few weeks until you can afford uniform.

OnlyQuoteMeInTheTelegraph · 04/11/2009 14:33

It's Vaunda, she's been open about that, no need to tiptoe.

I think this is pretty shocking but not nearly as shocking as the earlier attempt to ambush the thread for Trinity, you should be thoroughly ashamed of yourself.

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TheLadyEvenstarsRomanCandle · 04/11/2009 14:33

Stretch yes I used to (5-6yrs ago) be on here using my own name.

Nail, TBH I need him to be back in school he has been off since the 9th October so almost a month and will have a lot of catching up to do as it is.

TMMJ, I made a mistake in asking, I have apologised I can do no more than that.

Believe me nobody feels as bad as I do right now........

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GypsyMoth · 04/11/2009 14:35

on trinitys thread you were asking for £180
now on your thread it was £160..

StretchOnaRocket · 04/11/2009 14:36

Ok, wasn't tiptoeing, just didn't want to bring up your real name on here. Thought I remembered your name.