MN Little Italy 18

[DemonBradleySlaysPippi]

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Morning everyone - why do all the interesting men discussions happen in the evening when I am offline?

MM, I hope you feel better today - I had the same at the end of last year when we were preparing to move to Italy... I had a newborn plus all the move to organise, plus I wasn't sure re: moving at all. There were occasions where I just exploded with anger at him... And he stayed calm and tried to come up with solutions/positive sides throughout (which made me even angrier)... And I totally understand re: him not letting you feel sorry for yourself - it happens to us too.

It was a horrid time but we did get through it, and perhaps we are stronger as a couple now. He will never change (in a meaningful way anyway), but he is getting better at understanding my needs - and you could say the same about me too!!!

I just wish I was closer so we could have a coffee and you could have a real vent!!!

Thanks for the 2 risate catching up on the thread this morning re Accorsi
MM sorry things are so tough at the moment. It is so difficult when one feels more dependent on the other. I went through periods of anger at dp but didn't last long when moved, mainly caught up with frustration in myself before I had established friends here, or if I found some red tape nonsense I had to deal with on my own that baffled me and needed his help with. My dp is also crap at just listening unless I tell him -right I want you just to listen and us to have a normal conversation about what am going to tell you. I don't want advice or solutions! Then he meekly obeys and all is fine
Pippi re croup it is a really distinctive cough-sounds like a seal barking. If you look at the hollow at the base of their neck (not sure what name is) when they breathe in it really sinks in (lol at my medical terminology-am so tired I cant even find the words in English!). The chest really contracts as well because they are gasping for breath as the windpipe near the larynx is constricted. So when they cough they can't get their breath, same when they get upset. Does that sound like minipippi? If so get her to A&E and demand to be seen as it can be really dangerous in kids under 5 as their windpipes are so small/underdeveloped. DS seems to have responded to cortisone again so back there for check at 1 today. And its my birthday today! 38 years old. Spending it in Bambino Jesu hurrah!

Morning all.....

MM- I often feel like this, and as Franca says, with me it's invariably because I hate living here so much and blame him.....(even though over the past 6 yrs he has been the one to sometimes suggest we up sticks and go to England......) I think it's that these men are the closest thing we have, so when we are in a bleh situation, they are the ones we expect to be emotionally supportive (if not practically as well) and actually, they're all a bit rubbish at that!

Gio! Happy Birthday- Scorpios united! Hope ds picks up soon....you are really in the wars at the moment....

How are minipippi and mini-camo? All recovered?

I am getting cross on a thread where some woman is feeling sorry for those "poor women who have to say partners and not husbands" Schtoopid Stepforditis.

Re: names...I have a wonderful c and p from local paper in England with the most horrific "chavvy" names....(don't like this word, but sometimes that's all one can say )

I'll bring it over here later....

Happy birthday Gio!!!! Poor you with the hospital thing - happened to me last year (I got myself lots of hot choc from the machine to celebrate!).

And I am even more shocked that not all the stoopid baby names I put down yesterday were from trolls:

www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/showbiz/tv/soaps/2691771/Dales-star-calls-baby-Teddi e-Boo-Florence.html

Buch, have seen the thread - I wonder why some women are so much against having a choice... Oh well...

38 is the perfect age Gio!

Buch, do you hate living there? Goodnees, I had not realised from your posts.

I am going to have a pijama day today....

I didnt realise you hated it so much either Buch.
at javiers pyjama day.

Hello!
Gio happy birthday!!! Lets hope ds is on the mend, croup sounds really awful.

I agree with Penthe re men's fear to see us vulnerable.
Thinking about our situation, I think that I'd have been less frustrated had I found friends I could count on for a good rant in Ex... dh is pretty useless at long ranty chats. On the other hand I think that having been the 2 of us (plus the children) for those english years has helped us being a stronger couple. Well, at least I hope so

I have to go to buy a new bag the bl* supermarket.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY GIO!!!!! 38 great age! Not mine but I'll be happy when I'll get there. Thanks for info, no don;t hink it is that as dr checked that. It is sooo bad though bless the nights are a struggle and she eats little, her throat must be so sore. She's asked to go back to bed at 8 . No temp though.

I have to give it to DH he is great in dealing with my vulnerable side and I think I am rubbish in dealing with his. I was thinking last night how little I understood his bereavament after his dad died. I will have a long chat with him. He is always the strong all together one while I am allowed to be moody and snappy.

Camo LOL at '"oh, look, I didn't have this saggy bum 3 years ago" "well, you have too start doing a bit of davina then" (wrong, he should have said my bum was perfect )'. I have done something similar to him and he was a bot cross. After a night with friends (older than him and not better looking imo but who dye their hair he asked me who looked younger. Being a bit tipsy I said "them ! But you look much better!" The minute it camo out of my mouth I knew I f**ed up ! He got the hump and went to bed. Luckily he did understand what I meant, had to use the George Cloony brizolato example though.)

And yes we always take it out on our DH/DP, don't we? What are they there for otherwise?

Buch I had the feeling that you'd rather be in the uk but not that it was so strong.

lol at brizzolato Clooney! Dp still ill, told him he looked so much better as he has lost weight. He gave me a dirty look. I love him so..

I remember when your dp's dad died and you sounded from your posts very "Oh, yes, he is dead, off to make sugo now", kind of thing. But wasn't dd tiny still? Very tough for him new baby and dead father thing. And for you.

I know I know I feel shit about it but in my defense DH has not let anything out, no feeling nothing. It is all inside him. I do not think he has ever cryed, not even on his own or when he went to scatter ashes and that. I know he has been suffering, and still is but between him not opening up and me not knowing what to say or do not having been there it is really hard.
I remember asking a friend who's DH, my best friend, also lost his dad a few months back and she said the same, just be there.
No I didn't even have minipippi, I wasn't even pg. Unfortunately I am not good with this things as I have very little experience, fortunately.

I really will have this good chat with him next time we go out the two of us. Should I?

I know that when/if it happens to me I'll be a mess.

cried.

Any suggestions on how to approach the subject and what to say etc is very welcome.

I felt bad that I was reading all these MNetters say how much the death of their dad affected them years after it had happened and I have not him saying it. If he doesn;t say it me who else has he got? Poverino.

I get all strange even with other friends. And guilty too. I surely would want to talk about it - and knowing me I am sure I will with the whole world.
I just don't know what to say and because I have no idea of what one can feel I am at loss.

Apologies for saddening the tone of the thread. Quite a step from accorsi!

My previous posts is 'spot the missing word' . Sorry rushing to go out.

damon am rushing to hospital for a change but wanted to say quickly, I also felt like didnt understand / handle death of dps mum well at all. Always thought would be super supportive and for some reason handled it very badly. Always felt guilty about it. I do try and encourage him to talk about his mum still now and I think that helps.Will post again later but didnt want you to think it was just you!

Pippi I remember when your fil died, I didn't think you were dealing with it badly at the time, you were really concerned about you dh at that time, if I remember well.
I agree with Gio that one of the loveliest things to do is to show him that you remember his father, how he did this and that etc.
Oh how sad.

Ah Brangelina has texted me back this morning. She is very busy working and going at the gym . She sends her best regards to everyone!

I planned to make choc muffins, but can't find the will to go in the kitchen and measure all the ingredients...

going to the gym.

Oh, God, I did not mean to say you did not handle it well Pippi, but it's true if you have the kids, you have to get on with things, as they are not going to sit there and grieve.

Will post later, going to bed as at the supermarket i realised i feel rough. No appetitie for a change for me. dd will nap and ds with a bit of telly.

Wow, If I spent my mnet time exercising I would be super fit. Instead I am a bloated cow.

Oh, God I still have visions of Scamy calling Accorsi who calls Bardem to ask to explain himself.

Oh, God I still have visions of Scamy calling Accorsi who calls Bardem to ask to explain himself.

Yes, I feel crappola too, not sure if it's one of the bugs doing the rounds or my period. And it's swimming pool day today... uffa!

Can you imagine Accorsi attacking Bardem on the red carpet?

I made choc muffins, lets hope they are not the usual failure

Unbelievable, I'm still lolling at the pic and cazzone comment .

I survived 16 materna children ....I admire 100% all teachers - I am exhausted but I think it went well I now have to invent next weeks lessons.....
Gio happy birthday - postpone the birthday for a week so you can celebrate , relax and enjoy. Hope ds is doing better.
MM sorry you are on a downer I also get the ti capisco and then thats it and it drives me nuts !
Now ladies can we please be round when I am on in the pm I am missing out on some good chats !!!
Franca hope its nota bug.
I bought carne for spiedini and I realise I have no veg to put on them and no rosmarino either so what do I do with chicken bits, 2 sausages and a bit of manzo ?