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help me with my housing situation please!!!!!!!!

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sparklymieow · 02/06/2005 14:47

Some of you will have read my threads on my neighbours but we are pushing to get moved, having the housing manager coming out tomorrow and I want to get out of here. My SIL is in Bolton and I have expressed an inerested in 2 houses up there. Homeless won't help because the police can't give me a letter, council want to me to start the eviction process (ie complain and get them to sort it out or face eviction) but I can't do that as I know it will make things worse. Now I need some help to get us moved, I have 2 disabled kids and they can't live like this, and I have to go out a lot for appointments etc and its so scary going out. Please help me.

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spacecadet · 05/06/2005 11:23

make sure you are now keeping a diary of every thing they do sparkly,.

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 11:24

I am their days are numbered

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spacecadet · 05/06/2005 11:29

good!

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 11:33

I asked the police if I should log everything not matter how petty and she said yes..

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nutcracker · 05/06/2005 11:35

Yep we were told to log every single little tiny thing SM, from them smashing the windows down to them tapping on the floor, spiting down our window etc............the more you have the better.

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 11:37

they knocked on the door the other day and ran away, how childish!!!!

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nutcracker · 05/06/2005 11:40

I know we had that alot too, or they would ring the buzzer and then cos they knew we switched the camera on to see who it was, they would stick their fingers up or worse and run off.

spacecadet · 05/06/2005 11:42

make sure every last thing is logged.

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 11:44

when that camera comes it will give me a lot of help.

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spacecadet · 05/06/2005 11:46

yes cos you will be able to film all those things, did you CAT, the addy???

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 11:48

yes, I did, you should recieve it soon. If you haven't recieved it by tonight email me at mwaters2uk (at) yahoo (dot) co (dot) uk.

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spacecadet · 05/06/2005 11:51

ok, will just do that anyway sparkly, cos i dont think mn hq send cats over the weekend.

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 11:52

ok, DH is going to phone the doctor out tonight for me, he'll say I had another panic attack, so we can get the doc's help.....

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zipzip · 05/06/2005 11:53

The more you log the better.
Even if your log consists of nothing more than door knocking, spitting, name calling - if your log shows that the anti-social behaiviour is constant you have a massive case.
Write every detail down - they can then use what they need to. Include facts such as people who are standing with them, from what direction they were walking etc etc.
eg. - On 3rd June 2005 at 10.15pm I was watching TV and my children were in bed asleep, the door buzzer went. I went to the window by the front door and witnessed Mr X and Mr XX walking away from my door. They looked back towards my house and were laughing. They proceeded to walk away in the direction of their parents house. I felt extremly intimidated by this because it was late at night and it was dark. They had no legitimate reason to call at my house.

spacecadet · 05/06/2005 11:54

good idea as it will go on your notessparkly.

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 11:55

ok will do, haven't had much advice on what to actually log and how so thanks Zipzip, you're fab!!! Was your son ok??

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 11:56

I had a panic attack the other day, haven't had one for ages, it scraed me, and I sobbed for ages afterward.

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 11:58

The situation is there from the time I wake up to the time I go to bed, and sometimes I even have dreamt about it, its taking over my life, zipzip said last night not to let it... i'll try

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zipzip · 05/06/2005 12:04

Once you start logging everything and making phone calls etc yourself you will be in control.
You are a very strong and capable person and you will soon be in control of this situation. This way it won't get you down so much.
Eventually everything thing they do will become nothing more than another log entry and a step closer to the matter being resolved.

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 12:05

I know that, I want control back, normally very orginised and know exactly what i am doing, this has thrown me completely.

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zipzip · 05/06/2005 12:08

When you see the doctor, tell him everything but don't overwhelm him.
Tell him how you feel, panic attacks, fear to go out, tell him you are forgetting appointments and are now cancelling them, you don't want to go out anymore.
Make all references of how you feel to the neighbours' behaviour, but not to the fact that it's getting you down that you want to move, iyswim

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 12:10

I have even kept the kids off school just so I don't have to pick them up, thats bad isn't it?

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 12:12

my youngest hasn't been to preschool in about a month

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zipzip · 05/06/2005 12:15

That's something I forgot to mention - put the school in the picture and ask them if they will note any changes in the children's behaviour.
Any changes will go towards your statements and if they are upset by it they are entitled to have their own victim support worker.

Tell the doctor you have kept them off school. Write the dates you have done this and what prompted it in your log.

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sparklymieow · 05/06/2005 12:18

I also suffer from trichtilomania (hair pulling) I had a special system put on in sept. and have to go back every 6 weeks to have it redone, unfortunely I mixed up my appointment and missed it, but since this has happened I have pulled lots of hair out and all my hard work has gone to pot

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