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help me with my housing situation please!!!!!!!!

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sparklymieow · 02/06/2005 14:47

Some of you will have read my threads on my neighbours but we are pushing to get moved, having the housing manager coming out tomorrow and I want to get out of here. My SIL is in Bolton and I have expressed an inerested in 2 houses up there. Homeless won't help because the police can't give me a letter, council want to me to start the eviction process (ie complain and get them to sort it out or face eviction) but I can't do that as I know it will make things worse. Now I need some help to get us moved, I have 2 disabled kids and they can't live like this, and I have to go out a lot for appointments etc and its so scary going out. Please help me.

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sparklymieow · 03/06/2005 18:19

that was when he told my mum that DH would get it on that night.

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assumedname · 03/06/2005 18:42

Sorry, not helping much.

babyburps · 03/06/2005 18:45

oh sweetie! When i had housing probs i saw the local mp who had an evening session once a week at the citizens advice bureau, he wrote a letter to westminster council telling them to pull their arse out! think it helped a bit. bloody beurocracy (i know i spelt it wrong!) think most important thing to do is to get as many official letters as possible! doctors, etc! as unfair as it is the way things are taking there toll on you you need to push push push to get moved, sod having the neighbours evicted would take ages! plus might have repercussions on you! don't let them grind you down! that way they win nothing

Magscat · 03/06/2005 20:10

Hi Sparkly. Just checking in to see how things are. Can see it's not good .

Hang on in there and tell the Councillor everything. Print off/show them these threads to give them an idea of how desperate the situation is and how long it's been going on.

Have to go now but thinking of you xxx

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sparklymieow · 03/06/2005 20:47

thanks all, spoken to a friends dad who was in the police for many years and he said they have no right to say we are lying and they cant arrest DH.

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spacecadet · 03/06/2005 23:33

just checking in to see how things are sparkly, im waiting for misdee to mail me your addy so i can post the stuff to you, i need it by sun so i can book the courier, then as soon as you have the cam you can nail the buggers with evidence.

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sparklymieow · 04/06/2005 00:27

thanks SC, feel like an old lady today, evrything aches

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sparklymieow · 04/06/2005 13:09

The conciller came, she was nice, she said that she will contact the Tenets inforcement officer, she also said about an ASBO. She looked like my mum, was hoping that he would say something to her like he does to my mum, so she can see what kind of person he is like, but he wasn't there then....... [grrr] thats sounds mean but I want people to see what he is like. She is even posting a letter to the LEA for me.. bless her....

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sparklymieow · 04/06/2005 15:55

parked across the drive again!!!!

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expatinscotland · 04/06/2005 16:02

When is the thug being chucked back inside for his most recent violation?

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sparklymieow · 04/06/2005 16:06

no idea, wish it was yesterday!!! I can't believe he is getting away with all this, though really he isn't, he thinks he is, but he is unaware that the council and police are very involved

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expatinscotland · 04/06/2005 16:25

No wonder his thugness thinks he can get away w/anything - he was back out on the streets in record time for a serious offense.

I think I'd try to find out when he's getting thrown back in and for how long. The council/h/a might be even more reluctant to move you if they know he's going back in the clink for a stretch.

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sparklymieow · 04/06/2005 16:32

but I have told them that because he is going back inside, i am refusing to stay here for when he is released, no way am I staying here, and why should I? He already thinks he is great, imagine what he will be like when he gets out next time, he is think he is God,

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champs · 04/06/2005 16:45

hiya!!
so glad you have been given such good advice on this thread.

dont mean to be bossy but have you phoned gp? you are so worn down hun. I hate you feeling like this. as mums we tend to push our selves to the limit before going to gp but if it is for our kids we contact gp at first sneeze.

also asked on other thread if you can ask friends dad (police guy) about how you go about complaining about police situation.

I think you feel even worse because you have no control over what is happening. neighbour has taken your control with his behaviour, council have control over your housing, police have control over the legal side.
In order to get some of the control back I think you should take some steps.
call gp out, tell him how you feel, what's happening, ask for refferal letter and any help (s)he can give.
call victim support or visit the website
contact cab re: police situation
make a formal complaint at police station. the met website has guidelines here
make a file regarding this whole horrid affair. put a journal of events, letters, video footage etc. keep it in a locked drawer or cuboard.

I really dont want to come across all bossy and matron like but thought i'd give some practical sugestions. I just know that bully's thrive on the feeling that they have the power so if you feel a little enpowered you will feel stronger and not so helpless.

I have (((((hugs))))for you too but they dont always help.

sorry to go on and on but I really think that you need to get gp help esp. as you feel so depressed.

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sparklymieow · 04/06/2005 18:13

bump for misdee

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misdee · 04/06/2005 18:15

ah right. so she will try and get your moved?

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sparklymieow · 04/06/2005 18:16

i thiink so, she is going to phone me in thw week

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misdee · 04/06/2005 18:17

excellant.

anf you hear from bolton on tuesday?

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sparklymieow · 04/06/2005 18:18

properably in about a week if i get one of the houses.

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Magscat · 04/06/2005 18:40

Glad there's a small ray of sunshine for you now Sparkly. Let's hope the Councillor can kick ass &/or the Bolton thing comes through.

If there's anything I can help with just shout.

((((((Hugs)))))

hub2dee · 04/06/2005 19:02

Hey sparkly, dw is ill so I can't spend much time on here, but you've carefully avoided answering your sister's question (also posed by others) about seeing the GP.

If you feel crap and completely untogether, that is EXACTLY WHEN YOU SHOULD CALL THEM. The crapper the better infact, IYSWIM !!!! They will get a really clear picture of your situation and problems.

This is a really important step in your documentation and move, and you should do it.

Now I'm talking like matron too.

Now, for the next friendly nag... you mentioned the copper you spoke with last week I think it was, seemed clued up and friendly, and knew of apeman's previous record...

Call this guy, and clarify whether they have the incident with your dh on file or not. If they've lost it, then you / dh should make another statement - in your home with this copper or at the station. Whether it occured yesterday or a few months ago, you can still have your statement noted / dated / numbered / made official IYSWIM (at least I believe this to be the case). This is also important to your case.

Good luck.

champs · 04/06/2005 19:58

good idea hub2dee how are you feeling sparklymieow?

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sparklymieow · 04/06/2005 20:12

not too bad today, helped seeing the councillor, someone from that house (friend, or someone) bloodly blocked the drive with a huge white van!!!!!! They have no reguard (sp??) for anyone, they are arrogent gits, they are revving the engine on a motorbike now..... sod this, I am telling the council I am taking this further, the parents can go to hell now, I have had enough,.......

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champs · 04/06/2005 20:15

what mooses!! why are they like this?? have you been out today?

champs · 04/06/2005 20:16

two seperate questions.

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