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help me with my housing situation please!!!!!!!!

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sparklymieow · 02/06/2005 14:47

Some of you will have read my threads on my neighbours but we are pushing to get moved, having the housing manager coming out tomorrow and I want to get out of here. My SIL is in Bolton and I have expressed an inerested in 2 houses up there. Homeless won't help because the police can't give me a letter, council want to me to start the eviction process (ie complain and get them to sort it out or face eviction) but I can't do that as I know it will make things worse. Now I need some help to get us moved, I have 2 disabled kids and they can't live like this, and I have to go out a lot for appointments etc and its so scary going out. Please help me.

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 23:16

but JM the council are saying they can't rehouse us bcause they don't have anythin that would be suitable for us.......

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jessicasmummy · 07/06/2005 23:16

Tell them this. Tell them you have had the doctor out. Tell them that you are at the stage where you cant take anymore and if they dont do anything, you will have to leave and stay with family temporarily until they sort themselves out. Staying with family will gain you extra points due to over-crowding.

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 23:18

but wouldn't I be making myself homeless then..??

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jessicasmummy · 07/06/2005 23:21

Not intentionally..... they know the score!

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 23:24

the main problem is that this council is very heavily oversubscribed, there isn't enough houses. I just don't know what to do..... I am hoping tha when SIL phones her housing officer tomorrow they will be able to offer one of the houses I expressed an interest in last week. Have expressed another two interests p there

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jessicasmummy · 07/06/2005 23:26

I would get one of the houses SIL is trying to sort for you ASAP. Is there any way you can call them yourself?

Really feeling for you right now, and although i dont know all that much about councils etc, i do know that NO ONE should have to live the way you are right now.

spacecadet · 07/06/2005 23:26

ok, will send you a used one, just put it straight in the video cam and record over it(if you dont mind), why does he have to lift his friggin weights in the garden????

spacecadet · 07/06/2005 23:29

phone the council and start getting heavy, as i said earlier in the thread, threaten them with the papers etc, but pleasedont give in, dont give those bastards the satisfaction

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 23:35

Sil is sorting it atm to take some of the weight off us. I hope we can get something soon, even if it does mean upheaving the kids from everything they know, they will make new friends and I will be able to go shopping with SIL. The council are crap here, they really are, 'oh well, mrs X the only thing we can do is sort out the neigbours we can't move you, well we can but you will be a low protity (sp??) and your house is perfect for you' 'don't let it get to you, hold your head up and ignore them' .......
I am sooooo angry with everyone... Gp is writing to the council because he said that my mental wellbeing is being badly affected......

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 23:36

ok SC will do, don't worry I won't look.... did your kids moon at the camera.??

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jessicasmummy · 07/06/2005 23:36

Give me the councils number and your details.... ill bloody phone them....... GRRRRRR im angry just reading some of this stuff, let alone how you must be feeling.

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 23:37

I have my cat on my lap, I have two cats but one of them is such a lapcat and he makes me feel relaxed.......

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 23:41

was sobbing hard earlier, haven't cried like that since I found out Dd1 had cerebral palsy, even when people have died, DH phoned his sister and she calmed me down.....

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 23:43

what i can't get my head round, is WHY??? I don't deal drugs, I don't run a brotal, I don't have parties every night, I am not a bad person, I am quiet and get on with my life and don't care what everyone else is doing.......

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spacecadet · 07/06/2005 23:47

its not your fault, its that you were unfortunate to be put next door to morons-and yes, i sadly suspect that they prob did moon at the camera, the shame.

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sparklymieow · 07/06/2005 23:51

hehe SC..... I knew it!!!!!
But why....... we have had to deal with so much, people said we would never last (10 years this year) a family member saying that Dh only married me because I was pregnant and if I wasn't he would be with her!!!!! (laughable) the kids diagnosis, the old neighbour in the old house, alchol and drugs were her middle names, and now this, someone up there really has it in for me.......

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champs · 07/06/2005 23:54

sparkly! I want to say so much but everthing i type sounds patronising and condescending or just pittying. I am not trying to be any of these and keep deleting my posts.
Keeping a log will help you in your move not just asbos. deff write down about guy down the road as it is obvious the two twits are both trying to intimidate you.
bless your sil.
I know you will have to root up your kiddies but it will be better for them as theny will be able to go out with you and go to preschool and you and dh will be much happier which will affect kiddies too.

champs · 07/06/2005 23:59

may sound hollow now but when you've moved you can add this whole experience to your even though list.
you and dh made it ths far ... even tho.
you managed to hold it together... even tho. your kids are striving and your family bond is stronger...even tho.....

spacecadet · 08/06/2005 00:02

ive thought that afew times too,about myself, you will come through this honestly, i have to go now, but try andget some sleep.{{hugs}}}

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 00:04

have put in for one house just round the corner from SIL, she said that the kids will be at the same school (if we get that one) as her DD2 and she will help them settle. She is going to have a nosy tomorrow. She has been a rock for us even if she can only talk to us down the phone, she so want to come down and smash their faces in...... she is so annoyed and furstated with the situation. She is so lovely and I love her to bits.. she is so understanding, and she always says she loves me... I am just so annoyed with everyone, they don't seem to want to help, SIL's housing officer sounds fab, she so want to help us but her hands are tied, but she has given SIL lots of info. to help us.....

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 09:24

lets see what today brings???

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spacecadet · 08/06/2005 09:54

keeping my fingers crossed, would be lovely if you could get that house.

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 09:55

It would be fab, The 2 houses were 4 flats and were made into houses, so you can imagine how big they will be.....

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 09:59

didn't get them

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zipzip · 08/06/2005 10:05

Did asbo appoint a victim support person for you?