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help me with my housing situation please!!!!!!!!

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sparklymieow · 02/06/2005 14:47

Some of you will have read my threads on my neighbours but we are pushing to get moved, having the housing manager coming out tomorrow and I want to get out of here. My SIL is in Bolton and I have expressed an inerested in 2 houses up there. Homeless won't help because the police can't give me a letter, council want to me to start the eviction process (ie complain and get them to sort it out or face eviction) but I can't do that as I know it will make things worse. Now I need some help to get us moved, I have 2 disabled kids and they can't live like this, and I have to go out a lot for appointments etc and its so scary going out. Please help me.

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 10:06

not yet

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zipzip · 08/06/2005 10:08

I suggest you ring asbo again and ask if they could give you one. Talk to victim support today - she will be able to advise on soooooooo much and they really do help with how you feel.
Did asbo say you should ring them if more stuff happens?

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 10:10

they said that they can't get involved until the council officers put it on her desk, she is coming to see me on mon. tho.

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zipzip · 08/06/2005 10:12

Can you phone council officer and ask if they have put it on the asbo desk?

If nothing else, pestering them will make them get off their butt BUT you are phoning them for legitimate reasons. Also doing all this will keep your sense of control

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 10:15

the thing is I haven't put the log sheets in, one thing is I don't have enough, am waiting for more to be sent, two is I'm scared..

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zipzip · 08/06/2005 10:24

I've never actually used the official log sheets, I just write it all down on normal paper and hand it over

zipzip · 08/06/2005 10:37

I know you are scared, but to be honest I'd be more scared at the prospect of still living there in 12 months time.

I too felt like this for a long time. The guy is one of the biggest of the heavies in this town, carries a gun, gets put in jail for vicious attacks and gun related crimes etc etc etc.
It wasn't until I realised if I didn't do anything I would still be suffering in a months time, a years time 10 years time. In my mind there was no other option than to act. I have no regrets whatsoever about acting and it isn't over yet.
At the beginning, I got the eldest lad arrested. he immediately came to my door and threatened what he would do to me if he went to court. he was then arrested for threatening me. They don't come to my door anymore......

zipzip · 08/06/2005 10:49

The thing to remember in in this is that YOU are in charge. No-one can or will do anything without you.

If you imagine all the people - police, housing, asbo, social workers and the council itself are all employees in your office. You are the boss. They are sitting in front of you waiting to be instructed as to what to do. If you don't tell them they will sit there filing their nails.
Each and every day you give them the latest updates, reports to be typed and submitted. You chase up anything that should have been done. You make them all comminicate with each other.

It will be your efficiency and power that destroys the dimwits next door.

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 11:53

I know all this but don't have the engery to fight anymore, just want to move and forget them. I feel like I am walking in a daze all the time.....

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 12:59

They ain't there today, still waiting for the council to phone me back and the doc.

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 13:19
Sad
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misdee · 08/06/2005 13:23

you didnt get the houses in bolton? did they say why?

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 13:31

Not protity enough, need info to be faxed to them to mae us higer.

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 14:00

why does it feel that noone is interested and wants to help.....??? It feels that all the council are thinking about is how much they spent on my house and sod how we are feeling and living.....

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expatinscotland · 08/06/2005 14:07

it may just seem this way, sparkly, b/c unfortunately these changes don't happen overnight. also, they may just not have the stock available to accommodate moving you right now. i know that's a real problem in our council - the housing just isn't there.

also they may be thinking it's more cost-effective to ASBO this neighbour. it may be hard to evict him if he is not the tenant, but the son of the tenants.

unfortunately, they have to accord him 'rights' or get into trouble, so they're probably doing some damage control.

wishing you the best in this.

misdee · 08/06/2005 14:09

remember it took 4months from us going on the list to get this place, and that weas with a big fight and no nasty neighbours.

spacecadet · 08/06/2005 15:25

so sorry about the housessparkly.

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 18:38

am emailing our MP, is this ok?

Dear Grant Snapps
I am a local woman living in X with my husband and three children, two of which have Cerebral Palsy. I live in a council house which the council has adapted for the children's needs.
About a month ago, my mother was babysitting when the neighbours sons started to lift ther weights in the garden and dropping them onto the ground, she politely asked them to stop making the noise as the children were sleeping (this was at 9pm) The neighbours eldest son then came to the front door and threatened her. Two days later they returned and one of his friends threatened my husband that if they saw him they would 'take him off in a car and do him in' The police were called and we hoped it would be the end of it.
Since then we have had intimidation with them standing outside with about 8-10 men, parking across our driveway so we can't get off (and because of the children's disabilities I need assess at all times) my bins has been taken and thrown by the garages. The oldest son saw my mum at a garage in Smallford and started trying to intimidate her there, they stare at us as we are leaving and arriving home, they have done the same to my Mother and Brother as they have left the house. They also are now doing weights in the garden at 10:30pm and the noise vibrates through my house and make us jump.My husband refuses to leave the house and I am scared to leave the house too. My youngest daughter hasn't been to preschool for a month because I am scared to be going in and out all day.
I had to have the doctor out to me yesterday because I can no longer handle the situation. The council have said that they cannnot rehouse us because of the children's disabilities and the only option I really have is to log everything and help them to get ASBOs on the family or help get them evicted. Now as you can imagine I have a lot of stress in my life without all this and this is making life very hard. Our social worker is involved and is supporting a move in our favour, as is the GP.
I cannot live like this much more, in constant fear of what they will do next. The oldest two sons have both been in prison for Armed robbery and GBH, which make us fearful too. I am fearful for my family's safety as you can well imagine.
Another family down the road has also been shouting abuse at us, which the council have told me to log, but I don't have the time or the energy to actually goes through this with two households.
The whole situation is making us ill, I am not eating properably, I have lost weight, I feel weak and at the edge of collape. My husband is finding the whole situation very hard to deal with.
I have been logging the incidents with the police and the council are aware of the situation but everywhere I turn I hit a brick wall. The council's hands are tied in a way because this house is suitable for our needs, but we are scared to live here, and we are not living at moment, just walking about our house daily, scared to step out because of the men next door.
I have had X out to see us and she gave me some advice, but once again it was for Antisocial behaviour which is something we feel is to hard for us to deal with.
Also we are worried about what will happen if we did take it further with the council, whether they will make our lifes worse, and I need to insure my family's safety.
Thank you
yours sincerally

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jessicasmummy · 08/06/2005 18:44

sounds fine to me hun. Cant believe Bolton cant help you out.

did you re-log the assault with the police?

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 18:45

no, we didn't. Police phoned us and said sorry and if we needed any help to phone them

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jessicasmummy · 08/06/2005 18:46

You need to get it logged with them sweetheart. I know its hassle, but please. It will help in the end i promise.

zipzip · 08/06/2005 18:46

what exactly are you asking the MP? it doesn't say

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 18:57

I have added some more to it zipzip..... have asked him support us to resolve the above issues.

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zipzip · 08/06/2005 19:02

it's fine.
you may just want to run over it and check the grammer and spelling (just in case he's picky)

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sparklymieow · 08/06/2005 19:04

lol, I started another thread just for this email and my spellchecker isn't working so about 4 laddezzzzz have spellchecked it for me....

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