Your dh/dp

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How many hours a week and how much housework/childcare does your dp/dh do? Mine seems to always think he has done more than enough and of course much more than other men who work 60 hours a week! Seems like he is doing less and less to me!
before i tell you how much he does i'll wait for some of you lot to speak up just in case i have to quietly exit and forever be called a slave driver!

Hiya - I work 40 hrs a week and dp works 36. We share the housework equally.

We both work full time but I often work from home. Dh leaves house at 8.30am and usually gets back around 7.15ish.

He does much more housework than me but we have a cleaner so it's not much. Eg he empties dishwasher, does washing etc.

Ironing is our only prob but my Mum does it every so often or if I'm desp I send to the ironing service.

we both work 40 hr weeks, but have only a 5 minute commute. I do probably 80% of the childcare (DP does childcare when I dump ds on his lap!). Housework is shared equally, i.e. we have our own jobs to do, he does the daily dinner/washing up kind and I do the washing clothes, once a week scrub kind. Not sure if it's "fair" but it works for us, and I'd prefer to be playing with ds than washing up after dinner any day.

My Dh is usally out 7.30-7.30 - ie: 60 hours a week minimum, including a 30 min commute each way. However at least once/twice a week he travels abroad - leaving home at 4.30am to drive to the airport; often has to do weekends etc and there's not such thing as 'time in lieu' - having said all that he is VERY well rewarded for what he does. He doesn't tend to do any housework - but at least he can manage to put his dirty washing in the laundry basket! - he does a lot of childcare with DS at weekends, and does all the 'manly' stuff - gardening, DIY (or rather, getting a man in!!). I am a SAHM and so we do have very 'traditional' roles, but quite honestly, it suits us both. If I was out at work as well I would certainly expect him to do more at home. He would like to do more cooking but I prefer to do it myself!!

I work 4 days a week and dh works one. He does most of the childcare, but we are both domestic sluts so housework gets done when there is no clear floor space left. I tend to do the cooking but only because I enjoy it and find it a wind down from work, though dh makes a mean curry. I also do the dishes because quite frankly dh likes to pretend he has delicate skin and can't have the water too hot.

Lindy How well??

My DH works from about 7 am - 6 pm, and I am a SAHM and he probably does more housework than me.

We both work 35 hours per week but unfortunately both also have a 1hr door-to-door commute in each direction daily. Neither of us have to travel away from our workplaces much at the moment, thank goodness.
My dh is really very good. He loves cooking and always has an excellent meal on the go when I get home on the nights he picks up ds (and I reciprocate when it's my pick-up nights). He is happy to clean around the house, and is especially good at blitzing the bathroom. I am the laundry/family diary organiser and we do the family shop together. However, I am the one who notices we forgot fripperies like loo roll and remember to pick them up midweek.
I do the girly gardening (herbs, fluffy patio plants and baskets), he does the lawn/fence-painting/vine-hacking.
Downside of life? We are both monumentally untidy and the house is always cluttered. But at least it's one more thing we share 50-50. I know I'm fortunate.

Dp out of the house working 50 hours a week, me 30. On weekdays he washes up 2 or 3 times a week and reads the bedtime story every night - half an hour of childcare a night I would say.
At weekends we share the childcare fairly equally and housework/shopping/cooking/laundry over the week as a whole is probably 70/30 with me doing more.
I was convinced he wasn't doing much but then wrote down all the jobs I could think of and how long they took, and who did them, and he was doing more than I thought. It was a positive exercise for me to do and I then appreciated his input more.
Doesn't mean I wouldn't appreciate more help though! Will have to start roping in dd aged 3, that is the answer!

I work 30 hours a week and dp works 50. I do about 90% of the housework and childcare - I don't mind doing more than him as my working hours are shorter, but don't think a 90/10 split is altogether fair!

we both work the same hours in the samish jobs and we just do whats practical so sometimes its not practical for me to take them to school or pick them up - so hubs will do it. and i do the same

THANK THE LORD FOR FLEXI AND TOIL!

housework gets done at weekends, i work all week and life it too short to get anal over it all - IMO. thats why i have to have "notice" of people comming to visit if you come on a friday - you will walk into a bomb site and i am not exagerating

I work 3 days a week and DH works 4, we both have pretty 9-5 jobs and any extra time worked, can be taken as flexi leave. Not very well paid though as we are both public sector workers, but we prefere the flexibility !!!
DH does all the cooking and food shopping, I do the cleaning and laundry. The DIY hardly ever gets done,(we both hate it), and I do most of the gardening,(DH is a bit lethal with garden impliments), DH takes care of anything to do with the car.
So pretty even really. "Me" time is pretty evenly divided as well,(although DH plays golf quite alot), but a bargining system is in operation !!!

I am a SAHM ... DH is out of the house from 8am to 6pm 5 days a week with his work.
I think we do share the housework. I do the cleaning... he tidies ... I do the shopping ... he cooks 5/7 days ... I do the washing ... he does the ironing.
I do ALL the childcare ... although he does let me have a lie in at the weekend (we have one each - lie in that is)
If DS wakes up in the night it is always me that gets up ...
I always make DH a packed lunch in the morning ('cos that's the kind of girl I am!)
My DH actually should be a SAHD ... he is much better at housework than I am ... BUT I love being at home for my DS ...

I work 3 days, DH works 6 on average. He does about 1 hour childcare per night on average, but mostly for the 3 yr old, as baby is locked onto my boob.
He does BUGGER-ALL housework or cooking, empties the dishwasher about once a month, puts a wash on of his own stuff when he can't find anything clean, doesn't know where the iron lives and never shops.

Dh is out of the house usually from 8am to 8pm. He also works an hour or so every night and usually has an hour or two to do at the weekends. I'm a sahm. Needless to say, he doesn't do much housework as such although he is very good at clearing up after meals when he is here and also good at cleaning if we have visitors. His one duty is putting out the bins once a week. He shares looking after the children at weekends although sometimes has to be "persuaded". He's hopeless at DIY but we can afford to get decorators etc. in. I wouldn't ask/expect him to do any more.

He works full time - I am a SAHM and we both just do the bare necessities.... life is too precious - rather be together enjoying dd

Dh works full-time (40 hrs a week), but when he gets home from work he does help with dd straight away. Usually I cook whilst he plays with her, but recently he's been doing a lot of the cooking as I feel too sick to touch any of it! He also does all his own washing, as well as some of dd's. He does all the DIY, he cleans out his own goldfish, he is responsible for his half of the bedroom and he does all the washing up if I've cooked.

We also take turns to bath dd and put her to bed, and at weekends we take turns to lie in. And I like it that way!

We have pretty traditional roles also although my DH is now fully self-employed and works from home most days and I do a little bit of work for the business but still call myself a SAHM. I don't mind too much but there are just one or two things I wish he would get a bit better at - putting his shoes in the shoe cupboard, not the bed, taking his washing to the washing basket, dealing with a dirty nappy without making a huge fuss, finishing what he starts, for instance if he baths the kids then that surely involves putting their dirty clothes and towel in the washing basket, taking the bath toys out the bath (he just leaves them in a then would quite happily shower with them in the bath the next day) and putting DS2's nappy in the nappy bucket, also I have to get everything ready for him to do the bath. Oh and he doesn't know where anything is, on the rare occasion he empties the dishwasher he puts everything in the wrong place and I spend about 10 mins sorting it all out after him. He doesn't know how to work the washing machine but that is perhaps a good thing. He does most of the DIY though and cleans the car eventually.

You can sum it up with a great big 0 except occasionally cooks but kitchen looks like WW3 after. Leaves his clothes and shoes where they fall. I am now SAHM so am less bothered but was the same when worked F/T and P/T until got cleaner. He was anti cleaner so I hired one through a friend and didn't tell him until the day before. He has never bathed DS (3 yrs), got up during night etc. Oh, I lie he now has him 2 hours Sat am while I go yoga (for past 3 weeks and novelty is rapidly wearing off).

Mine vacuums the sitting room and washes it once a week. He'll take the baby up to bed. He'll occasionally hang the washing up. He never cooks. To be fair I'm very slovenly and rarely do the vacuuming and I'll never iron anything. I won't tidy his bedroom or bathroom. So I can live with his level of not doing much.

demented - are we married to the same guy? you have summed up dh perfectly!! He is self employed, tries to be helpful with dd (bathing no and again, changes the odd nappy, cooks now and again) but always leaves more mess than if i had just got on and done it myself in the first place!!

Just to add the other side of the coin: I work full time and dh is a SAHD. We do have a cleaner for 3 hours a week (including ironing - a real luxury!), but apart from that dh does nearly all the housework and childcare. All shopping for groceries, all cooking except for one or two meals at the weekend, takes dd to nursery at 8.30 and picks her up at 3.30, looks after her til I get home at around 6.15, goes swimming or to the park with her, does all the laundry and the gardening, is gradually rebuilding and redecorating our house... We do take turns putting dd to bed and getting up early in the morning with her at the weekends, but apart from that we have a more or less total role reversal of traditional roles. Oh, apart from the fact that I'm the one that's pg and does the bf afterwards.

We generally work the same hours which can be anything from 35 up to 60 and will just depend on work load within each job. It's rare we do a 35 hour week. I would like to think that we share everything equally but believe if I did a tally on paper dh would show up as doing much more than me. I am a lazy person and seem to be getting lazier the older I get. We have a cleaner once a week who I somtimes get in to do the ironing if it is out of control. I'm forever nagging dh to do more which I think is really unfair but seem to do anyway. He is a complete godsend and I don't know how he puts up with me but luckily he does.