Elevenses !!!!!!

[MaryAnnSingleton]

ah, we can only do 1000, so here's the new one, hope you find it !

MAS, I agree with hotcross, we can easily re-arrange our meetup. I don't want you to be all stressed out because you have to squeeze it all into one day

Hotcross, E definately does not conform, and certainly does not join in or do something just because others are. She was playing happily with the other children at the wedding, until the evenign disco started. They all rushed off to dance, E was rooted to the spot and point blank refused to dance!
And yesterday, with my parents, we took the dog for a long walk, had a pub lunch and then took O and E to a playground. The difference between O and E immediately became apparent. Within minutes O had made friends, was sharing their game, adding his games, and became 'one of a group'.
E spent the entire time climbing and sliding by herself, alongside the other children. She made no effort to befriend anyone and seemed very very happy just to do her own thing.
O used to be like that to a certain extent, but he was never so insular and introverted as E.

Horrid rainy day here, need to walk up the highstreet to Boots in a minute as I need more 'swimmers shampoo'. Then after lunch K and I are going for our swim

B drove me mad yesterday.

We went to Frimley Lodge Park, and B went to play in the playground. Lasted about a minute. She was 'scared' of the older ones and wanted me to be there too... This is the child who could climb across the very top railing, which none of the older children would attempt... I had my heart in my mouth, but she tends to weigh things up carefully and only do it if she believes she can. Anyway, I pointed out that if she didn't have a good time, then the older ones would 'win' and would spoil things for her. In the end she ran off and had a lovely time, but I wish she had a bit more confidence about her.

We went to the garden centre with a friend after school on Friday. Another boy of the same age joined them ,and instantly B came to me saying he was scaring her. We had actually met him about 6 months ago and I remembered she didn't like him then, but he seems fairly normal to me... Anyway, she ended up sitting next to me while her friend had a lovely time playing... I guess it's being a bit emotionally immature, but I do wish she'd just get on with things a bit.

Oh, I know just how you feel. All the other children were having a whale of a time on the dancefloor, dancing with the adults, and E just clung to my leg or sat on my lap.

But at least in the park yesterday she just got on with it, happy in her own company.

I think E has a fear of being looked at. That was the main reason for giving up her dance classes - she did not like doing the show at the end of term when teh parents watched. This self-conciousness has definately gotten worse in the last year.

Same with B. I think she has a real fear of looking silly or something. I mentioned she could join the school choir next year, but no, she wouldn't remember the words... Strange though, as she's happy to do her ballet for the parents, and sang on her own at the music show last year. I wish there was a way to instill confidence in them...

They are so alike aren't they?? E does not want to take part in teh school plays - she is happy being narrator because she just stands up and delivers some words - but she won't do anything that involves acting as she is afraid of getting it wrong.
She won't dance in front of anyone, and she is reluctant to take part in choir activities. (she was selected by her teacher to be in the choir for the Christmas fair and just stood there with a face like thunder )
E just seems happiest when reading or writing, or left to play on her own.

ahh, T is like E and B too ! he'll happily sing to people that he knows and chats animatedly, but is also very shy too - a paradox !
Am happy to come out tomorrow - don't have to leave for hospital until 4 ish - so if you are still up for it that's fine..if you'd prefer another date that's equally fine too ! Was looking at the map for the way to go...dh passes the turn off for Tongham every day so has told me where it is...
Am off to check on the chain shortly...

no chain !!!! grrrr...am so sorry...will have to send you the necklaces after all

Argh, about the chain - was hoping to get my niece the good-luck charm...

Never mind.

Still happy to meet tomorrow, what time shall we say?

Quick hello before I pick up B from tennis.

Tomorrow is fine for me too. Would 10 o'clock be too early? Am thinking I would do the school run, then come straight to Farnham. Can do later of course. What are our plans? Are we still meeting at the Packhouse, or would the centre of Farnham be better? I don't mind either way. All I know is they're forecasting it to be wetwhich is a shame.

if it's centre of Farnham I can be there by 10am - have to drop S at school first etc (I say that because I know my way around that bit of the town !) I usually meet friends outside Waitrose as the car park is there...

I really don't want to do the centre of Farnham because I honestly don't have a clue where I am going.
Have looked up the Packhouse and think I can just about manage that.
10 o'clock would be fine for me providing I don't get lost...

MAS, hold fire on the necklaces on my behalf, a minor accounting error means I have no money to spend until next month...
Argh!

it's ok, no necklaces coming anyway as chain isn't in stock..can send them on later if you'd still like them !
I am hoping I can find The PackHouse - will aim to get there at about 10 !
Hippi - do you not want any hearts either ?
Hotcross ?

hey - 20lbs !!!!!!

I would like one heart, and will pay in advance for one necklace (the one for my niece, orange cat on long chain) but will have to hold off the other two necklaces as I really am a bit broke But there is no rush on those two as little S and E's birthdays aren't until the winter.

The Packhouse is signposted from the A31 (brown tourist information signs) so am hoping that should be ok.
May be pushing it a bit for 10am but will try my best I get back from the school run at 9.15am so will hop straight into the car then.
My friend K told me the Packhouse is gorgeous and she is
She also told me to leave my cheque book and credit card at home....

will bring heart selection then !! don't pay me though for necklace - wait until I get the materials !

No worries

Yay! 20lbs is great

Yes I'd still like the hearts please MAS. And the necklace when it's ready, but absolutely no rush for it.

I'm worrying that The Packhouse is going to be a pain to find...Am happy to meet elsewhere - somewhere more obvious if that's easier. Also later than 10 is fine too... Or we could meet and travel in convoy somewhere....

I think it should be well signposted -dh says there are brown signs pointing to it

If either of you are travelling on the A31 then it should be easy to find, there are brown tourist signs to it from the A31 Runfold junction.
I have poured over maps and feel happy I can find it.
Whereas the centre of Farnham brings me out in a cold sweat. (will be fine for future meets so I have time to check the map etc)

Am in tears - have just really really shouted, bellowed, at E.
We have told her time and time again not to hang on furniture, stair gate, bannister rails etc.
Whilst I was feeding the dog she decided to hang on one of the kitchen shelves. It is a stainless steel one. She has bent it, bent the screws and fixings as well as the shelf itselt, and ripped it from the wall leaving a great big hole in the plaster. We only finished painting the kitchen 2 weeks ago. Am so so so so so cross (although part of my shouting was the sheer shock of everything tumbling down - cookbooks, tin of dog biscuits, recipe folder, etc)
I just shouted and growled at her and could not stop. Then marched her into the car, dropped O at Cubs, told her to stay in the car whilst I took him into the scouthut (normally she loves to come into the hut), arranged for a friend to drop O back home at 8.45 (because naughty girls are not allowed to stay up that late) and have sent her to bed.
Am not interested in speaking to her, am still fuming and shaking.
Feel very because my neighbour will have heard me hollering at E adn I am ashamed to admit some swearwords were uttered too [blush)
My throat is now sore from shouting and I have just realised doglet has not been fed yet either. Better go and do so.

(A31 Runfold junction if coming from Guildford as I am. Not sure where you are both coming from)

Phew, peace has been restored in the hippi household.
Doglet has been fed, E and I have talked, cuddled and kissed.
She is now in her room playing (even though she should be asleep, the little minx, but I am leaving her to it for another 10 minutes. I want her to go to sleep with happy thoughts and if that means allowing her to rearrange her playmobil so be it )
Have put filler in the holes. The shelf is so bent we may need to buy a new one (what with, monopoly money?) but at least E was not hurt.

yikes - sounds dramatic - sometimes you do just need to shout though !
So,meet at the Pack House - at 10 or thereabouts - what meeting place would be best ?

Oh bless. Poor E and how horrible for you I don't honestly think they believe us when we say don't do this because that might happen... maybe she will now though???!

I've had a horrid mixed feelings sort of night too, which I will bore you with tomorrow. And B is still awake, saying she can't sleep. at this rate I'll be asleep long before her!

Right, Packhouse it is. I've been before, so sort of know where I'm heading. I'll email my mobile no to you, just incase you don't still have it. That way, if you can't find us, at least you can find a phone box and be talked in!(am I right in thinking you don't have a mobile?)

Shall we say between 10-10:30? That way there isn't a time panic? I'll wait in my car when I get there, as it's so big inside it would be impossible to track you down. I drive a red Mondeo Estate...

How exciting! See you both in the morning

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